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candystripper -> RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? (2/27/2006 12:57:38 AM)
quote: What I find attractive does not necessarily mean what is conventionally attractive. I don't have a 'type' (well, not visually, anyway). In fact I have had people rather cruelly suggest I have no taste in men when as far as I'm concerned I'm holding hands with Hercules. PenelopePitStop What a lovely way to express it; i feel the same way. candystripper

Guilty1974 -> RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? (2/27/2006 1:29:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: stonefemmie i am a lesbian, therefore i don't do men. i see that as a preference. That makes sense, especially since your profile says you're only seeking dominant women. However, there's also loads of profiles that mention not willing to repsond to "men" by people who also say to be looking for "just friends". And that's where it becomes a judgment instead of preference. For these people say, I'm looking for friends, and men can't be friends. quote: i do not wish to be with a bi-sexual because should i get into a relationship with a female bi-sexual and she should feel the need to be with a man while W/we are together, this would mean that there would be a third party in O/our relationship. i am strictly a monogamous person, emotionally, sexually and in Play. This is a preference, not a judgement. You obviously assume that all bi-sexuals are incapable of having a monogamous relationship. I'd call that a judgement. Roel

knees2you -> RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? (2/27/2006 2:13:00 AM)
quote: MissToYou-- Personally to the Master, MissForYou.... At first blush I must say, you have my healing kisses to your ankle........ After that, I really don't want to know the why's or wherefore's of it's demise......I am pretty sure. Generally to you all, While I don't understand (and this is general) the notion of hiding yourself (and I do not advocate flaming Dungenesses either; unless they be Crabs) ... At some point, visual is one of the five senses, and if you are too scared for whatever personal hell of a reason; to provide a picture.....then you are a pass ..........ok, may pass up the next Enron.......I will live with it. Ron I Pretty much Agree. I have read Proflies without pics, but they tell You when You are replying to there Profile You must send a pic. Oh Boy![8\|] We choose where to live, yet suffer from lack of Bdsm? Sincerely, Ant[;)]

Prunesquallor -> RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? (2/27/2006 4:16:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: stonefemmie ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~* i am a lesbian, therefore i don't do men. i see that as a preference. i don't hate men or have any negative feelings about them. i simply prefer a womyn for a partner......those womyn who prefer men over womyn are not making any more of a judgement call than i am. And i hold no ill-will towards those womyn who prefer men; they are not better nor worse. Ok - hold that thought. Supposing you saw a interesting profile of someone called Shirley, and you didn't know the gender of the person concerned. Knowing that Shirley can sometimes be a male name, obviously you would prefer the person to be female. If they were male it would be the worst alternative, so far as you were concerned. That wouldn't mean that you necessarily thought that males were inferior.

MrDiscipline44 -> RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? (2/27/2006 10:12:16 AM)
It is rather funny that people will have preferences that exclude others and think it their choice and to hell with people that don't like it but then call fowl when other people have a preference that excludes them. Some people would call that being a hypocrite. Not all but some.

MasterOwnskitty -> RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? (2/27/2006 10:32:18 AM)
I prefer to see a picture of someone but if I don't, I can live without seeing one. I realize that some need to keep their anonymity and I respect that.

RavenMuse -> RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? (2/27/2006 11:31:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterOwnskitty I prefer to see a picture of someone but if I don't, I can live without seeing one. I realize that some need to keep their anonymity and I respect that. I normaly keep my search set to 'with photo', whilst I respect that some folks have reason to keep a low profile, I am quite open about what I am AND I'm looking for someone local. I don't shout it from the rooftops but I don't hide it either and I hae a preffrence for someone who also wouldn't need to hide it.

needs2learn -> RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? (2/27/2006 2:19:57 PM)
i have tried 4 times to put different pictures on my profile but for some reason they keep getting refused so I've given up. though i will send one if someone sends theirs to me so maybe some of you who only respond to profiles with photos are actually missing out. I wasnt trying to hide really

Petruchio -> RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? (2/27/2006 6:00:40 PM)
quote: No, i don't see my statements as being judgemental...... i am a lesbian, therefore i don't do men. i see that as a preference… womyn… womyn… womyn… womyn… womyn… womyn… I am perplexed, then. Whilst your words seem to say one thing, your profile and subtext say another. Personally, you sound intelligent and someone who would be enjoyable to converse with. However, you cut yourself off from at least half the human race with prejudicial statements. Your profile doesn't simply say you're a submissive lesbian, it says "i will NOT respond to any contacts by men, bi-sexuals or switches", rather a slap in the face, wouldn't you say? Then in your writing, you use the old-style feminist 'womyn'– four uses in the first paragraph alone– aping the early feminists who couldn't bear to allow the word 'men' to pass their lips. So you say one thing but your impression is quite another. Is that truly what you intend?

