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RE: The other woman - 3/9/2010 11:51:06 AM

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You may want to investigate how other people do successful and ethical polyamorous relationships, if you are actually interested in continuing to participate in a multiple relationship situation. You can be submissive but still set reasonable boundaries for healthy, honest relationships that do not involve any cheating, lying or drama. Cheating is very, very bad poly. Actually it's not poly at all.

Alternatively you may wish to set your boundaries to monogamous only, if that works for you.

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RE: The other woman - 3/9/2010 6:22:31 PM

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Thank God i'm not the only one. i was the other woman with my last Master and do you know what sucked the most??? i was there first! We were going out for 2 years before she showed up, and because she was his age (50 to his 53, i'm 28) and had kids (whom he now hates apparently) and was socially acceptable to his family i was relegated from no 1 slut to somewhere so far down the list i bearly got a phone call every week. (ok there were still emails and texts but still! To go from calling every day, sometimes 2 or 3 times and making love all night long to 5 mins in a layby before he went out the country for two weeks with her, lets just say that was the beginning of the end) Finally i realised that i was no longer of interest to him, my submission and love were making his life more difficult (yep once again i was thinking of him) and so i walked away. And my God it was hard, but i thought i was worth more than he was allowing me to give him.

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RE: The other woman - 3/10/2010 3:34:23 AM

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TO the OP:

This was not consentual to his..woman and his family. He isn't poly, he is....cheater.

Don't forget, for every one of you 'other women', there is a victim...aka, the REAL woman, who does the laundry and washes this idiot's underwear. Yeah it all so cute, no responsibility of cleaning his nice (or shitty??) house, but think..if you KNOW and still do it, without meeting her......you are mere scraps.

YOU look like a beautiful girl, shuddup and

Smile. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=od7BNY9HUEQ&NR=

you can do better.

la la laaaa la laaaaa , sometimes we gotta be jusst a lil sadistic.

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RE: The other woman - 3/10/2010 5:38:44 AM

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alhamdullilah, I know it's hard but sometimes we just can't settle for second rate. All relationships are based on trust and respect. In the early stages of any relationship you can not know what will happen so give each one time to develop realizing just because we want each one to be the "one" it is likely it will not be. Basicly, don't give all of yourself up front. Even a Dominant should prove themselves as worthy of the gift of your submission.

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RE: The other woman - 3/10/2010 6:54:10 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: came4U

TO the OP:

This was not consentual to his..woman and his family. He isn't poly, he is....cheater.

Don't forget, for every one of you 'other women', there is a victim...aka, the REAL woman, who does the laundry and washes this idiot's underwear. Yeah it all so cute, no responsibility of cleaning his nice (or shitty??) house, but think..if you KNOW and still do it, without meeting her......you are mere scraps.

YOU look like a beautiful girl, shuddup and

Smile. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=od7BNY9HUEQ&NR=

you can do better. la la laaaa la laaaaa , sometimes we gotta be jusst a lil sadistic.

Well, I wash nilla mans underwear, and cook his meals, and clean OUR house...so I guess that makes me a "REAL" women. I"m assumming kinky guy has a similiar arrangement with his wife. So it seems it alls comes out even in the wash.......

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RE: The other woman - 3/10/2010 7:14:59 PM

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No matter sub/slave/domme or switch, you have to know your worth and demand it from your (perspective) partners.
I waited until I felt I was ready and had more to offer than when I first found this lifestyle before even "interviewing" for that position.
I was extremely picky, and even turned down HM a few times before befriending and eventually falling for Him. I would not have considered someone who was not available in every way. You shouldn't either!
Men who are taken don't interest me, except in a clinical fashion; what do they have that I do or don't see...etc...
You don't need to be totally honest regarding all your weaknesses until you can find someone to trust them with. There are far less of those than you will get to know. Learn to feel the difference.
Don't let everyone know...keep 'em guessing...
and never ever think that you can do *x* better than the girl he has now....that's just a game.

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RE: The other woman - 3/15/2010 10:45:55 PM

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excellent quotes

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