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RE: Sex vs Love - 12/14/2009 9:32:01 AM   
Kyoki


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Status: offline 		I didn't say everyone in here. I did mention people knew, didn't I?

Perhaps an exaggeration, but still.

Keep your panties on lady.

Or guy. Either way. I know you're eager to rip on some younger ones ass, but you're making yourself look pretty silly.

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RE: Sex vs Love - 12/14/2009 9:35:35 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Kyoki

I didn't say everyone in here. I did mention people knew, didn't I?

Perhaps an exaggeration, but still.

Keep your panties on lady.

Or guy. Either way. I know you're eager to rip on some younger ones ass, but you're making yourself look pretty silly.

i re-read my post, and i didn't see any attack at all.... i also in no way intended one....i am sorry if i offended you in any way.


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RE: Sex vs Love - 12/14/2009 9:38:28 AM   
Kyoki


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Status: offline 		It seemed very rude. Perhaps it was the large words emphasizing irritation. Like you were trying to show me up or something.

Fair enough. I'm sorry that I was rude too.

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RE: Sex vs Love - 12/14/2009 9:48:49 AM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		I can separate the two, I know they do not go hand in hand. Sex is a physical thing that feels really good, love is an emotional thing that also feels really good. When the two are combined it can be an explosive thing. But most women are conditioned from a young age to wait until they are in love and married to have sex. The emphasis is always make sure the guy loves you before you give him some. I don't view it that way. Sex should involve both people getting something they both find pleasurable.

Also remember that some cultures have a very dim view of women who enjoy sex and most religions teach that sex is a very bad thing unless your married and want to make a baby.

So these are things you need to take into consideration when wondering why women cannot separate love and sex.

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RE: Sex vs Love - 12/14/2009 10:21:03 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Kyoki

It seemed very rude. Perhaps it was the large words emphasizing irritation. Like you were trying to show me up or something.

Fair enough. I'm sorry that I was rude too.

No problem, i really didn't realize large words equaled irritation, i will keep that in mind. i truly was just using larger font for emphasis in general. When i don't have the benefit of using facial expression, tone of voice, hand gestures, and body language in general, its easy to forget i may come across differently then i intend...

i also try to keep in mind that likewise...not every thing in bold font is bad LOL.


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RE: Sex vs Love - 12/15/2009 6:13:12 PM   
SailingBum


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Status: offline 		Woman give sex to get love ....and men take the sex...  hope that clears it up for you.

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RE: Sex vs Love - 12/15/2009 7:27:38 PM   
SomethingCatchy


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Status: offline 		I'm one of those 'exceptional' women who can separate 'love' from sex.

I've been having sex for about 5 years. Until just last fall I'd never had an orgasm while being intimate with a man regardless of what he tried to do to me. I figure why have sex with someone I don't care about when he's going to get off and then leave me alone and I'll have to finish up myself anyway? It is MUCH more satisfying, even without getting mine, to share some kind of emotional connection instead of feeling like I'm on my own.


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RE: Sex vs Love - 12/16/2009 9:23:25 AM   
MisterMOD


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Status: offline 		Unfortunately I got the two mixed up. Though at the time it felt great and the intensity was a turn-on in itself. Would I do it again? Damn right I would even down to the seperation. I'm an emotional slut!

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RE: Sex vs Love - 12/16/2009 9:26:03 AM   
MisterMOD


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Status: offline 		Hoq do I get rid of that irritating vanilla icon?

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RE: Sex vs Love - 12/16/2009 9:27:27 AM   
lusciouslips19


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ORIGINAL: MisterMOD

Hoq do I get rid of that irritating vanilla icon?


Only time will tell.........

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RE: Sex vs Love - 12/16/2009 2:24:54 PM   
PrincessofFire


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Status: offline 		I agree with everyone who has posted before me that has suggested the wiring.

On that note, I will also blame society for creating some of these problems. For a long period of time, women who had sex just to have sex were/are considered sluts/whores. Therefore, some women may feel dirty if there is not a relationship involved, because in many cases, this may justify those feelings.

Just a thought!

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RE: Sex vs Love - 12/16/2009 9:42:07 PM   
leadership527


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ORIGINAL: MasterIronwood

I know that don't but I don't understand why most women can't/won't separate love and sex. They are two different things and I have found only the exceptional few women able to separate the two.

I would be interested in any feedback on this subject, particularly interested in any feedback from the women (Domme, sub or slave).
Just as a note, I'm a guy last I checked, but I cannot separate the two either. I have absolutely zero interest in putting my parts in some random stranger's parts. That gets an "ewwwwwww" reaction from me. I certainly agree that more women than men are like this... but it's not as uncommon among men as you seem to believe.


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RE: Sex vs Love - 12/17/2009 2:09:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have no problem separating the two, and also separating authority dynamics from romance... but most of the folks here who know me know that I'm a strange bird. *chuckles*

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RE: Sex vs Love - 12/17/2009 2:16:40 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Hierodule

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I am also deeply intrigued by this place... and great post, AnimusRex.

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RE: Sex vs Love - 12/17/2009 2:18:56 PM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: PrincessofFire

I agree with everyone who has posted before me that has suggested the wiring.

On that note, I will also blame society for creating some of these problems. For a long period of time, women who had sex just to have sex were/are considered sluts/whores. Therefore, some women may feel dirty if there is not a relationship involved, because in many cases, this may justify those feelings.

Just a thought!


It's definately a factor but I wouldn't say it's entirely to blame. Just how big of a factor probably depends on the specific woman and her past experiences. I really don't think it's been much a factor in my life but then again, you know me personally so you know my history!

(And see... I told you I was still here!)

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RE: Sex vs Love - 12/17/2009 10:00:39 PM   
maugseros


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Status: offline 		Me being male... Love, sex, passion and lust are ALL intwined as one. To me... It's all or nothing, I can't have any single one without all the others. Doesn't seem to be to many people who feel the same, or at least maybe not as intensly.

Works out to be a rather lonley place. Sometimes I think that I wouldn't wish this "condition" upon my worst enemy.

But when you are just wired to feel acertain way with certain needs... What's one to do?

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