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You are submissive yet refuse to address Dom as Sir in public.


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RE: You are a submissive in public refusing to address ... - 11/7/2009 12:44:51 PM   
thishereboi


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RE: You are a submissive in public refusing to address ... - 11/7/2009 12:47:48 PM   
Icarys


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ORIGINAL: blacklion

You are a submissive in public refusing to address your Master as Sir..
Thus you flip your submission on and off like a light "switch" <==as to avoid offending the public vs pleasing your master and showing him the respect you clearly think he deserves as you have agreed to meet his terms and or conditions. Yet at any moment will Sir or ma'am the check out clerk at the grocery store and or pharmacy.




I don't even call him sir or master in private. I call him by his first name. So why would I call him something different in public. If you need that title in order to feel respected then you are doing something wrong.

Way to try and make everyone who enjoys that in their life feel somehow smaller. Now you can get what you need.


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RE: You are a submissive in public refusing to address ... - 11/7/2009 12:49:00 PM   
XaviersXian


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I agreed.  We have kids.  No formal titles in public (or around the home when they are obviously present or within earshot) for us.

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RE: You are a submissive in public refusing to address ... - 11/7/2009 12:54:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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You are a submissive in public refusing to address your Master as Sir..
Thus you flip your submission on and off like a light "switch" <==as to avoid offending the public vs pleasing your master and showing him the respect you clearly think he deserves as you have agreed to meet his terms and or conditions. Yet at any moment will Sir or ma'am the check out clerk at the grocery store and or pharmacy.




I don't even call him sir or master in private. I call him by his first name. So why would I call him something different in public. If you need that title in order to feel respected then you are doing something wrong.

Way to try and make everyone who enjoys that in their life feel somehow smaller. Now you can get what you need.



Ummm that wasn't my intention. I got the impression from the op that he felt that something as simple as being called by a title would be sufficient enough to elicit all kinds of oohs and ahhs of pure dominance. I've been around here long enough that I'm pretty confident that most know I am not a judge on things like this.

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RE: You are a submissive in public refusing to address ... - 11/7/2009 12:55:30 PM   
BKSir


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Status: offline 		I'm really glad my pet doesn't have problems with things like this at all.  Hell, he even refers to me as sir when his grandma is around.  Her big concern is "Is he happy?"  He is, very much so, so, she's happy.  And she actually digs me. 

Admittedly, I was surprised when he did so the first few times, even telling him that, if isn't awkward to him, he doesn't have to, but, he's fine with it, anywhere around anyone.  It makes me extremely happy that he is that proud to be my pet.

Do I need that in my life?  No.  I'm used to being called a lot worse things than "sir".  Hell, half the time I think my name is "Goddamnit!"  But, he wishes to call me that, and I wish to call him Dear One, so I do.  If Joe Dingleberry at the store doesn't like it, he can walk the other way.  It's not like we're making out in the aisle, unlike him and his girlfriend.  (sorry, pet peeve of mine there)


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RE: You are a submissive in public refusing to address ... - 11/7/2009 12:56:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: blacklion

You are a submissive in public refusing to address your Master as Sir..
Thus you flip your submission on and off like a light "switch" <==as to avoid offending the public vs pleasing your master and showing him the respect you clearly think he deserves as you have agreed to meet his terms and or conditions. Yet at any moment will Sir or ma'am the check out clerk at the grocery store and or pharmacy.



I am?

I, personally, would find it strange to be addressed as, "Sir." 

As far as MY s-type calling me, "ma'am," in public?  I don't care.  My name works just fine.  Ma'am works fine.  It has been used in front of family and friends as well.  Over all, I prefer my name. 

This question does not make any sense to me.  Are they still in the getting to know you stage or not?  Because you also state that it has been agreed upon.  Did something happen to change things? 

I think that it sounds like making a mountain out of a molehill.  But that is just me. 

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RE: You are a submissive in public refusing to address ... - 11/7/2009 1:01:05 PM   
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Ummm that wasn't my intention. I got the impression from the op that he felt that something as simple as being called by a title would be sufficient enough to elicit all kinds of oohs and ahhs of pure dominance. I've been around here long enough that I'm pretty confident that most know I am not a judge on things like this.


