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RE: Dominance and Intelligence - 3/16/2010 11:59:09 AM   
vixenmoon


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Status: offline 		I'm with HisSweetElysium on this one.

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ORIGINAL: HisSweetElysium

intelligence is of vital importance. If someone can't keep up with me, how can they dominate me?  I firmly believe that the mind is the most significant erogenous zone and I need someone who can play on that level.  Additionally, I need to respect my Dom, and if I am significantly more intelligent, that's not going to happen.  I have to know He's capable of making the right decisions for us both, otherwise, I'll end up dominating the relationship, and not feeling safe.

 

He must be able to ... tame my own intellect with his own.  However, the ego regarding his intelligence shouldn't be too big.  There's nothing more annoying than someone who refuses to accept when they're wrong even when there is ample evidence to the contrary.

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RE: Dominance and Intelligence - 3/16/2010 7:32:13 PM   
InvisibleBlack


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quote:

ORIGINAL: vixenmoon

I'm with HisSweetElysium on this one.

quote:

ORIGINAL: HisSweetElysium

intelligence is of vital importance. If someone can't keep up with me, how can they dominate me?  I firmly believe that the mind is the most significant erogenous zone and I need someone who can play on that level.  Additionally, I need to respect my Dom, and if I am significantly more intelligent, that's not going to happen.  I have to know He's capable of making the right decisions for us both, otherwise, I'll end up dominating the relationship, and not feeling safe.

 

He must be able to ... tame my own intellect with his own.  However, the ego regarding his intelligence shouldn't be too big.  There's nothing more annoying than someone who refuses to accept when they're wrong even when there is ample evidence to the contrary.



Wrong? Wrong!? Evidence to the contrary!? Inconceivable!

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RE: Dominance and Intelligence - 3/16/2010 7:39:04 PM   
alhamdullilah


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Status: offline 		The most unappealing torment - I mean, NO masochistic benefit WHATSOEVER - is having to dumb down for a man. Yes, he has to be more intelligent. Abso-fricken-lutely. (If you say "abso-fricken-lutely" is that setting the bar too low?)

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RE: Dominance and Intelligence - 3/16/2010 9:06:26 PM   
jujubeeMB


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Status: offline 		Yes, he has to be smarter than me. I love letting go and purely obeying, but I love struggling just as much, and if I can outsmart someone, he can't keep me in the room

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RE: Dominance and Intelligence - 3/17/2010 1:39:40 AM   
myotherself


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Status: offline 		I need someone whose intelligence at least equals mine. I have a couple of degrees and I do 'hard sums' for fun (and for yet another degree in my spare time). I need a man who isn't threatened by this, who can still take natural control of both of us and who can understand and support me in my never-ending quest for knowledge

After many years of looking, I think I might just have found him...yay!!

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RE: Dominance and Intelligence - 3/17/2010 2:32:11 AM   
fadedshadow


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Status: offline 		i prefer someone with intelligence because it's something i respect. but i don't think anyone's smarter than i am =]

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RE: Dominance and Intelligence - 3/17/2010 10:01:12 AM   
vixenmoon


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BRAINZZZZZ!!!

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RE: Dominance and Intelligence - 3/17/2010 1:05:53 PM   
takemeforyourown


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Status: offline 		I can't imagine submitting myself to a dolt. Must he, however, be MORE intelligent than I am? No, but if he can't at least match me I wouldn't be able to take him seriously. Actually, I've never met a truly brilliant Dom. I might enjoy that...

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RE: Dominance and Intelligence - 3/18/2010 4:29:59 PM   
inserviouberfrau


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Status: offline 		hum...IQ isn't a great measurement of adults, but i doubt i'm going to find a Mistress with an IQ over 140...so, 125+ would be fine ._.

< Message edited by inserviouberfrau -- 3/18/2010 4:30:39 PM >

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RE: Dominance and Intelligence - 3/18/2010 4:35:49 PM   
osf


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Status: offline 		I'm glad Miss Cillie Goos is smarter than I am.

