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ORIGINAL: VirginPotty

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When he touches me gently with those hands that can be so cruel I know I'm in the right place.

Very nicely put, ATJ.  I too have been thinking about this thread but more about the wording in my original post AND the other thread that led to this thread.  I'd like to publicly apologize for being so "judgemental". I read each & every response left here and as the majority said, "If that's what the Dom wants then who am I to call it "soft"

I'm being taught by an "old school Dom" who believes such acts toward a sub "soft" yet on the flip side does not deny me aftercare (holding me tight, spooning etc) but anything I need better be on the table beforehand (liquids, foods etc) because he has no intention of getting that for me and when I mentioned the "AfterCare" thread to him he started telling me how "soft" he thought BDSM has become..........thus a thread was born.

Again, my apologies for sounding judgemental.

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This thread comes after reading the "After Care" thread and all the posts from subs who get everything from cookies & hot chocolate to a meal after a 'session'. As I posted there, I was always taught that we are there to provide for the Dom's needs, their desires not to be molly-coddled after doing what we're supposed to do. I know after care is important but I'm thinking cuddling, kept warm and going to sleep, not the dom scurrying around, waiting on the sub hand & foot all in the name of preventing sub drop.

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VP,

A very candid observation; bravo!

CP

(in reply to VirginPotty)