ThatDamnedPanda
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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt
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Well if a man cant manage his own life, he cant manage mine. So thats what its about for many of us subs.
This.
JJ- No, money is not the most important thing in life. That said, a lack of it, esp if it is because one partner is irresponsible when it comes to handling the household finances, is often the death knell for a relationship. I don't understand why so many get their panties in a bunch over people stating that they are looking for a partner who handles his/her money well, esp when it is a submissive who may very well turn over all decisions, including financial, to hir Dominant at some point in the relationship.
Not having money and being irresponsible with money are not always related. Sure there are people that get a credit card and max it out the next day on stupid stuff that isnt needed. Some people though have a credit card and max it out because of a medical problem. Both are in debt. Both are financially insecure and strapped. Are both irresponsible with money?
Average college grad is $40,000 in debt when they enter the workforce. Average law school grad is over $100,000 in debt. These people are dirt broke coming out of school. But they are on the right path...correct? Do they eventually pull themselves out of debt. Eventually yes. But sometimes they fail for a while and failure is pretty common right now considering the state of the economy. I know a guy with an engineering degree working as a bartender because he can't find an entry level job in his field. Are these people all irresponsible?
My point, like I said before, is people fall on tough times all the time. Even people who are responsible with money. And you can't judge a person's character, intelligence, and integrity based on their bank account balance.
Maybe you're reading too much into what other people mean when they say they're looking for a "financially secure" partner. Most of the profiles I see that have this phrase, or similar phrases, seem to me as though they're just saying they don't want someone whose financial situation is in a state of total freefall.
Granted, the phrase can mean a lot of things to a lot of people, and I know that in some cases it is code for "wealthy and generous," but my impression is that most women are reasonable, decent creatures who just want to be sure that the guy they're thinking of opening their hearts to isn't just some unemployed sleazeball who's $100,000 in debt and looking for someone to support him. It's all well and good to say that money isn't the be-all and end-all in this life, but the fact remains that if you join your life with the wrong person, your life can literally be ruined by that decision. I've got no problem with people being cautious about this, or saying so right up front.
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