Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

RE: asking Male Masters who 'share' their slave(s)


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Master >> RE: asking Male Masters who 'share' their slave(s) Page: <<   < prev  1 2 3 [4] 5   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
RE: asking Male Masters who 'share' their slave(s) - 5/26/2010 4:52:17 AM   
Firebirdseeking


Posts: 477
Joined: 9/3/2006
Status: offline 		There seems to be some sort of assumption that sharing is the ultimate in submission or in dominance. I dont agree with this at all.



Also, I think there is sharing, swinging, and and poly relationships and they are not the same. Bringing them into this discussion is confusing.



What I also dont understand is that an M/s relationship or a D/s relationship is still a RELATIONSHIP, that means 2 people. Anyone who thinks their slave is a piece of property, like their lawnmower, needs a reality check.



What I really dont understand is how people get into a situation where one wants to share and the other doesnt want to be shared. On an issue of this magnitude, I would have hoped they would have talked this out so that the slave is not compromising her or his values. It may be important for a slave to obey, but I think it is wrong to betray one's own self and values. How does that help a relationship? Why would a master - who is supposed to know what is best for both people - force this issue? Why would a master choose a slave who didnt want to be shared, if that is his kink, and why would a slave choose such a master if sharing is NOT her or his kink?

(in reply to wife4sharing)
Profile   Post #: 61
RE: asking Male Masters who 'share' their slave(s) - 5/26/2010 7:11:17 AM   
daddysprop247


Posts: 1712
Joined: 6/24/2005
From: DC Metro area
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Firebirdseeking

Also, I think there is sharing, swinging, and and poly relationships and they are not the same. Bringing them into this discussion is confusing.


absolutely. being shared by my Master is a part of our M/s dynamic, and it has zero relation to swinging. we are not swingers and do not remotely live that sort of lifestyle.  poly also is a different type of relationship structure altogether.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Firebirdseeking
What I also dont understand is that an M/s relationship or a D/s relationship is still a RELATIONSHIP, that means 2 people. Anyone who thinks their slave is a piece of property, like their lawnmower, needs a reality check.



this is where we disagree. some slaves are indeed property, like any other sort of property, but what we are HUMAN property. just as you do not treat your dog (technically your property) the way you would treat your DVD player, you do not treat your human property like the lawn mower.

i am my Master's property, which means he can do with me what he wills. that is entirely his prerogative. but it's as the old saying goes, with great power comes great responsibility. He has to assess the potential consequences, short term and long term, to anything he decides to subject me to, and determine when it is worth the risk and when it is not. and all of this is because i am a human being, and one he happens to care for very much.



(in reply to Firebirdseeking)
Profile   Post #: 62
RE: asking Male Masters who 'share' their slave(s) - 5/26/2010 9:03:40 AM   
porcelaine


Posts: 5020
Joined: 7/24/2006
Status: offline 		Firebirdseeking,

quote:

There seems to be some sort of assumption that sharing is the ultimate in submission or in dominance.


I don't believe that either. However, it might be the ultimate for someone that has a little ambivalence in that area. Going forward would be a demonstration of their ability to set it aside for their owner. Those that cannot or choose not to do so are not less submissive in my opinion.

quote:

What I also dont understand is that an M/s relationship or a D/s relationship is still a RELATIONSHIP, that means 2 people. Anyone who thinks their slave is a piece of property, like their lawnmower, needs a reality check.


Relationships have varying definitions and parameters. For some it is comprised of two people and can be a monogamous situation that both enjoy. However, other options exist and there's nothing wrong with those that choose to pursue such avenues. As for property, that isn't the ideal relationship for everyone. Electing to be his property doesn't mean I need a reality check anymore than choosing the dominant or submissive roles. It simply implies that manner of relating is suitable for he and I.

quote:

Why would a master - who is supposed to know what is best for both people - force this issue? Why would a master choose a slave who didnt want to be shared, if that is his kink, and why would a slave choose such a master if sharing is NOT her or his kink?


Here's the skinny...

Some girls want to be owned. They'll do anything to make that happen. Others hear things and put on blinders or deny it was ever said. I've seen a LOT of the latter. You assume she went in clueless. That isn't always the case. Time passes and she tells herself that he's happy with her alone. She's deluding herself. He announces his desire to have another and all hell breaks loose. He didn't lie. She just assumed things would be one way and that's changed. Now she's stuck. Should he relent because it bothers her or call her bluff and remind her what was said?