I didn't get that at all from Him. I think you might have been digging a little.

What I did get from Him is that He's being intentionally troublesome. It doesn't bother me like it does some here. People can easily turn away if they don't like something yet they don't.


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RE: REwrite of the "Sir" question - 11/7/2009 1:03:45 PM   
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RE: You are a submissive in public refusing to address ... - 11/7/2009 1:07:04 PM   
Aileen1968


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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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Ummm that wasn't my intention. I got the impression from the op that he felt that something as simple as being called by a title would be sufficient enough to elicit all kinds of oohs and ahhs of pure dominance. I've been around here long enough that I'm pretty confident that most know I am not a judge on things like this.


I didn't get that at all from Him. I think you might have been digging a little.

What I did get from Him is that He's being intentionally troublesome. It doesn't bother me like it does some here. People can easily turn away if they don't like something yet they don't.



Well it's obvious he's trying to be controversial. My take was that it really doesn't matter what my dominant is called. Calling him master or sir, FOR ME, doesn't make him any more masterful or dominant. Everything he does and everything about him accomplishes that. Not a title.

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RE: You are a submissive in public refusing to address ... - 11/7/2009 1:07:24 PM   
DesFIP


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ORIGINAL: BKSir

I'm really glad my pet doesn't have problems with things like this at all.  Hell, he even refers to me as sir when his grandma is around.  Her big concern is "Is he happy?"  He is, very much so, so, she's happy.  And she actually digs me. 



That's fine. But my father's 82 and has dementia. He wouldn't understand and he would become worried and upset and we wouldn't be able to explain or calm him down. So why would I want such an outcome?

More importantly since The Man knows this would be the result, if he insisted on it that would demonstrate that he was insecure and didn't care about the health of an elderly man, nor about be since I would be worried about my father.

It isn't the sir or not, it's the fact that the op thinks if he's called sir then he's the greatest thing since sliced bread and that anyone who wouldn't do that, no matter what the circumstances are, is a fake wannabe do me.

As it happens I call him honey most of the time.

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RE: You are a submissive in public refusing to address ... - 11/7/2009 1:09:17 PM   
DemonKia


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Status: offline 		Actually, I'd wager that people like a trainwreck / troll-fest / flamewar way better than a 'serious thoughtful conversation' . . . . . Happens all the time 'round here; people post considerate, interesting questions that get 2 pages of reply. Trolls post ridiculous nonsense & 17 pages later . . . . .. .

lol

I was 'trained' to ignore the trollishly inclined in my previous forum experiences; this place is different than those other places . . . . . . For example, FetLife groups don't generally tolerate the trollish postings -- the delete button gets used by mods over there way way way more than here, in my admittedly limited experience . .. . .. Here, the 'regulars' tend to act more like they're batting around troll-mice, chewing on them, etc . . . . . .

I figure the OP likes the whole treatment, he keeps coming back for more . . . . .

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RE: You are a submissive in public refusing to address ... - 11/7/2009 1:18:03 PM   
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Well it's obvious he's trying to be controversial. My take was that it really doesn't matter what my dominant is called. Calling him master or sir, FOR ME, doesn't make him any more masterful or dominant. Everything he does and everything about him accomplishes that. Not a title.


Right.


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RE: You are a submissive in public refusing to address ... - 11/7/2009 1:23:09 PM   
Icarys


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Actually, I'd wager that people like a trainwreck / troll-fest / flamewar way better than a 'serious thoughtful conversation' . . . . . Happens all the time 'round here; people post considerate, interesting questions that get 2 pages of reply. Trolls post ridiculous nonsense & 17 pages later . . . . .. .

lol

I was 'trained' to ignore the trollishly inclined in my previous forum experiences; this place is different than those other places . . . . . . For example, FetLife groups don't generally tolerate the trollish postings -- the delete button gets used by mods over there way way way more than here, in my admittedly limited experience . .. . .. Here, the 'regulars' tend to act more like they're batting around troll-mice, chewing on them, etc . . . . . .

I figure the OP likes the whole treatment, he keeps coming back for more . . . . .


