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Leonidas -> RE: sexual deprivation (7/27/2009 12:29:13 PM)

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ORIGINAL: rednicky

Once I enter a relationship, I want to deprive a Dominant male of having sex with me, for this is my delight. Sexual deprivation gives me a sense of power, especially when depriving someone of something who feels he is entitled to it. And a loooot of Doms, once in a relationship, feel they are entitled to have sex with their subs whenever they want. And there is nothing wrong with that. IMO, that's how it should work. I mean they 'are' the Doms. But in the case I'm presenting to you, I am one who chooses to deny him this 'right', stripping him of his power.



There is a name for that kind of woman.  They're generally referred to as "wives".



daintydimples -> RE: sexual deprivation (7/27/2009 12:35:01 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Leonidas

There is a name for that kind of woman.  They're generally referred to as "wives".


Now Now....



ThatDamnedPanda -> RE: sexual deprivation (7/27/2009 12:36:14 PM)

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ORIGINAL: rednicky


I think you missed it. It's not necessarily the act of animalistic behavior I see (though it's a big part of it). It's stripping a man 'with' power 'of' his power, thus bringing out that demanding side of him. That's why it has to be a Dom. This is something that can't be faked in role play and I've already decided not to manipulate it out of him. So how do I get it?


You can't. Because you can't have it both ways. No matter how many times you ask.



ranja -> RE: sexual deprivation (7/27/2009 12:47:23 PM)

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ORIGINAL: rednicky

I think you missed it. It's not necessarily the act of animalistic behavior I see (though it's a big part of it). It's stripping a man 'with' power 'of' his power, thus bringing out that demanding side of him. That's why it has to be a Dom. This is something that can't be faked in role play and I've already decided not to manipulate it out of him. So how do I get it?


The reason the man is 'stripped' of his power is (if i read you right) because he desires you so that he looses his self control and takes you in a haze of passion... and you feel you have driven this man to it... or is it more important that the man feels like this without you really doing anything... so he just lusts after you because... you are the most desirable princess or hot lil bit of ass on earth... do you need this man to be rather strong and ritch and handsome aswell?

Or the man is cool as a cucumber and totally remains aloof and in control until you are reduced to a blubbering mess begging him to take you... i suppose the man is still very strong and handsome... will he take pity and actually take you or will he walk away aloofly and leave you to blubber in the dust?

Just masturbate to these scenarios they are good wanking material, most girls have had fantasies of the like i recon... i certainly went through a few
Also you should realise that you do not need this to get off in real life aswell, you can actually reach orgasms without these exact requirements if you open yourself up a bit.

Have you actually ever been in love with someone who loved you back?




ThatDamnedPanda -> RE: sexual deprivation (7/27/2009 12:50:23 PM)

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ORIGINAL: rednicky
when I said "figure it out" I mean how they seem to know how a healthy, enjoyable relationship works. That's what 'I' am trying to figure out and that's what all these other subs seem to have already figured out.


One thing that every healthy, enjoyable relationship has in common is that they are made up of healthy people. I'm sorry, but there's something about your emotional development that is not healthy. Until you figure out what that is and do what you need to do to get it fixed, you'll never be able to figure out what they've figured out. It's just not possible. Work on yourself first, and then the relationships will fall into place.



rednicky -> RE: sexual deprivation (7/27/2009 12:54:00 PM)


you can actually reach orgasms without these exact requirements if you open yourself up a bit.




Have you actually ever been in love with someone who loved you back?




How? And no.



tazzygirl -> RE: sexual deprivation (7/27/2009 1:16:13 PM)

its called an imagination and masturbation.

my suggestion is to find a male switch. i dont see a Dominant male giving up control... and i dont see a submissive male fullfilling the dom role you demand.

then you can hope and pray they can read your mind and know exactly what to give you, cus, honey, you dont know what you want youself.



ranja -> RE: sexual deprivation (7/27/2009 1:30:09 PM)

Rednicky just wank girl, wank and read and watch porn you'll get some more ideas... and if you do have sex with a bloke just tell him that it is unlikely that you will reach orgasm but that it is not a problem... and then the very most important bit is that you are honest and have fun... without fun is is all a big waste of time.