On the other hand, sometimes she agrees. The idea seems enticing but she hasn't prepared for its reality. That's another thing altogether and it may be an unpleasant experience. I can't advise what should be done. I've been on both sides of the fence on this issue and will honestly say that right now I'd do as he asked. If I agreed to it I'm going to see it through. I won't abandon my relationship over this issue.

There's another wrinkle to consider. Maybe he didn't desire it coming in and now he does. People change. I always remind my girls of this when they're looking for a partner. Be very clear about what you can/cannot handle. Don't assume it will always be that way. He'll grow and that may mean a new direction. I think this is a hard subject for a lot of people. Most fear the demise of the relationship if it begins. I don't feel that way anymore. I sincerely believe my worth does not diminish because another girl is present. If it changes it's because he changed and desires something different.

~porcelaine


_____________________________

His will; my fate.

(in reply to Firebirdseeking)
Profile   Post #: 63
RE: asking Male Masters who 'share' their slave(s) - 5/26/2010 7:51:30 PM   
forsaken555


Posts: 39
Joined: 12/2/2009
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Firebirdseeking
Also, I think there is sharing, swinging, and and poly relationships and they are not the same. Bringing them into this discussion is confusing.

What I really dont understand is how people get into a situation where one wants to share and the other doesnt want to be shared. On an issue of this magnitude, I would have hoped they would have talked this out so that the slave is not compromising her or his values. It may be important for a slave to obey, but I think it is wrong to betray one's own self and values. How does that help a relationship? Why would a master - who is supposed to know what is best for both people - force this issue? Why would a master choose a slave who didnt want to be shared, if that is his kink, and why would a slave choose such a master if sharing is NOT her or his kink?


I have always been very upfront about my limits, and being shared is one of them, I don't do any kind sexual things outside of private one on one. The problem is then, there are doms to take this as a challenge. I have never experienced being shared, or been in a threesome, so their logic is, if I haven't tried it, how would I know if I'd hate it? That's how you get two diff people with diff inclination getting together, but having disagreements.

With my master, it did started with similar kink, no he never announced alot of stuffs he was into in the beginning, so I was unaware, as we progress in our relationship, he tried to introduce them without discussing with me first. That's how too. First time meet, everything he did was perfect and sooo totally insync with everything I was into, and I didn't even have to tell him what I was into. You feel the instant chemistry and connection. Only later you find out he wanna do stuffs I don't wanna do. In his case, one of my biggest turn on is rape, so he thinks if he brings third parties in, it would arouse me cuz it'd feel more like real rape. That's the problem sometimes, I love pretending I'm getting rape, but I am definitely not gonna enjoy it if it's real, that's for sure.

That's how I nearly got into shit too, with another dom who was sooo determined to set me up for threesomes, he pretended he was totally against it, to lure me into  it one night, with his buddies on stand by ready for me. It was a near miss.



(in reply to Firebirdseeking)
Profile   Post #: 64
RE: asking Male Masters who 'share' their slave(s) - 5/26/2010 7:55:13 PM   
forsaken555


Posts: 39
Joined: 12/2/2009
Status: offline 		I kind of associate swinging with sharing, because, essentially, sharing is swinging with bdsm tones. Swinging is like friendly group fuck, or friendly exchange of partners, or allowing your partner to be fucked by your friend. Sharing your slave is quite similar. So if there can be happy swinging relationships, there can be happy M/S sharing relationships. All about mutual agreement.

(in reply to forsaken555)
Profile   Post #: 65
RE: asking Male Masters who 'share' their slave(s) - 5/26/2010 9:44:38 PM   
daddysprop247


Posts: 1712
Joined: 6/24/2005
From: DC Metro area
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: forsaken555

I kind of associate swinging with sharing, because, essentially, sharing is swinging with bdsm tones. Swinging is like friendly group fuck, or friendly exchange of partners, or allowing your partner to be fucked by your friend. Sharing your slave is quite similar. So if there can be happy swinging relationships, there can be happy M/S sharing relationships. All about mutual agreement.


again as someone who is shared sexually by my Owner, i could not disagree more with the comparison to swinging. even you yourself describe swinging as basically "friendly" f*cking. in the swinging lifestyle the purpose and goal is fun and pleasure for all parties.
i am not shared by my Master for the purpose of sexual frolicking with other men. it is not about fun, and it is absolutely not about my pleasure. it is about obeying my Master and fulfilling my duties as his property. i sexually serve the men of his choosing under a wide variety of circumstances, from training under others (a particular skill my Master wishes me to learn), to Superbowl party favor, to degradation or humiliation, to discipline, to demonstrations of his training of me, and many many other purposes. but always my focus is the same: serve well, and obey without question or hesitation. it is not about fun and games, it is about obedience and humility. the mindset, motivations, and tone of these experiences could not be more different from swinging.



