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Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/10/2009 7:21:08 AM

sweetsub1957

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Why would they do this? Does anyone have any ideas? I've had a lot of these letters coming to my Inbox and I wondered how many other female submissives have that happen. And they almost always start out saying they want to be friends and by the second or third letter, they want to be Dommed. The letters aren't from any of the male subs I see on the boards. It's not like there aren't any good Dommes here. There are lots of Them. You'd think they'd know they'll get nowhere with it. As soon as they start wanting Domming, I just block and delete them.

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/10/2009 7:26:01 AM

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Hello sweetsub.
I have ran into this for a while too. I chalk it up they don't read our profiles and just automatically send to any woman. The reason i drew this conclusion is many repeatly send the same structure cmail. For awhile my curiousity got me, but now they are automatically blocked, since i figured it out.

It's just hormones flairing and mass cmailing, nothing more then that.:)

I do hope you are doing well.
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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/10/2009 7:27:47 AM

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Thanks.

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/10/2009 7:28:53 AM

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Ive got something more amusing for you sweetsub....

Male Doms who message you and after a few exchanges ask you, the sub, to dom them the "dom"...

Its more of a Oh breathing thing with breasts, Must message, For me they will do "x" im that great.

< Message edited by hopelessfool -- 12/10/2009 7:31:15 AM >

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/10/2009 7:30:23 AM

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memo to self...

Go back and get sleep before posting to the boards... also self qoute and edit are two different buttons blondie...

< Message edited by hopelessfool -- 12/10/2009 7:31:02 AM >

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/10/2009 7:35:04 AM

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How about s-type of both sexes, wanting to join "Our Family" LMAO......When Our profile CLEARLY states We are monogamous.

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/10/2009 7:37:43 AM

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Or asking you to join their family, when your profile mentions you want monogamy, you want nothing to do with poly, and list it as a limit?

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/10/2009 7:48:09 AM

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I'm sure that most of them are fakes. But from this sub-male's perspective, it doesn't matter whether a female D or s does the Domming. One might be more experienced at it, but being bossed around by a woman- is being bossed around by a woman. Matter of fact, if I were Dom, I'd have one day set aside each month for role-reversal day just to keep things balanced..lol.

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/10/2009 7:55:38 AM

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I disagree, I hate the word... "fake" it implies theres a right way and wrong way, to some being Dom truly means being sub. To some sub means truly being dom...

However with many on the site if you are breathing, you are a perfect match for them... for some even if you arent breathing, but have the female form, your a perfect match.

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/10/2009 7:56:51 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Underumam

it doesn't matter whether a female D or s does the Domming. One might be more experienced at it, but being bossed around by a woman- is being bossed around by a woman.

lol Okay. Now it makes sense.

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ORIGINAL: hopelessfool

Ive got something more amusing for you sweetsub....

Male Doms who message you and after a few exchanges ask you, the sub, to dom them the "dom"...

Its more of a Oh breathing thing with breasts, Must message, For me they will do "x" im that great.

Oh yes. I've experienced those letters too. lol

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/10/2009 7:58:04 AM

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I think also it is a way for them to try and manipulate/dominate, a woman into being the actress they want.

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/10/2009 7:58:52 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: hopelessfool

Or asking you to join their family, when your profile mentions you want monogamy, you want nothing to do with poly, and list it as a limit?

We have a couples profile, and Master stated pretty clearly We are monogamous. s-types send emails asking to join Us. Hope this clears up what i was trying to say in my initial reply/post. i am sorry i was vague.

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/10/2009 8:00:04 AM

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In otherwords, LaT, those "subs" are starting to feel their oats and get Toppy. haha Well, good luck. Manipulative subs.....

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/10/2009 8:08:20 AM

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Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why?

Labels are transitory - none more so than self applied.

The perspective of many 'subs', commonly inversely proportional to experience, is that 'submission' entails laying back on a bed, head on a pillow, tied spread eagle, smiling, and announcing; "Mistress I submit to you - do anything you'd like!"

Facilitating that experience doesn't take a lot of dominance or submission, only a willing facilitator/partner.

But what's the difference between that scenario and a submissive that wants a dominant under certain conditions and terms? The 'submission' is enabling a sensation desired to be experienced. The 'Top' can be submissive the bottom can be dominant.

The whole purpose is much more basic; getting touched by someone, anyone, anyway.

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/10/2009 8:09:16 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sweetsub1957

In otherwords, LaT, those "subs" are starting to feel their oats and get Toppy. haha Well, good luck. Manipulative subs.....

Given what I have seen, most of those submissives, aren't.

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/10/2009 8:19:09 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: breatheasone

quote:

ORIGINAL: hopelessfool

Or asking you to join their family, when your profile mentions you want monogamy, you want nothing to do with poly, and list it as a limit?

We have a couples profile, and Master stated pretty clearly We are monogamous. s-types send emails asking to join Us. Hope this clears up what i was trying to say in my initial reply/post. i am sorry i was vague.

I understand exactly what your saying.

My profile shows poly as a limit and had for a long time saying I was strictly monogamous, And i got a lot of messages from submissives asking me to join their family, even though my profile showed no interest at all.

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/10/2009 8:31:36 AM

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Could they be afraid of "real' activity and approaching another sub is a way to guarantee failure?

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/10/2009 8:54:46 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

quote:

Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why?

Labels are transitory - none more so than self applied.

The perspective of many 'subs', commonly inversely proportional to experience, is that 'submission' entails laying back on a bed, head on a pillow, tied spread eagle, smiling, and announcing; "Mistress I submit to you - do anything you'd like!"

Facilitating that experience doesn't take a lot of dominance or submission, only a willing facilitator/partner.

But what's the difference between that scenario and a submissive that wants a dominant under certain conditions and terms? The 'submission' is enabling a sensation desired to be experienced. The 'Top' can be submissive the bottom can be dominant.

The whole purpose is much more basic; getting touched by someone, anyone, anyway.

QFE!!

Y'all are geniuses in that household!

So many male "submissives" think that the dick massage is what it's allll about, and aren't they doing us a favour?

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/10/2009 9:07:26 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
QFE!!

Y'all are geniuses in that household! So many male "submissives" think that the dick massage is what it's allll about, and aren't they doing us a favour?

Exactly. In addition, they really don't care who they are receiving said massage from. For a good number of them, it's about the sex and only about the sex.

One other thing.....

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ORIGINAL: Underumam

Matter of fact, if I were Dom, I'd have one day set aside each month for role-reversal day just to keep things balanced..lol.

I have to admit, the above is not My style. Some people enjoy role reversal. I happen to prefer those who submit.

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RE: Male Subs Who Want Female Subs to Domme Them. Why? - 12/10/2009 9:37:12 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
QFE!!

Y'all are geniuses in that household! So many male "submissives" think that the dick massage is what it's allll about, and aren't they doing us a favour?

Exactly. In addition, they really don't care who they are receiving said massage from. For a good number of them, it's about the sex and only about the sex.

One other thing.....

quote:

ORIGINAL: Underumam

Matter of fact, if I were Dom, I'd have one day set aside each month for role-reversal day just to keep things balanced..lol.

I have to admit, the above is not My style. Some people enjoy role reversal. I happen to prefer those who submit.

I was making a humorous offering Lady Pact. And what little I know of you from your profile and posts most definitely suggest that you would never do such a thing...:) However, I DO enjoy reading your posts..........thanks for that.

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