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ORIGINAL: IronBear

Welcome back CP you have indeed been missed. 

I've had cyber relationships some of which were part of role playing too.. It does have it's uses as long as it is not used instead of hands on (the other party and not yourself) lol.

A few years ago I was having cyber sex with one girl whilst another was in reality giving me jolly good head. My cyber partner was also watching the performance on the webcam at the time. I very interesting threesome..

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Welcome back CP you have indeed been missed.

I've had cyber relationships some of which were part of role playing too.. It does have it's uses as long as it is not used instead of hands on (the other party and not yourself) lol.

A few years ago I was having cyber sex with one girl whilst another was in reality giving me jolly good head. My cyber partner was also watching the performance on the webcam at the time. I very interesting threesome..

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ORIGINAL: nevergrowdup

I used to cyber, but I couldn't get, uh, a happy ending from it.  Some of it is because, well, my hands are busy typing.  But even if they were free, sitting down in front of a computer is not a conducive way to get me there.  All that said, I'm not all about the big O ... and cyber can be fun just because it's a creative process and I can be pretty good at it.  (If there's a little role play, I must say I give an excellent cyber blow job.)  The trick seems to be (1) the right mood (as I have to like the person) and (2) finding a cyber partner with some skills.  Some are slow typists.  Some stop typing because their hands are otherwise occupied ... and then I don't see how they are reacting.  About 10% of the time it's great.  The other times, not so much.

Sad to admit this, but sometimes when I need an ego boost I'll do it for validation.  People seem to appreciate my skills, and sometimes I need to feel worthwhile.

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I used to cyber, but I couldn't get, uh, a happy ending from it. Some of it is because, well, my hands are busy typing. But even if they were free, sitting down in front of a computer is not a conducive way to get me there. All that said, I'm not all about the big O ... and cyber can be fun just because it's a creative process and I can be pretty good at it. (If there's a little role play, I must say I give an excellent cyber blow job.) The trick seems to be (1) the right mood (as I have to like the person) and (2) finding a cyber partner with some skills. Some are slow typists. Some stop typing because their hands are otherwise occupied ... and then I don't see how they are reacting. About 10% of the time it's great. The other times, not so much.

Sad to admit this, but sometimes when I need an ego boost I'll do it for validation. People seem to appreciate my skills, and sometimes I need to feel worthwhile.

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ORIGINAL: marie2

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince


marie,

Not to argue, but if you had asignificant other that decided that he/she wanted to interact on a cyber bassis, you would say NO?

CP

I don't see discussion and questions as argumentative.  I would be happy to answer.

I think it all depends...If I knew the person in realtime and for some reason we had to do some of our communicating/interacting in cyber land, no this wouldn't be a problem for me at all.  It's no different than talking on the phone etc.   But if you mean cyber sex....Yes, this would be a problem for me, as I would feel weird....I would not do good with cyber sex.  I feel just as odd with phone sex, which by the way I have tried in the past, and it just doesn't work for me.  This is not to put others down who enjoy this type of thing, I'm just saying it doesn't work for me.

On the other hand...I've had friendships that only existed in cyber but that's different to me than having a relationship with a significant other that existed ONLY in cyber.  Again, I see nothing wrong with these types of relationships, and I don't put one over the other (cyber vs realtime).  I think if you're (generic) looking for a cyber affair then having a cyber affair beats realtime.  And if you're looking for realtime in the flesh, then a cyber affair isn't going to be enough for you.  Again, it all comes down to what someone is happy/comfortable with.

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I don't see discussion and questions as argumentative. I would be happy to answer.

I think it all depends...If I knew the person in realtime and for some reason we had to do some of our communicating/interacting in cyber land, no this wouldn't be a problem for me at all. It's no different than talking on the phone etc. But if you mean cyber sex....Yes, this would be a problem for me, as I would feel weird....I would not do good with cyber sex. I feel just as odd with phone sex, which by the way I have tried in the past, and it just doesn't work for me. This is not to put others down who enjoy this type of thing, I'm just saying it doesn't work for me.

On the other hand...I've had friendships that only existed in cyber but that's different to me than having a relationship with a significant other that existed ONLY in cyber. Again, I see nothing wrong with these types of relationships, and I don't put one over the other (cyber vs realtime). I think if you're (generic) looking for a cyber affair then having a cyber affair beats realtime. And if you're looking for realtime in the flesh, then a cyber affair isn't going to be enough for you. Again, it all comes down to what someone is happy/comfortable with.

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ORIGINAL: antipode

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but those that can are fortunate as a fill in until realtime can happen.

That is not how cybersex is defined. Cybersex is instead of, i.e., having a fully online or otherwise remote relationship, in which the 60-to-70% of non-verbal communication that defines (scientifically) standard human interaction is fully absent. If you begin including variants like cyber-leading-to-real, or real-leading-to-cyber, or cyber-within-real, the conversation becomes entirely meaningless.

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That is not how cybersex is defined. Cybersex is instead of, i.e., having a fully online or otherwise remote relationship, in which the 60-to-70% of non-verbal communication that defines (scientifically) standard human interaction is fully absent. If you begin including variants like cyber-leading-to-real, or real-leading-to-cyber, or cyber-within-real, the conversation becomes entirely meaningless.

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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

FR

i'm a hedonist. Why not have it all?
i love messaging hot words. i love using a web cam and showing my tits, ass and shoes....yes shoes.
i love seeing a dom jack off. i love hearing a dom jack off...telephone sexual bdsm drives a girl like me wild. sticking needles in for him, writing erotica and sending and receiving mail. i'll take the telephone to the toilet if he's wanting to train me there.
Such prudes...is this a Homes and Gardens site or wtf?