stonefemmie -> RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? (2/27/2006 6:23:21 PM)
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~* quote: ORIGINAL: Petruchio quote: No, i don't see my statements as being judgemental...... i am a lesbian, therefore i don't do men. i see that as a preference… womyn… womyn… womyn… womyn… womyn… womyn… I am perplexed, then. Whilst your words seem to say one thing, your profile and subtext say another. Personally, you sound intelligent and someone who would be enjoyable to converse with. However, you cut yourself off from at least half the human race with prejudicial statements. Your profile doesn't simply say you're a submissive lesbian, it says "i will NOT respond to any contacts by men, bi-sexuals or switches", rather a slap in the face, wouldn't you say? Then in your writing, you use the old-style feminist 'womyn'– four uses in the first paragraph alone– aping the early feminists who couldn't bear to allow the word 'men' to pass their lips. So you say one thing but your impression is quite another. Is that truly what you intend? Petruchio, this is a very good conversation You have generated.........however, for me to continue would derail this thread terribly. i have better Forum manners than that, which is my own personal interpretation of Forum manners and is not to be applied to amyone but myself. Y/your interpretation will vary.....or not. The question on this table is about profiles and photos.......not what i think or how i spell my words. If You, or anyone, should wish an answer to these questions, send me a message and W/we can discuss it off the Forum. Or perhaps someone would like to start a thread on the subject.......i'll be more than happy to go into detail on these questions in any or all of these venues........ With Thought, stonefemmie... edited to add color..... .

candystripper -> RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? (2/28/2006 9:51:48 AM)
quote: You obviously assume that all bi-sexuals are incapable of having a monogamous relationship. I'd call that a judgement. Guilty1974 She may be where i was, back down on the learning curve. And i never assumed anyone was incapable; i asked whether they'd be fulfilled. candystripper

Petruchio -> RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? (2/28/2006 10:47:05 PM)
stonefem, I certainly respect that you have a very gracious style.

BitaTruble -> RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? (2/28/2006 11:00:50 PM)
quote: No picture? Is this a Warning for Some? Pictures or not, makes no difference to me. I'm not looking for romance so physical attraction isn't part of the equation. I state clearly that I am married and collared and seeking friends only. Gender doesn't matter so anyone is free to write at any time and I answer all my email including the one-liners and HNG's. I'm allowed two emails with those who are just plain rude then I am to block per Himself's rule, however, I am allowed to treat the rude in any way I see fit although, generally, I'm firm but polite. I certainly wouldn't hold it against anyone not to offer forth a picture because of the very nature of WIITWD and the need for people to stay in the closet. That said, if you are looking to meet someone, they will need to know what you look like eventually, so might as well start with a picture even if it's emailed to just that person. There is risk and trust and if you're going to do everything online and not face to face, you'll have to take that risk sooner or later or it's all just a game for you anyway. Celeste

champagnewishes -> RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? (3/1/2006 12:27:52 AM)
quote: If you ever lose a job or a dream that meant a great deal to you because of this lifestlye, come back here and post about this topic again. You'll see things differently. It lost me the opportunity to have custody of my kids...thanks to my ex showing a judge my profile. And here i was naive enough to think it shouldn't matter... After having to defend my choice of lifestyle to a courtroom and losing, i no longer care if i am seen or not. It's funny, i rarely respond to profiles that have no pic...yet my last two Doms have been from this site and had no pic posted. I guess i admire those that can dazzle me with words over those with hair and a smile.

wetrope -> RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? (3/1/2006 1:31:41 PM)
It isnt a bad thing not to receive or provide a photo. It might have helped the first meeting but that is all. But then I dont do any cyber dom'g. It is in r/t that u actually have to take the plunge and have that first cup of coffee or dinner, no matter all the chatter uv heard, no matter all the fears and positive feedback u might have picked up in the on line flirt or just plain talking, whether here, emails, or messenger. I almost never provide a photo, and do not demand one in return. It is just so much more fun meeting someone, it is more thrilling not to know everything ahead of time.

knees2you -> RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? (3/1/2006 3:52:27 PM)
quote: i have tried 4 times to put different pictures on my profile but for some reason they keep getting refused so I've given up. though i will send one if someone sends theirs to me so maybe some of you who only respond to profiles with photos are actually missing out. I wasnt trying to hide really Isn't this what it's all about? I mean it's one thing to Hide Yourself because Your affraid of something happening to You, or someone finding out? But isn't it just better to say what is being said in this quote? quote: "Life is full of things, I'm not yet full of Life." Sincerely, Ant[;)]

wipmebeetme100 -> RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? (3/8/2006 10:15:57 AM)
quote: Was just looking at a profile without a picture and was wondering, does this send a Warning sign up right away? I have another profile here on collar me (journeyslave). I have attempted numerous times to add a pic. One was a pic of me with collar on....turned down because they do not allow anyone in bondage. ????? Another was a pic of me with a high heel shoe up to my mouth...turned down, no explanation given. I have submitted numerous others...none of them with exposed body parts, yet they are all turned down. peace, cathy

ownedgirlie -> RE: No picture is this a Warning for Some? (3/8/2006 1:03:44 PM)
Try your high school graduation picture - that should be safe [:D]

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