(in reply to forsaken555)
Profile   Post #: 66
RE: asking Male Masters who 'share' their slave(s) - 5/26/2010 10:38:18 PM   
porcelaine


Posts: 5020
Joined: 7/24/2006
Status: offline 		forsaken555,

quote:

The problem is then, there are doms to take this as a challenge.


Do you ask them if they have this desire or simply say you're not into it instead?

quote:

That's how you get two diff people with diff inclination getting together, but having disagreements.


Actually the most common reason is that she jumps into the relationship too soon without understanding who and what she's really agreeing to.

quote:

With my master, it did started with similar kink, no he never announced alot of stuffs he was into in the beginning, so I was unaware, as we progress in our relationship, he tried to introduce them without discussing with me first.


You refer to him as your master. Were you his slave? Do you feel he had to clear everything by you first?

quote:

You feel the instant chemistry and connection. Only later you find out he wanna do stuffs I don't wanna do.


Maybe I'm odd. Those feelings seem to encourage my obedience and willingness to try new things for him.

quote:

I love pretending I'm getting rape, but I am definitely not gonna enjoy it if it's real, that's for sure.


If you knew he was bringing the other person in how would it be rape? I would think he's simply having someone else stand in for the role instead.

quote:

That's how I nearly got into shit too, with another dom who was sooo determined to set me up for threesomes, he pretended he was totally against it, to lure me into  it one night, with his buddies on stand by ready for me. It was a near miss.


How long do you spend getting acquainted with these men before you say yes?

~porcelaine


_____________________________

His will; my fate.

(in reply to forsaken555)
Profile   Post #: 67
RE: asking Male Masters who 'share' their slave(s) - 5/28/2010 4:41:26 AM   
forsaken555


Posts: 39
Joined: 12/2/2009
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: daddysprop247
again as someone who is shared sexually by my Owner, i could not disagree more with the comparison to swinging. even you yourself describe swinging as basically "friendly" f*cking. in the swinging lifestyle the purpose and goal is fun and pleasure for all parties.
i am not shared by my Master for the purpose of sexual frolicking with other men. it is not about fun, and it is absolutely not about my pleasure. it is about obeying my Master and fulfilling my duties as his property. i sexually serve the men of his choosing under a wide variety of circumstances, from training under others (a particular skill my Master wishes me to learn), to Superbowl party favor, to degradation or humiliation, to discipline, to demonstrations of his training of me, and many many other purposes. but always my focus is the same: serve well, and obey without question or hesitation. it is not about fun and games, it is about obedience and humility. the mindset, motivations, and tone of these experiences could not be more different from swinging.

I dunno, this is always the part where I get confused. I allow myself to get humiliated and degraded, because it brings me pleasure. I refused to be shared because I feel when I choose my master, his the only person on earth whom I am giving power over me, and it's not up to him to give that privilege to anybody else. I don't take shit from anybody but him.
I have other subs tell me that being a sub isn't about enjoyment. I dunno, for me and my master it is all about mutual enjoyment, can't be a one sided relationship, there got to be mutual satisfaction. But you know, that's why there is alot of different matches.
The thing is, take my master's x-sub. She was the one who wanted to be shared frequently, because she enjoys being shared. So there are definitely subs who do it for pleasure too. So if a sub enjoys being shared, I mean, if it's a fantasy of hers come true, it's kinda like swinging with "play rape" themes in it. Of course if you don't enjoy it then, it's not really like swinging. It's kinda like real  rape then, but consensual real rape I suppose.

(in reply to daddysprop247)
Profile   Post #: 68
RE: asking Male Masters who 'share' their slave(s) - 5/28/2010 4:54:19 AM   
forsaken555


Posts: 39
Joined: 12/2/2009
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: porcelaine
Do you ask them if they have this desire or simply say you're not into it instead?

I usually inform upfront I'm not into sharing, and also ask if they are into sharing. Some say yes, some says no, the problem is that one incident I nearly got into, was someone who really proclaim his disgusted by sharing.
quote:

You refer to him as your master. Were you his slave? Do you feel he had to clear everything by you first?

