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RE: Deceitful sub advice needed - 6/19/2009 6:55:23 AM

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I'm sorry you're going through this, and it sounds like you are dealing with it with as much class and dignity as possible! I hope you find a much better partner in the future!

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RE: Deceitful sub advice needed - 6/19/2009 8:10:51 AM

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It seems what I said got you worked up!!!! Hmmm I was just wondering.

Don't flatter yourself. It would take more than your pathetic remarks to get me worked up.

True. I found it took quite some diligence to learn the art.

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RE: Deceitful sub advice needed - 6/19/2009 9:02:17 AM

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Righteous indignation. Not anger, because you are clearly over and above this situation.
Nicely handled.
IS there a list of dangerous or 'bad players'?
how about one on fakes? that would totally save a lot of time.
.. is there a thread on that, is it allowed here?

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RE: Deceitful sub advice needed - 6/19/2009 9:44:46 AM

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Nowhere on the site can you name names. People do and people get reported and such, but over here on the message boards... you get whacked a whole lot faster! You don't want a mod spanking... let me tell you. It is enough to make a grown up almost cry sometimes. You see that mod on who has viewed you... or a specially tricked out email and heart stop... damn I did it or I did it again, cringe... open the mail. If you are bad enough, they put a lil thing on all your post that says something to the effect... waiting for approval. If you are even worse... no one see's you for a long, long time. Sometimes it is as if alien's got them.

Those mod's mean business.

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RE: Deceitful sub advice needed - 6/21/2009 3:38:56 AM

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Ladies: I have a Sub that I have found pursuing another Mistress.

String him up and whip him to an inch of his life.... then stick him in a decent chastity device, lose the key and drop his sorry ass...

Serioulsy though, he is obvioulsy someone who cant be trusted and the very cornerston of all D/s relationships has to be trust.... if you're worried that he may change his tactics when chatting up Mistresses why on earth are you bothering with him?

Get rid and move on there are many more male submissives onthis planet that Mistresses find one that will treat you with the respect that you deserve.

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RE: Deceitful sub advice needed - 6/22/2009 11:01:23 AM

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Sadly, that happened to me recently. I simply told him that I knew about what he was doing and to get the f**k out. Wish I knew who the Domme was so I could inform her. Oh well, I'm sure she'll find out soon enough what his character is all about.
I don't know about you but it really makes it hard to trust again so I'm going to take it slow finding a new slave.

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RE: Deceitful sub advice needed - 6/22/2009 1:26:35 PM

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Well - that went as well as such a thing can I guess.

I contacted the other Mistress and got her to meet me to talk about it. I know I was mad, but she was fuming mad. I thought she wouldn't be able to hold her temper to not confront him and beat him immediately! Thankfully, she did. We played with him a little first: I told him I had family things and wouldn't need him for a few days, so he would take an invitation from her of course! Then she told him to do something that I hate and he knew it, (shave completely) and come over for play. She said he was trying to avoid it, (i bet) but she demanded it. Anyway, he did do it, but then when he got there she told him that his name and personal info came up on the National 'do not touch' list (something like that) for Subs. She said that she doesn't have the details YET, but he 'must have done something' and interrogated and demanded to know his past. Anyway, she told him to pound sand despite his denials of any wrong doing of any kind in his entire life; she trusts the list and it's members!

So then, I called him and demanded him , saying my plans changed and I needed some 'chores' done right away. When he was there, i told him to strip, i wanted to play with him first. Then i went off over his insolence and disrespect for shaving when he knew i specifically didn't like it. Went off like a crazy women and told him to get lost, and i always knew he had issues with obedience and character and doing as HE pleases etc.

So now he is begging her to know what 'the list' says about him & begging me for another chance because he was just mistaken and doesn't recall me saying that i hate the totally shaved thing. He was 'actually doing it thinking I would like it'.

I'm ignoring him. She is too, as far as I know.

There really should be a National database though. I really like that idea!

Thanks for everyone's imput. I'm going to slowly move on and eventually seek another. no rush though i think!

