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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19


Frankly, I think its you who needs to apologize. And dont assume you have the right to dictate how someone answers. Also, dont speak about apologies to all contributers. You dont speak for us. Also, you may be dominant but you can not dictate when people should apologize or how they are to behave here.

This is RIGHT-ON! and i LOVE that pic lushy!

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ORIGINAL: breatheasone

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19


Frankly, I think its you who needs to apologize. And dont assume you have the right to dictate how someone answers. Also, dont speak about apologies to all contributers. You dont speak for us. Also, you may be dominant but you can not dictate when people should apologize or how they are to behave here.

This is RIGHT-ON! and i LOVE that pic lushy!

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ORIGINAL: Underumam

Where's the nazi thread police when we need them..lol.

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ORIGINAL: Underumam

Where's the thread police when we need them..lol.

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ORIGINAL: breatheasone

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ORIGINAL: Underumam

Where's the thread police when we need them..lol.

i saw them over at bountys coffee shop! But don't SQUEAL on me Underumam!

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

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ORIGINAL: Underumam

Where's the nazi thread police when we need them..lol.

Et tu Underumam?

- LA

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
What about you (or your dominant)? Do you bend or break or something in between or something completely different? And most importantly, why?

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

I'm curious about two very different approaches to dominance and all the variations in between. I'm not interested in judging which is better, but rather in understanding mindsets and motivations.

I bend. That means I'm adaptive. I don't have a set protocol or rules that boys must follow. In fact, the way in which I'll be dominant with someone will be highly affected by my submissive partner. What I like to do is get into their mind and shake things up in there. This doesn't mean that my partner doesn't have to adapt. But they will in reaction to the course of action I've decided on based on my analysis of how to best dominate them.

I know others who break. They have a very my way or the highway approach to being a dominant. They have a very strict set of requirements, rules, perhaps even rituals. A submissive partner either meets the requirements and conforms, or the deal is broken.

What about you (or your dominant)? Do you bend or break or something in between or something completely different? And most importantly, why?

- LA

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

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No thank you. I gave my opinion already about "breaking" . Once is enough.


please continue, the topic is interesting enough

I'm glad you think so. Jump in anytime, as long as you are on topic ;-)

- LA

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ORIGINAL: NorthernGent

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I guess perhaps because I take my time in selecting a boy who is less likely to push my negative buttons, they come out less often.

And that's about the size of it........fail to prepare; prepare to fail. You/I/anyone should really take the time to choose what's right for them. I personally prefer calm/reflective/introvert (though not necessarilyshy) people. Someone running round like a cat on hot coals and just saying the first thing that comes into their heads just isn't for me - like anything else in life conversation should be a matter of quality over quantity. For me it's a case a) what matters to me b) can I achieve these things with this person - whether or not it takes 'bending or breaking' doesn't really matter providing it's a person with whom I have common ground in terms of how we think.

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Now I suggest you give your dog some kibble as girls are less cute with missing arms ;-)

Oh I'm not in it for the cuteness.

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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

I guess based on the descriptor of 'my way or the highway' he falls into the category of 'break'. His has the authority in our family. He has extremely high expectations and a clear way on how he wants things done. That doesn't mean that he will not choose to change his behaviors in order to acheive the goal he has in mind, but there is no misunderstanding that as a submissive or slave in his life you will be doing the majority of the adapting and bending. If a person cannot be happy and fulfilled with the highway that he chooses to take then they shouldn't choose to be in a relationship with him.

Knight's Kyra

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ORIGINAL: Justme696

No problem..I accept the olive branch ( does it need lots of water? )
Thank you very much.

I do like the topic...and will keep following it.

lets continue and forget

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ORIGINAL: persephonee

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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

Well, i've served a lot of Dommes over the years, and i definitely prefer the "bend" type.

To me, D/s relationships are just like vanilla relationships; each one is different.  i've been with Dommes who seem to follow a very strict script regardless of who they are with.  i find that rather limiting.  It's like bringing baggage into the relationship.

i think this particular thought better expresses my problems i had with the person who had all the established protocols right from the start. It was as if the only important thing was to follow the very specific steps that person had in order to even approach....it was disconcerting to me and honestly caused the end of any meaningful interaction between us.
And it was all set up before i even came into the picture...it seemed to me, that the most important thing wasn't to get to know each other, but to memorize this and that protocol instead and that would define the success of the interaction.
i just couldnt hang. But i would have loved to get to know that person better.

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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

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ORIGINAL: persephonee

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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

Well, i've served a lot of Dommes over the years, and i definitely prefer the "bend" type.

To me, D/s relationships are just like vanilla relationships; each one is different.  i've been with Dommes who seem to follow a very strict script regardless of who they are with.  i find that rather limiting.  It's like bringing baggage into the relationship.

i think this particular thought better expresses my problems i had with the person who had all the established protocols right from the start. It was as if the only important thing was to follow the very specific steps that person had in order to even approach....it was disconcerting to me and honestly caused the end of any meaningful interaction between us.
And it was all set up before i even came into the picture...it seemed to me, that the most important thing wasn't to get to know each other, but to memorize this and that protocol instead and that would define the success of the interaction.
i just couldnt hang. But i would have loved to get to know that person better.

That's how i've always felt when someone had a set of rigid rules that were pre-defined before i ever entered the picture.  Sure, there should be "guidelines", but not rigidity.

To me, Doms/Dommes who do that are no different from vanilla lovers who follow the same script that worked in their last relationship. 

I'm sure some of you ladies have probably dated a guy who followed a sex script.  You know the type;
1) Kiss for 27.5 seconds.
2) Make way down to breast and kiss breast for 2.4 minutes.
3) Move to clit and lick for 1.6 minutes.
4) Do the "special" tongue maneuver.
5) Insert penis and engage in missionary style for 26 seconds.
6) Cum
7) Roll over and fall asleep.

He thinks that since this script worked on his last girlfriend, it will drive you wild too.  Only it doesn't.  Instead, it bores you silly.

Well that's what we subs feel like when a Dom/Domme uses the same script that they've used on all of their other subs, with no apparent acknowledgement of what makes us unique or special.