What's funny is that most people feed into it with all of the don't feed the troll stuff..Baiting them into what they do even more lol. People could choose not to make a response at all but they like the drama. Which is kinda funny even more....


They whine about the posting then condemn the poster..complain to the mod then miss him when he's gone cause the soaps are over..What fickle fuckers.

If you truly like the train wrecks then fuel the trains I say.


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RE: You are a submissive in public refusing to address ... - 11/7/2009 1:31:09 PM   
Icarys


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That's fine. But my father's 82 and has dementia. He wouldn't understand and he would become worried and upset and we wouldn't be able to explain or calm him down. So why would I want such an outcome?


Lord knows you come up with the some of the most doomsday scenario's to back up your point's I've ever seen. More power to you.


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RE: You are a submissive in public refusing to address ... - 11/7/2009 1:33:34 PM   
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RE: You are a submissive in public refusing to address ... - 11/7/2009 1:37:04 PM   
DemonKia


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Well, I'm on record as enjoying a good trainwreck, so . . . . . *shrugs*

& I've learned a lot from this particular forum on the handling of the trollishly inclined . . . . . . Personally, one of my favorite responses to a trollishly started thread is to cavort about on it, having fun, & mostly ignoring the OP . . . . . Yeah, their thread is alive but not necessarily providing the negative attention that they feel stuck with (apparently the trollishly inclined have difficulties garnering positive attention, & clearly they're not willing to settle for no attention, & thus negative attentions seems to be the only kind they can consistently reap thru their actions) . . . . . .

Second best, for me, is to discuss the trollish in clinical, detached, 3rd-person terms . . . . .

Those two choices are so satisfying . . . . . .

Of course, I mostly don't post here thinking I'm changing the world, or saving people's lives, or anything like that. I'm just here to have fun, socialize, hang out. Especially here in the Random Silliness forum . . . . . ..

Those who tilt at windmills 'round here may have a different experience . .. . . .


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RE: You are a submissive in public refusing to address ... - 11/7/2009 1:48:20 PM   
Icarys


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I've been called troll myself but I have a thick skin lol. I'm just here for discussion of topics which is my fun. I do that vigorously at times but that's me. I'm an outspoken passionately stubborn man. I'm sure people are filling you in. Not that I'm special..I just know how hens can chatter.


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RE: You are a submissive in public refusing to address ... - 11/7/2009 1:55:40 PM   
DemonKia


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Status: offline 		Huh. Your estimation of some hypothetical gossip circuit is way in excess of reality. Or, at least, my reality. & I like gossip, I love to hear dish about people.

My experience is that what I've highlighted below testifies to a certain, um, self-centeredness. To believe one is the subject of other people's thoughts & conversations.

So, just to be really clear. I got no idea who you are, nor do I really give a flying whatever. I was participating in a general conversation, initially, then replying to your posts directed at me . . . . . . .

The only 'secret gossipy convo' I'm participating in involves fluffypet & her upcoming surgery (& -- shocker -- she's part of that convo), but, hell, if anyone sends me any info about you, Icarys, I'll be sure to let ya know all about it. You go ahead & hold your breath, waiting fer that . . . . .

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Some people live on tilt.

I've been called troll myself but I have a thick skin lol. I'm just here for discussion of topics which is my fun. I do that vigorously at times but that's me. I'm an outspoken passionately stubborn man. I'm sure people are filling you in. Not that I'm special..I just know how hens can chatter.

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RE: You are a submissive in public refusing to address ... - 11/7/2009 1:57:48 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

we do not involve others in our kink...be it saying "Sir" in front of others, wearing a leash in public, or whatever.

The inanity of the way the thread is presented aside...

You don't "involve" others.

I, however, see this mentality as indicative of how dysfunctional someone's persona is to their own selves. This is the same sort of mentality that people use to say that allowing two gay men to kiss in public means allowing them to "impose/involve" their homosexuality ontous poor unwilling onlookers. It's silly.

If some people still feel awkward about embracing a part of their lives that is genuine and beautiful because they still feel its ugly and unbecoming inside, that is perfectly within their realm of choice however..



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RE: You are a submissive in public refusing to address ... - 11/7/2009 1:58:50 PM   
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, nor do I really give a flying whatever.
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