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RE: Dominance and Intelligence - 3/18/2010 6:24:54 PM   
sleepingbeauty2


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Status: offline 		Yes, it's an important thing for me for him to be as smart, if not smarter than I am.

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RE: Dominance and Intelligence - 3/18/2010 6:41:45 PM   
osf


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Status: offline 		no matter how smart he is, does he not also have to be consistent and what he says make sense and as I like to say have the answers waiting for your questions?

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RE: Dominance and Intelligence - 3/18/2010 7:44:04 PM   
sweetboundesire


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Status: offline 		I don't need a Dominant who is brilliant in every way yet I do find myself drawn to one who is more intelligent in areas I lack. No one can be wise in every area of life, we all have our short comings, even the strongest of us. What I admire are the gifts that seem to come fluidly for Him, which to me, take time or I completely lack. One of my great motivations is knowledge/learning. I am attracted to not only the similarities of what we have in common but the superior qualities He possesses which I may strive to understand and learn but most likely are so natural for him, that all I can do is learn, I will never be that. Something more along the lines of complimenting what I lack...and of course, intelligent...who submits to one you feel you are more clever than?

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RE: Dominance and Intelligence - 3/18/2010 9:47:11 PM   
DWCskitten


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i've read the first two pages of this thread & i'm answering since i have limited internet time allowed by Master Sir and need to get with it. i don't think a Master/Dom has to be a genius, but i prefer (and have) one with common sense Who is smart enough that i can have stimulating intellectual discourse with Him. i love stimulating conversation that will keep me on my toes & He's a retired engineer so He's pretty sharp.

~kitten~

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RE: Dominance and Intelligence - 3/18/2010 9:48:16 PM   
LanceHughes


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Status: offline 		I have never been beaten at chess since...... I don't know, probably 1970..... so, here comes current S.i.T. (Slave/Sub in Training - I'll let him know which he is when I decide. LOL!) with a beautiful, non-standard chess board on his coffee table.  "Wanna play, boy?"  "Yes, Sir."  He beat me four games straight.  We don't play chess any more.

On the other hand, I've always needed a self-aware boy with I.Q. somewhere near mine for all the reasons above - principally those that deal with non-boring conversations.

< Message edited by LanceHughes -- 3/18/2010 9:51:04 PM >

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RE: Dominance and Intelligence - 3/18/2010 9:49:22 PM   
domiguy


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Status: offline 		Has anyone admitted to being Dommed by an idiot yet?



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RE: Dominance and Intelligence - 3/18/2010 9:56:18 PM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		I think most of us were married at one time.

quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

Has anyone admitted to being Dommed by an idiot yet?




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RE: Dominance and Intelligence - 3/18/2010 9:56:30 PM   
DWCskitten


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quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

Has anyone admitted to being Dommed by an idiot yet?

hahaha Okay. i'll bite. i was early on in my bdsm experience & i was pretty stupid myself in those days. Didn't last long. hahaha When i woke up to my own stupidity and sub-frenzy, i just couldn't take it and had to leave the relationship. Since then i've smartened up immensely and needed to meet Someone of at least reasonable intelligence.

~kitten~

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RE: Dominance and Intelligence - 3/19/2010 6:29:31 AM   
sweetboundesire


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst

I think most of us were married at one time.

quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

Has anyone admitted to being Dommed by an idiot yet?







lmao! so true but he wasn't a Dom. not in the very tiniest of ways...thought he was the man but it turned out he thought I was going to be the man....lol ahhh yes...marriage, what an eye opener.

< Message edited by sweetboundesire -- 3/19/2010 6:30:54 AM >

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RE: Dominance and Intelligence - 3/19/2010 7:37:37 AM   
Smutmonger


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Status: offline 		At the same time-trying to dominate someone stupid is pretty much a waste of effort.

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