We had a bad start, I didn't want a 24/7 relationship, but in the beginning, the way he played it was to ignore "my wants", and went ahead to do whatever he wanted. I wanted to have a perimeter around our play, but he wanted no perimeters, he wanted anything goes. Anyways, it was a long rocky journey between us, believe me, it's all sorted out now, he understands me better and I understand him better. That problem is solved.
quote:

Maybe I'm odd. Those feelings seem to encourage my obedience and willingness to try new things for him.

Some things that involved privacy, like nude pics and being shared, I really had problems with. There are definitely a couple of new things I said I'd never do that I've compromised to.
quote:

If you knew he was bringing the other person in how would it be rape? I would think he's simply having someone else stand in for the role instead.

In the beginning, he was always threatening to bring someone else in, and I always said no, and told him flat if he does, I will run to the police and cry rape. In the beginning, I feared he'll stand true on his threat, and tie me up and just bring some other guy in, so I threatened him back so let him know if he ever set me up to be raped by another, I will go to the authorities. I didn't know him well enough then, but in the end, he just enjoyed scaring me, but was never gonna actually do it.
quote:

How long do you spend getting acquainted with these men before you say yes?

This one, known him for 4 months, met a couple of times for just vanilla meals and drinks, and talked like friends about everything outside bdsm. I suspect nothing at all, because it felt like we were developing a genuine friendship beyond just having bdsm in common. We talked almost every day. And I suspect nothing because he was hella decent and nice, there were no clues. 

~porcelaine


(in reply to porcelaine)
Profile   Post #: 69
RE: asking Male Masters who 'share' their slave(s) - 5/28/2010 5:33:23 AM   
wife4sharing


Posts: 8
Joined: 5/4/2010
Status: offline 		thank you very much, esp daddysprop247 i view it same way that as human property, of course he wouldnt treat me same as an inanimate object, although he owns both
wanted to point out that it was discussed when we were in the beginning stages but was left open and it isnt so much i have a problem with it, well not at all really as i know he wouldnt let me get hurt-isn't that i do not trust his judgement by any means-my point was to gain insight and to learn about potential problems afterwards as im afraid the afterwards or reality of doing this might have different results than intended or expected going into it
I am very grateful for those who have been shared/are shared by their masters/owners explaining how they view it has made me feel less troubled by the 'what if's' and yes i know each person is different, however reading the posts from both sides has helped and we have since had discussions on the subject thanks

(in reply to forsaken555)
Profile   Post #: 70
RE: asking Male Masters who 'share' their slave(s) - 6/3/2010 8:07:43 PM   
osf


Posts: 3288
Joined: 10/19/2009
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: lally2

quote:

ORIGINAL: wife4sharing

have a question for those who do share their slaves i wanted to get opinions on how you feel about this as far as way you see her?
does this make you feel closer to her that she is obedient enough to fulfill something like serving another male dominant? or do you think less of her because she did it, meaning if you owned her and you told her to do it and she did so, would you view her differently?(yes even though you ordered her to do so) also if you are married and are speaking of your slave wife, does this make you think she would ever cheat on you/serve another dom/master without you telling her to do so?
** i do know many here use different words for thier situations, hence slave/bottom/property/'it' and so on as well as top/master/owner/dom and so on so please understand am merely trying to get general idea and information on this subject. thank you very much


this is an odd question really. 

i was in a relationship for a time where it was discussed that i would be shared.  i didnt go much on it to be honest, but it was Ms and i was told that whatever occurred would be very much under his control.  it was just something he got off on, other people wanting/enjoying his slave.

so if a guy wants to pursue this, for whatever reason its because he wants to.  if its going to squick him out or make him question her fidelity, (even when it was him that asked her to do this thing) then id have to wonder what the purpose of it all is.

is it a test to see if she would and therefore confirm in his head that women are all basically untrustable whores?
is it because he has an issue with women cheating on him and he needs to explore that?
is it to test her submission on a thing she feels deep down he wont/cant handle and is putting too much onus on her to prove something to him?

if its any of the above then youre being put in a difficult position - youre damned if you do and youre damned if you dont.

i think if this is youre situation OP and youre real concerns then you need to talk about it with him.

but if its just that he likes to share his woman and enjoy watching other people enjoy you too then its just another thing to explore i guess.  ive talked to alot of guys who genuinely enjoy this kinda thing.  it might just be as simple as that. 



yea, as simple as that, not complicated really unless you try to find out why

_____________________________

all around nice guy and creative misogynist

i'm not very skilled so i just hit harder

i want a woman to make into the woman she never wanted to become

(in reply to lally2)
Profile   Post #: 71
RE: asking Male Masters who 'share' their slave(s) - 6/3/2010 9:56:31 PM   
xxblushesxx


Posts: 9318
Joined: 11/3/2005
From: Kentucky
Status: offline 		I don't see where this has come up earlier, (and it's surprising because in a thread about fantasizing about getting someone pregnant even using protection it did) but...how are your doms protecting your health? Especially Daddy's prop, it sounds like it can be kind of random, and when he decides you're going to be used, you will be, by whomever.

