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LookieNoNookie -> RE: sexual deprivation (7/29/2009 4:18:09 PM)
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ORIGINAL: rednicky
Once I enter a relationship, I want to deprive a Dominant male of having sex with me, for this is my delight. Sexual deprivation gives me a sense of power, especially when depriving someone of something who feels he is entitled to it. And a loooot of Doms, once in a relationship, feel they are entitled to have sex with their subs whenever they want. And there is nothing wrong with that. IMO, that's how it should work. I mean they 'are' the Doms. But in the case I'm presenting to you, I am one who chooses to deny him this 'right', stripping him of his power.
But this does not mean I am a Domme. I don't want to take the power away from male sub because, by submitting to me, he's already agreed to give up his power unto me. That's no fun and that grants me absolutely no power. I want to take the power away from someone who feels he should be the one in control, and I want to leave him frustrated and confused. Frustrated enough to have my lack of interest in sex virtually ruin his whole day but not frustrated enough to end the relationship, which would otherwise be perfect were I willing to give up some sex.
I wouldn't just flat out tell my Dom "No sex for you". No man in his right mind would really enter a relationship knowing that there would be almost no intimacy. But I'd avoid sexual things that men usually use to initiate sexual moods. We wouldn't even so much as talk about sex. I'd be more interested in what his favorite foods were or if he likes this show. For example, when we'd go out we'd have a lot of fun, but I wouldn't flirt or give him sexy stairs. I wouldn't kiss him or hold his hand. I wouldn't go over to his place after a certain hour. A lot of sex happens at night. Especially first time sex between couples. So I'd make sure I'm home by 6:30. If he asked me about it, I'd shrug and simply say "I just like to take things slow". He'd understand that until I keep things 'slow' for about 3 months without so much as a long embrace. He can't really address it sense it might translate into him pressuring me. Especially if he had already asked me earlier in the relationship and I had already told him "I like to take things slow". So where does that leave him? And it's pretty hard to Dom when no sex or intimacy is involved.
Guys, I'm actually curious to know what you'd do if you did find someone who was great to be around but, without actually saying so, allowed no intimacy at all. I divorced her. We all know that you upstanding Doms would let the sub go at her own pace once a relationship is established so that she's comfortable and doesn't feel pressured. But what if this period lasted 4 months without even a single hint of desire for sexual activity on her end? What would you do? Better yet, is there a proper term for what I am describing (no, not cock tease)? Are there others out there who do this?
The very idea of all of this really gets me going and I want to get a Dom so frustrated and annoyed that he sort of 'snaps' forgets about initiation and just takes what he wants (almost like rape). I feel like that would be the best sex ever. Angry, unforgiving, "I gotta have it, you tease" sex. I just want to know if I'm alone in all of this. I've heard of Dominants depriving sex from submission and I've heard of mutual deprivation (sexless marriages?). But I want to ind out more about 'this'. At one time I was simply telling potential suitors that I wanted rough, monkey sex that resembled rape. But that wouldn't be genuine. It'd be a show. He'd know what I'd want and he'd give it to me. I'm looking for pure animalistic behavior that drives men to such a thing as rape, but within a budding relationship. I want him to really not be able to help it. Not to simply want to fulfill my fantasy. I wanna see what tips a guy over the edge the causes his desires take control, whether his partner likes it or not.
I didn't mean to write a Novella on this but I am quite curious and wanted to be as clear as possible. maybe I might find others like me.
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