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FR

i'm a hedonist. Why not have it all?
i love messaging hot words. i love using a web cam and showing my tits, ass and shoes....yes shoes.
i love seeing a dom jack off. i love hearing a dom jack off...telephone sexual bdsm drives a girl like me wild. sticking needles in for him, writing erotica and sending and receiving mail. i'll take the telephone to the toilet if he's wanting to train me there.
Such prudes...is this a Homes and Gardens site or wtf?


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ORIGINAL: peppermint

There is nothing wrong with cyber relationships.  As others have said I have many friends I have never met face to face.  We still share birthday cards.  We cry on each others' shoulders in times of sadness.  The internet is a new way of communicating with others.  On Collarme when a Dom and sub are having problems everyone always tells them to communicate.  It doesn't matter that the internet is a fairly new way of communication.  It does the job.  It works. 

I had a cyber D/s relationship.  It worked quite well.  At the time I could not do face to face for personal reasons.  I found support online.  He helped me when I thought my world was caving in.  He provided structure in my life.  When he was no longer needed, he left.  Yes it hurt when he left.  As I had been told, a cyber relationship is as real as our minds will let it be, and hurts just as much as a real time relationship when it ends. 

Welcome Back, CP, Sir!!!  I was wondering where you had gone.  Good to see your pixels posting again.  Did you see that the old haunt is now closed?  I went there one day to do my several times a year peek, and it was all gone...all the posts, all the pictures, all the conference notes.  It made me sad.  It's where my journey started and my first tentative questions were asked. 

pepper,

Huggs to you girl, It is so nice to see one from the old haunts from CS that predates here on CM. Indeed the handwriting was on the wall back in 2003 when CS started closing and consolidating forums in order to save bandwidth; but the real clues came when Net Scape [CS] could not keep up with internet changes and the modifications necessary to reach certain sites. That CS is still in business is the big surprise to me.

Your second paragraph I think sums it up very well, a cyber relationship is as real as our minds will let it be..

Thanks for your comments.

CP

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There is nothing wrong with cyber relationships. As others have said I have many friends I have never met face to face. We still share birthday cards. We cry on each others' shoulders in times of sadness. The internet is a new way of communicating with others. On Collarme when a Dom and sub are having problems everyone always tells them to communicate. It doesn't matter that the internet is a fairly new way of communication. It does the job. It works.

I had a cyber D/s relationship. It worked quite well. At the time I could not do face to face for personal reasons. I found support online. He helped me when I thought my world was caving in. He provided structure in my life. When he was no longer needed, he left. Yes it hurt when he left. As I had been told, a cyber relationship is as real as our minds will let it be, and hurts just as much as a real time relationship when it ends.

Welcome Back, CP, Sir!!! I was wondering where you had gone. Good to see your pixels posting again. Did you see that the old haunt is now closed? I went there one day to do my several times a year peek, and it was all gone...all the posts, all the pictures, all the conference notes. It made me sad. It's where my journey started and my first tentative questions were asked.

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince
Your second paragraph I think sums it up very well, a cyber relationship is as real as our minds will let it be.

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ORIGINAL: marysdream

Well as i have posted many times on this subject...i am absolutely against cyber! most of us if honest would admit we have tried this..like you stated some are perfectly happy with establishing and maintaining a cyber relationship which usually involves intense intimacy..and for the most part the parties involved are partaking in this because they have no intention of seeking real time...they are insecure...and live in a fantasy world behind the keyboard! i am old enough to know a world outside technology where folks had to meet in person, and be honest because they were face to face!
i have many on here that the first thing they chat about is their desires sexually..this is an indicator of where this persons mindset is..hell they dont even know my name and talk about sexual deatils all under the ospice of i am a D and you are a sub so submitt to me ...lol even though site unseen besides often a questionable pic!
It may piss others off on here that engage in this but i would never have a friend , much less a potential mate ..that would consider cybering as a viable resource in a relationship!
so good luck to all you cyber folks!
ree!  

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Well as i have posted many times on this subject...i am absolutely against cyber! most of us if honest would admit we have tried this..like you stated some are perfectly happy with establishing and maintaining a cyber relationship which usually involves intense intimacy..and for the most part the parties involved are partaking in this because they have no intention of seeking real time...they are insecure...and live in a fantasy world behind the keyboard! i am old enough to know a world outside technology where folks had to meet in person, and be honest because they were face to face!
i have many on here that the first thing they chat about is their desires sexually..this is an indicator of where this persons mindset is..hell they dont even know my name and talk about sexual deatils all under the ospice of i am a D and you are a sub so submitt to me ...lol even though site unseen besides often a questionable pic!
It may piss others off on here that engage in this but i would never have a friend , much less a potential mate ..that would consider cybering as a viable resource in a relationship!
so good luck to all you cyber folks!
ree!

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince


Prinsexx,

Roars; now that is candor!

CP

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ORIGINAL: oceanwinds

I have never had a cyber relationship, nor have plans to do so. I have met people who have and some it worked and some it didn't. There is no reason for me to make a case for or against cyber.

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ORIGINAL: Maxwell67

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ORIGINAL: oceanwinds

I have never had a cyber relationship, nor have plans to do so. I have met people who have and some it worked and some it didn't. There is no reason for me to make a case for or against cyber.

Though I am not keen on derailing threads, I am going to do it anyway.. or at least make an off-topic comment...

I find these types of posts to threads terribly interesting in one particular respect.. here is a comment that is made specifically to say "no comment."  So why not simply refrain from commenting?  Might be worth some self-examination.  Jus' sayin.