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ORIGINAL: CelticNightmare

I see a lot of people who seem to like to post a "shopping list of deal breakers and requirements" in thier profiles.

Where do you think this comes from?

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Is it something that actually works?

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

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ORIGINAL: CelticNightmare

Sure,but what if someone who would otherwise be ideal sees something like that-and decides they don't like that kind of overt pressure? And you filter the wrong thing out?

Can anyone else here see a Dominant deciding that a woman has a tendency to "top from the bottom" by doing this sort of thing?

This really is quite simple. If you don't like the profile, don't respond. There's plenty of others who will respond to her who don't feel that because she has requirements and desires that she's topping from the bottom.
How can one top from the bottom when they're just getting to know each other to see if there's anything even in common to go any further than that? She's not your slave at that point. She's just another human being on this great big planet earth. It's a wise thing to remember.

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ORIGINAL: CelticNightmare

It's interesting to see how upset people can get by this topic.

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: CelticNightmare
Sure,but what if someone who would otherwise be ideal sees something like that-and decides they don't like that kind of overt pressure? And you filter the wrong thing out?

Can anyone else here see a Dominant deciding that a woman has a tendency to "top from the bottom" by doing this sort of thing?

You care about lists on profiles?  Seriously?  I've dated women I was "too old" for, "too short" for, "too far away" for, you name it.  I wrote them, said why they interested me, was clear that I had read their profile and recognized I was outside one of their criteria, and started conversations with them anyway.

Most people don't change their profile every five minutes.  They write down some words when they are in a particular mood, and hopefully it is more or less representative.  Profiles are almost irrelevant to me, to be honest.  I have seen some beautiful profiles written by fools, and perhaps the smartest women I have dated off CM had profiles that were max 5 lines long.  (Smartest meaning Ph.D., self-made business woman, professional translator.)  The translator literally had no profile, just a phenomenal username.  I wrote her to compliment her on it, and we started talking on the phone for two hours a day, and then met in real.

Interaction matters.  Profiles pretty much don't.

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ORIGINAL: CelticNightmare

It's interesting to see how upset people can get by this topic.

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ORIGINAL: CelticNightmare

I do respect what people express in profiles. Some are interesting-some are repellent-others are just sort of nuetral. I just read things at times that make me wonder...where did THAT come from?

And judging by the amount of bitterness expressed therein at times-I know that asking is going to be pretty much futile-nothing I can ask,no matter how polite of kind-is going to get a response.

The judgement has already been made.

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ORIGINAL: CelticNightmare

It's interesting to see how upset people can get by this topic.

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ORIGINAL: CelticNightmare

You can do as you see fit Red, I respect free will.

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ORIGINAL: CelticNightmare
What if the list is created purely out of fantasy though?

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss
*smooches the hottie tottie Red Maic...