Now...that sounds kinda hot in theory. In reality, I don't think this would be for me. But...here's the question: (well ok a statement and a question) before HM and I were together, we were both checked for any diseases and waited for the results. We didn't though, wait another six months and get checked again even though that would have been smarter. But, is everyone being checked and are you really really looking at these results or just taking their word(s) for it?

What about pregnancy? Wife4sharing, I remember reading you're pregnant now. (congrats to you and yours!) How do you know for sure that the pregnancy is due to what happens between you and your master/husband and not someone he has shared you with? I realize you probably use some sort of protection, but as we all know, they are not fool proof.

I guess in a way, for me, this is one of those fantasies (like a rape fantasy) that sounds a lot more fun as a fantasy than as a reality. Unless you have someone who will treat your body/mind/spirit as if they were his own. I'm afraid though, that many doms would be too high on the idea of sharing, and not as into the health related matters that need to be taken into account to make this safe for everyone.

I'm really not trying to be the "safety police" but...if this keeps one girl (or guy) from coming to these boards in a year or more, and telling us a sad tale of being shared and catching something they can't get rid of, (or worse) then it will be worth the name calling.

We ALL want to have someone we can trust our everything with. But don't. See the medical papers for yourself. No matter whether you're sub or slave, only you are responsible for what happens to you. You have to be pro-active.

< Message edited by xxblushesxx -- 6/3/2010 9:59:07 PM >

_____________________________

~Christina

A nice girl with a disturbing hobby

My femdom findom blog: http://www.MistressAvarice.com


(in reply to osf)
Profile   Post #: 72
RE: asking Male Masters who 'share' their slave(s) - 6/5/2010 5:45:43 PM   
xxblushesxx


Posts: 9318
Joined: 11/3/2005
From: Kentucky
Status: offline 		I guess no answer is an answer of sorts....

_____________________________

~Christina

A nice girl with a disturbing hobby

My femdom findom blog: http://www.MistressAvarice.com


(in reply to xxblushesxx)
Profile   Post #: 73
RE: asking Male Masters who 'share' their slave(s) - 6/5/2010 7:05:56 PM   
AQuietSimpleMan


Posts: 1410
Joined: 11/15/2009
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterGoad88

Feel CLOSE to a SLAVE?  Why on GOD'S green earth woudl I feel close to my PROPERTY?  If I choose to share MY slave it is becauase she is MY property to DO WITH as I want.  I feel CLOSER to my car than I hyave to any slavething.

I think you don't understand how SLAVERY works.  If you want a sisffied little pissant to feel close to you than go find a boyfriend.  Why do women have to try to romantify everything?  Let ME make this real clear for you okay.  I am NOT a white knight on a whiet horse come to save you.  I am a DRAGON come to eat you up.



Nope just the reason that so many girls in this lifestyle assume anyone wanting a slave wants something they think is worthless.

Not everyone feels the way you do, and personally I think people who do think the way you do are no better than abussive husbands.

QSM

_____________________________

Guy Stud =Vs= Girl Slut ~~ Debate ENDED!

"If a Key opens many locks, then it is a Master Key, If a Lock is opened by lots of keys, then it is a Shitty Lock"

(in reply to MasterGoad88)
Profile   Post #: 74
RE: asking Male Masters who 'share' their slave(s) - 6/5/2010 8:06:39 PM   
bfslaveboi4u


Posts: 15
Joined: 10/1/2004
Status: offline 		LadyPact, i am a male slave who is Owned by another male (but have served a Mistress in the past). it has been told it must be shared with other Real Men. while technically this is all up to my Owner, i did know this could be part of the deal when i entered into a TPE relationship. after all, it is not TPE if the slave has veto power over what their Owner is allowed to do with the slave. that said i am sure my Owner would not want to risk danger to His property so this slave is confident it is being looked after. a slave is not a real slave if they make demands on what they will or will not do after they are collared. before then, hard limits should be discussed and agreed upon. but in this slave's opinion, once that is done then how and when the slave is used is ALL up to its Owner. otherwise, what the point? it becomes a mind game and for this slave, is no longer a real D/s relationship.