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RE: Deceitful sub advice needed - 6/22/2009 1:35:48 PM

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LOL... that is great! Now you can walk away knowing he is tormented over who is saying what about him and wondering how to save his ass. Don't you just love the excuses? lol I've done the two dominant investigations with a guy lying. Both grilling him... fun stuff and very comical! lol

I hope you feel much better now! I know I did! lol Cat mouse batting is fun!

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RE: Deceitful sub advice needed - 6/22/2009 1:56:51 PM

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Blimey. He must have a brain that feels like scrambled eggs right now.

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RE: Deceitful sub advice needed - 6/22/2009 6:47:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: lionesspsu

Ladies: I have a Sub that I have found pursuing another Mistress. I was quite clear before we began playing that I do not tolerate that without my permission (which would be rare) while we are playing. I do plan to drop him, since I demand loyalty and honesty above all else. What I wanted to hear thoughts about is whether I should tell him how I became aware of the deceit. On one hand, I think it would give him insight to 'be a better deceiver' with his next Mistress if I tell him where he went wrong. Would you tell him the how, or just the basics of why?

FYI: When I say pursuing, I don't mean chatting for conversation and casual friendship either.

I NEVER trusted that bastage!!!!!

(His eyes are too close together....a sure sign of criminal intent if you ask me).

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RE: Deceitful sub advice needed - 6/22/2009 6:56:37 PM

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Lockit: It is a great feeling. It consumed my thoughts and life for the last few days and I did not like that, but I needed to do it. That's the last of my time that he gets - well, other than the occasional amusing thought of him wondering about the "info" in "the database" about him. The other Mistress did say that based on his reaction; if there were such a database, he would probably be on there 50 times. he's way too worried for an innocent man.

Peon - I hope his brain is scrambled. Really, you would think that he would suspect a connection between the rapid events of the last few days. Guess not. Idiot!

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RE: Deceitful sub advice needed - 6/22/2009 7:06:48 PM

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You know, revenge really *is* a dish best served cold. I got mine on someone who stuck me with a very expensive dinner bill, claiming that he forgot his wallet. This was 17 years ago, and I still laugh about it. With any luck, you'll get the same kind of return on your revenge.

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RE: Deceitful sub advice needed - 6/23/2009 6:10:24 AM

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This was wonderfully funny. I appreciate you sharing it.

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RE: Deceitful sub advice needed - 6/23/2009 6:23:18 AM

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lioness, kudos to you for not doing anything until you confirmed it with your fellow Domme.

I'm gobsmacked that the idiot bought that there is a National Database of Naughty Subs. That plus his steadfast denial of wrongdoing... can I ask how old the twerp is? Just curious...

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RE: Deceitful sub advice needed - 6/23/2009 8:06:07 AM

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Good Gawd...I certainly HOPE there is no database of naughty subs!

Erm...there isn't, is there?....

Not that *I*, personally, would have anything much to worry about...

I'm just askin'...

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RE: Deceitful sub advice needed - 6/23/2009 8:13:10 AM

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It's ok, dear. I'm sure that Honey Master would never add you to such a list.

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RE: Deceitful sub advice needed - 6/23/2009 8:14:52 AM

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lioness, kudos to you for not doing anything until you confirmed it with your fellow Domme.

I'm gobsmacked that the idiot bought that there is a National Database of Naughty Subs. That plus his steadfast denial of wrongdoing... can I ask how old the twerp is? Just curious...

ACTually..........

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RE: Deceitful sub advice needed - 6/23/2009 8:29:23 AM

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Well, maybe not a National Database, but each site has a few known people to avoid, such as lobodomslavery! I'm sure you aren't on the list, though.

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RE: Deceitful sub advice needed - 1/5/2010 4:06:54 PM

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I HATE cheaters worse than anything, and there are already too many of them in the world, male female sub and dom and everything in-between. The best thing to do is whatever will make him feel punished for what he's done. For some that would be leaving them wondering by simply abruptly dropping him without explanation. Some might be more bothered by being called out and embarrassed. It all rests on your knowledge of his psychology.

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RE: Deceitful sub advice needed - 1/5/2010 4:15:01 PM

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Good Gawd...I certainly HOPE there is no database of naughty subs!

Servers (sorry!) only have so much memory space.

It kept crashing due to overly high numbers.

And that's only subbies from this site.

Looks at...well, all of you.

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