As long as you are in an unequal love situation i e you love him but he does not love you back or the otherway around it is most likely not going to be the bestest sex... you have to keep that in mind...  it might still be nice and exciting but it is not going to be the best.

you are only young... you have to be patient... some people twice your age have not been fortunate enough to be loved and loved back just the same... if you open yourself up and be honest and happy you have most chance to attract your lover

goodluck



xXsoumisXx -> RE: sexual deprivation (7/27/2009 1:32:24 PM)

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ORIGINAL: rednicky

Once I enter a relationship, I want to deprive a Dominant male of having sex with me, for this is my delight. Sexual deprivation gives me a sense of power, especially when depriving someone of something who feels he is entitled to it. And a loooot of Doms, once in a relationship, feel they are entitled to have sex with their subs whenever they want. And there is nothing wrong with that. IMO, that's how it should work. I mean they 'are' the Doms. But in the case I'm presenting to you, I am one who chooses to deny him this 'right', stripping him of his power.


Reminiscent of Anne Boleyn.   [;)]  



rednicky -> RE: sexual deprivation (7/27/2009 1:34:04 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ranja

Rednicky just wank girl, wank and read and watch porn you'll get some more ideas... and if you do have sex with a bloke just tell him that it is unlikely that you will reach orgasm but that it is not a problem... and then the very most important bit is that you are honest and have fun... without fun is is all a big waste of time.

As long as you are in an unequal love situation i e you love him but he does not love you back or the otherway around it is most likely not going to be the bestest sex... you have to keep that in mind...  it might still be nice and exciting but it is not going to be the best.

you are only young... you have to be patient... some people twice your age have not been fortunate enough to be loved and loved back just the same... if you open yourself up and be honest and happy you have most chance to attract your lover

goodluck


I guess...



rideemwet -> RE: sexual deprivation (7/27/2009 2:05:06 PM)

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.. who has lost one of a Dom's most valuable qualities - self-control.


And in the process there's no guarantee that you'll get what you want - after all, who's to say in loosing self control he sexually rapes you instead of just uncontrolled beating you?     Who's responsible for the safety in this situation?

If you really want a rape fantasy, you might even consider finding a Dom who will select appropriate "rapists" so you don't have to directly discuss it and still keep some element of unknown for you?



Leonidas -> RE: sexual deprivation (7/27/2009 2:34:58 PM)

FFS, folks, I'm sure someone has realized by now that she's just describing a rape fantasy.  She's just going the long way around the barn to do it.  She wants to play the haughty little hard to get girl until she's thrown down and taken.

That'll last a week or two, and then she'll start the process of figuring out what she really wants.



tazzygirl -> RE: sexual deprivation (7/27/2009 2:44:33 PM)

then can i play the willing slutling eager to be tossed down and be taken like a beast in heat? please??

wait, thats not playing for me [:D]



tammystarm -> RE: sexual deprivation (7/27/2009 2:57:15 PM)

i think i read somewhere that fantasy rape was the number 1 fantasy with women. anyone know is that is right?



littlewonder -> RE: sexual deprivation (7/27/2009 3:13:34 PM)

Seriously...after reading this post you made and all the previous ones you've posted..you seriously need some deep therapy.

I hope that you will get some and stick to it because if you don't I'm afraid you'll end up either dead, a recluse from society, someone absolutely no one wants to be around because they'll find you insane or dangerous or in a mental ward...so for your sake and the sake of anyone you call a friend or family...seek help..now.

I can only hope this is some kind of phase you're going through.



DomImus -> RE: sexual deprivation (7/27/2009 3:31:50 PM)

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ORIGINAL: rednicky
Imagine a girl who is the greatest thing to be around but simply said she wants to hold off on the intimacy and sex talk until she's more comfortable.


