LaTigresse
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Using fast reply... Since I have some free time this morning while I wait on the farrier to come give my boys a pedicure before I go to work.....I read the last additions to this thread. Then I though about it, and another thread we mentioned. Thought some more about the major players, what I've read in other threads and had a few lightbulb moments. I have never identified as a feminist, for some reason, the word and what it implied to me always left a bad taste in my mouth. Where that comes from I really have no idea. Someplace further back in my life and developing than I can conciously remember. Yet, I feel that all humans should, and do with me, have the right to be treated as they deserve, as they have earned. Yet for all intent and purpose, in understanding the intent of the word, I am....equal treatment for those that have proven their worth. I will not reward a 5yo's temper tantrum with an ice cream cone. I will not show respect to a punky, mouthy, rude 25yo.....whether they be male or female. I will not show respect to a 40, 50, 60, 100 yo that demands it because they exist, yet behave in a contemptable manner. Age, gender, race, none of that matters one whit to me. Personal integrity, personal responsibility, does. On here, all we have to determine the merit of an individual by is their words, consistency, and for me most of all, their ability to take the high road during passionate and emotional debates. Very few of us manage to show ourselves in good light during such debates. Most especially when we are debating with a person we see as being unworthy of our respect by their own words. Myself included. In essense we allow ourselves to be measured by others, by our interactions with the lowest common denominator. Because our passion, emotion, EGO takes control and causes us to sink to their level. We do our best to justify our behaviour by constantly pointing out theirs. Fighting to maintain our self respect by pointing out our disdain for the putzes. We allow the putzes to take control of ourselves. I have seen over and over, when a hot topic like feminism comes up, the lowest common denominator/s appear, and those that are most passionate about the cause they identify with, become a shining example to reaffirm the mindset of the opposition. Yet constantly justifying their words by the low of the opposition. Perpetuating the mindsets of that opposition by their own behaviour/words. Basically, if a woman does not want to be seen as a money grubbing, emotionally ruled, hysterical shrew, she should not behave as one. Regardless of the goading by obviously fear laden, women/feminist despising, putzes. If you believe that person to be a putz, why on earth would you give any credit to their fear driven arguments by sinking to their level or below, to try and discredit them??? Simply behaving in a manner that disproves their theory does it far more effectively AND takes the fun out of their day. Becoming that which they fear most, will only justify and reafirm their opinions and fears. If many of the 'feminists' on these forums were on an election ballot for public office, there is NO WAY I would vote for them. Not because of gender but because of their inability to control themselves and their emotions in a manner that would give me the confidence in them to do a sensitive job well. The same can be said for most of the men, but we are not discussing the weaknesses of, or distaste for, men. I saw a silly saying somewhere that applies "be the change you want to see". If there was a woman being discussed for election in the political forums, that behaved as most of the 'feminists' on here do in their interactions, the feminists would tear her apart. Go back and read the comments about Palin if you need a refresher. Yet because the behaviour is in defense of a passion, somehow that rediculous behaviour becomes acceptable? I adore most of the ladies here, and do NOT mean my words as an attack. Please do not take it as one. All I want to do is shine a light from a different angle.
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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one! Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!
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