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FirmhandKY -> RE: Screen names and RT (4/7/2006 11:17:18 AM)
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The question seems to me to be more of what impact someone's nick has on you, rather than whether or not you would instantly dismiss someone because of their nick.
I'd say - like everyone has, I believe - that I wouldn't instantly and immediately dismiss someone simply because of a particular nick.
But I have found certain common themes in nicknames.
And, also, remember that a nick IS something you choose to represent yourself. It isn't something that you were given as a newborn, so you are saying something about yourself with your nick, whether you realize it or not.
I have certain preferences and beliefs (call them prejudices, if you wish), and although I keep an open mind here are some of my gut instincts about certain types of nicks:
"Do me names" ... They are a turn-off for me. Again, not a value judgement as to the individual worth of the person who choose the name, just not the style of woman I'm looking for.
"Sassy" anything ... I've noticed several correlations between the apparent personality of women who use this, somehow (or who describe themselves this way) that isn't appealing to me. No, it's not a 100% correlation - but common, so that I read such a profile with a bit of trepidation.
"Bitter" nicks. No good examples come to mind, but you recognize them when you see them. I don't want, nor need bitterness in any shape or form in my life. Bitter names are about regrets, and the past, and not about the future. Most of the time, the profile tends to support the feelings of caution.
"Master or Mistress or Lord high mucky muck" nicks. Again, as some have said, not necessarily a negative thing, but I'm always a little cautious around people who seem to consider themselves highly expert in anything - unless their qualifications and my experience directly with them bear that experience out. Just one of those "prove it to me" kinda people here. I rarely take on the titles or seek recognization from others for what I've done in life or my career, because I don't particularly care about impressing people much. I 'm actually just the opposite: I'd rather appear unassuming and unimpressing, so that I can get up under peoples' radar. Loads more fun that way. [:D]
"Esoteric" nicks. Generally, a good feeling. It usually seems to mean that the person put some thought into their name, and as a collateral, usually they seemed to have put some thought into who they are, and what they want out of life. Sometimes, however, it's just "being cute" and trying to appear smart and hip. So, over all, I look with expectations, but wariness.
"Challenging" nicks. Such as ... I'll just make one up, cause I don't want a flame ... RUmanENUFF? My answer, mentally is ... "Yup, sure am. But you'll never know." Again ... no slam on a woman who chooses such a name, but the fact is that the first, and most important challenge, I think, is to get to know each other as people, as human beings. Why start such a conversation with a woman who apparently has a 'tude?
There is a wide variety of other type of nicks, but the ones that really get my attention are the ones that are not only unassuming or demanding, but have some sort of ... dunno the best term ... but artistic or personal meaning to them. Nicks that conjure up feelings of "likeablity", "femininity", and "familiarity". Of course, I realize this is a very subjective thing, but "I know 'em when I see 'em". For a man, something that gets a point across, without being brash and overbearing.
Just a few from this thread:
foxnotinsox
MrThorns
enthralled
RavenMuse
PlayfulOne
sasshay
IronBear
ivorylace
Btw ... this is not a complete list, so, please ... no offensed intended if I didn't list you.
Just my two cents.
FHky
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