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cillydom -> RE: One Dominants controversial thought on d/s (3/20/2006 6:22:58 PM)
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Changed for clarification of meaning
Respect and how it can ruin the d/s relationship. I know those are fighting words. For the dominant to extract his desires from his submissive he cant be overly concerned with displaying respect for her. After all if he’s to humiliate and objectify her, to show too much respect would only be a hindrance. This doesn’t mean he doesn’t respect her, he certainly should for her own accomplishments and for what he has made of her, I meant that, that respect shouldn’t prevent him from using her to fulfill his desires. She should know his respect and relish it. And through her deeds and service increase his respect for her. After all he’s going to use her in ways he would never try with women to whom he had to socially show respect. The submissive woman doesn’t want an overly hesitant dominant always afraid he’s hurting her feelings.
Her desire is “ grab me, slap me, throw me down and use me”. Not normally considered respectful behavior, but it’s a hell of a lot more fun. Respect she can get anywhere, raw use is what she craves from her man or why else is she there? Submission is the giving up of power and free will, and with that power goes the demand for respect. we Anything else is just playing at d/s. In a happy viable relationship the question of respect never comes up. Why should it after all both are getting out of the relationship what they need. The question of respect is a symptom of a troubled relationship. When reality is accepted for what it is then it can be incorporated into the relationship making it stronger.
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