If that is what you were doing it would be fine. No crime in wanting to wait until you are comfortable. You OP isn't about someone wanting to take their time. It's about someone wanting to manipulate the situation and you know this... that's why you are now trying to spin it in a slightly different light in response to the responses. As far as your father's opinion on 'empty sex' - that's one man's opinion. You might be surprised at the attraction some people have to 'empty sex' that does not have all of the emotional baggage attached to it that he says is so important.



sweetsub1957 -> RE: sexual deprivation (7/27/2009 4:11:06 PM)

After I read the OP, the words that come to my mind are manipulative bitch, cocktease, game-player.  Certainly not sub or slave.  This isn't an excuse for rape, but have you ever REALLY thought about, if you push someone hard enough you might just get raped for REAL?  Real rape is NOT like a rape fantasy.  Real rape happens when you DON'T want it to & it can damn well hurt.....a LOT.  You can get injuries from it, and also P.T.S.D. that will last a lifetime.  I honestly wonder how many, or few, real rape victims/survivors have rape fantasies.  What will you do if he really rapes you?  Go cry rape after you played with his head about it?  I call bullshit on what you're suggesting.  Rape fantasies are one thing, but playing with someone's head like you're suggesting?  I just think that is f*cked up.

~edited to insert a word I missed~



CreativeDominant -> RE: sexual deprivation (7/27/2009 4:13:29 PM)

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ORIGINAL: rednicky


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ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4

Rednicky,

You can have a D/s relationship where you don't have to manipulate somebody into taking you by force. You are not the only submissive that is into being taken and ravished with a passion. There are Doms out there that are into this, and it's all not some scene play either.

Two things have been ruled out on this thread so far.

1. Manipulating A Dom into it
2. Scene rape play ain't cutting it for you.

So you need to find something in the middle, somebody that is reasonably sane and likes to take girls by force and have his way with 'em without trying to act it out as a scene. Somebody you don't have to manipulate into doing it either.

Manipulation is damning to all relationships, especially D/s ones. The Scene play attempts you've made have been Lamo for you. Think this sums it up.

Find somebody reasonably sane that's a Dom who is into this as well. A Dom that wants to Take a submissive by force, where it's sort of rape but not really rape because you consent to this as part of the relationship. Where you don't have to stage a special Lamo rape scene that just does not cut it for you. Sound like you are wanting is "Animalistic Sex" if you ask me.

This is just something to explore in your thoughts. Does not damage D/s, both parties are into it and it's not a staged scene. So yeah, this is what I would consider healthy at least within the parameters of things so far.



I think you missed it. It's not necessarily the act of animalistic behavior I see (though it's a big part of it). It's stripping a man 'with' power 'of' his power, thus bringing out that demanding side of him. That's why it has to be a Dom. This is something that can't be faked in role play and I've already decided not to manipulate it out of him. So how do I get it?
So, when it comes down to it, you want to emasculate him...de-ball him...take away what lends to the definition of dominance (and of many vanilla men)...build his anxiety, frustration, loss of control until he snaps and "forces" you.  This, despite all your claims to the contrary of deciding to give up manipulation and of not wanting to try and dominate a dominant IS exactly that...manipulation and gaining dominance over a dominant.  But to what point?  To prove you can?  To prove that he is not the man and/or the dominant he thought he was?  That you indeed have all the control and more patience than he does?
You've been given good ways to get around this honestly, rednicky and yet you keep coming back to the deprivation of the dominant's power.  Perhaps you do need some therapy if you cannot begin to see that your way is not going to happen with a (and God I hate to use this term but it fits here)"true" dominant and in fact, with any rational and reasoning man.



DavanKael -> RE: sexual deprivation (7/27/2009 11:14:48 PM)

red nicky, I've noticed the common thread of the recommendation of therapy on every thread of yours that I've visited.  Perhaps it's time to give that suggestion a bit more consideration. 

tammystarm, I believe it's either the top or second most common female fantasy. 

I will give you one thing, nicky, you're consistent.  Alas, you consistently don't 'get' it but consistent none-the-less. 

  Davan



ranja -> RE: sexual deprivation (7/28/2009 2:39:43 AM)

Rednicky...if you feel you need some therapy, by all means go and see a shrink or somebody but i think you are fine...just a bit ignorant and young, and there is nothing whatsoever wrong with that, all people have been young and ingnorant once and most managed just fine without the meddling of shrinks...

Just relax a bit girl, your man will come along eventually, there is some really good men about you will meet one or even a good few, just be patient.



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