slaveluci
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ORIGINAL: Missokyst
Right on Nueva! Heck, even (and this seems like aftercare to me) luci says
*Master usually unties me (if He chose to bind me for that particular instance), removes the hood (if He choose to tie it on for this experience) and has me lie down on our bed next to Him. He holds me tightly and strokes my (sweaty) head and tells me what a "good girl" I was/am. Sometimes, I take a drink of something cold. I relax, melt into Him and, after a short while, take a shower*
Umm... well gosh... I read the aftercare thread too and that is what MOST people were saying is their aftercare! I didn't see many who went on about HOURS of care that the OP discusses. And even if they do, so what? Some dominants actually enjoy that part of recovery.
What I find as nonsense is believing that one way.. learned no doubt from net reading accounts of bdsm is IT and anything else is not the way it should be.
If the OP feels it is right for her to get up off the floor and make dinner for the guy in her life, fab, she has found a good match. But some people might want more. As long as both people are on board with that who cares if one sub needs to feel sublier than thou.
Ya know, I feel like I'm in "Bizarro World" here where everything is topsy-turvy and all one's words get twisted into the opposite of what they are to mean. I have been posting here quite a while and, in more than 3,000 posts, I have NEVER ONCE indicated that I believe in the mythical "one, true way" so many people speak of. I have NEVER ONCE spoken about how what others do in the way of aftercare, sexual activities, etc. is "wrong" and shouldn't be done if it's not the way I do it. NEVER. Thus, I'm very confused as to why in this little thread where I STILL didn't indicate any of those things, all of a sudden the open-minded way I've conducted myself in previously suddenly is given no recognition.
I NEVER said we do no aftercare. I simply said I don't necessarily need, want or require it ESPECIALLY at the levels some other people may or may not desire. For cripes sake, I didn't consider the grave importance of every single word I typed and so because I said "hours of loving aftercare," suddenly I'm a douche who thinks I'm the perfect slavey-slave because I hate aftercare.  - get a grip folks.
In addition, I have typed many posts here about how - no matter what the activity is and how un-domly some may consider it - if the dominant desires it, that's all that matters. Whether it be oral sex on their sub/slave, being the receiver during watersports or gasp! even aftercare, it's cool if that's what they want to do. My feelings still haven't changed and even though way too much is being read into what I wrote, you can believe me when I say I STILL feel those ways.
So, yeah, right on NuevaVida. I happen to respect her and her observations very much. Those of others who are just making what they want to out my comments and never once thinking back on the fact that I don't come here and preach some kind of "one true way" or try to tell others to do it the way I do - not so much respect there. I would respectfully request that you realize that your way isn't the only way either and back up and let a sister breathe. Ya misundersood
luci
< Message edited by slaveluci -- 9/12/2009 9:08:44 AM >
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RE: Has BDSM become "soft"? - 
, let me "explain" (not that I need to or that you care).............. 
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Also, I said I had never experienced sub drop and that I don't require hours of loving aftercare. I never said others do or that, if they do, they are wrong. How you got "snide" out of this or find fault with what I said about me, is beyond me. Definitely reading way too much negativity into my observations about myself.
.......luci
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