(in reply to LadyPact)
Profile   Post #: 75
RE: asking Male Masters who 'share' their slave(s) - 6/5/2010 9:21:17 PM   
IronBear


Posts: 9008
Joined: 6/19/2005
From: Beenleigh, Qld, Australia
Status: offline 		I agree with this lad jolly good post. My upbringing regarding the BDSM /Kink/Alternative Lifestyles were as many know, the Gorean Lifestyle in which I remained for nigh on 10 years. I didn't leave because I tired of Gor but rather the Victorian Lifestyle has far more in common with my own upbringing, family and values regarding manners, mannerisms, etiquette and social protocols as well as my social forays into the traditional aristocratic socializing. Still much of the Gorean Lifestyle is in place from how I train a girl to how I view her. I don't deal ownership wise with subs but exclusively with slaves. part of the courting period which for us is designated by the use of a probationary collar. In this period we, the slave and I, are able to ascertain if the slave will be domestic service only (no sex and no BDSM) and thus fitting into the mould of the Victorian maid, Domestic with both or either sex and or BDSM. I will also be able to ascertain of such a girl will graduate to the "Slut" status where she will be sexually provocative etc but hands off for all but myself, or to the "Whore" status when she may, not will but MAY, be shared either for complete penetrative sexual contact with select others or those select others will be able to handle her with the possibility of her giving head or masturbating the person. These assigned classifications are not set in concrete so that AFTER DISCUSSIONS between the slave and myself can be changes to what ever works the best for the dynamic. This is important because the first priority is the health and well being of my property and the health and well being of the dynamic/relationship. It is inconceivable that I would  command a slave to bed another person unless I knew this was within our agreed limitations of her use. After all she is as much my property as my dogs or even a race horse. Such property is not for general use and abuse which I may inflict on a piece of farming or earthmoving equipment or my computer for that matter. Every piece of my property is owned for a reason and valued for that. I would no sooner hitch a race horse even if retired for stud purposes to a plough and start ploughing a field as I would  use a heavy mine digger to collect dog shit from my pristine lawn (if I had one lol). My dai katana is never used to slice paper of the heads off corn or other garden uses. Why? because it's sole purpose of to defend my life and execute those who deserve to be executed. If I see a girl or girls in either my or the home collars as gems in the crown of BC, it is because I have seen the potential and with as much care and though a that gem cutter used, I have trained, cared for, and encouraged her to attain that level of development. I take pride and joy in every achievement of any of my property. In such a way is a home or it's Master/Mistress judged by their slaves. 

_____________________________

Iron Bear

Master of Bruin Cottage

http://www.bruincottage.org

Your attitude, words & actions are yours. Take responsibility for them and the consequences they incur.

D.I.L.L.I.G.A.F.

(in reply to bfslaveboi4u)
Profile   Post #: 76
RE: asking Male Masters who 'share' their slave(s) - 6/5/2010 9:36:53 PM   
lucylucy


Posts: 612
Joined: 3/1/2009
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx
I don't see where this has come up earlier, (and it's surprising because in a thread about fantasizing about getting someone pregnant even using protection it did) but...how are your doms protecting your health? Especially Daddy's prop, it sounds like it can be kind of random, and when he decides you're going to be used, you will be, by whomever.

Now...that sounds kinda hot in theory. In reality, I don't think this would be for me. But...here's the question: (well ok a statement and a question) before HM and I were together, we were both checked for any diseases and waited for the results. We didn't though, wait another six months and get checked again even though that would have been smarter. But, is everyone being checked and are you really really looking at these results or just taking their word(s) for it?

What about pregnancy? Wife4sharing, I remember reading you're pregnant now. (congrats to you and yours!) How do you know for sure that the pregnancy is due to what happens between you and your master/husband and not someone he has shared you with? I realize you probably use some sort of protection, but as we all know, they are not fool proof.

I noticed that no one ever addressed the safety issues blushes raised, and I'm also wondering about this.

In my own very limited experience with being shared, I performed some very low-risk activities without protection. If Master wanted me to have intercourse with another man, he would require a condom.

_____________________________

“There are those who give with joy, & that joy is their reward.” Gibran / "Those who are willing to be vulnerable move among mysteries." Roethke / "Let the beauty we love be what we do. There are hundreds of ways to kneel & kiss the ground." Rumi

(in reply to xxblushesxx)
Profile   Post #: 77
RE: asking Male Masters who 'share' their slave(s) - 6/6/2010 12:05:59 AM   
IronBear


Posts: 9008
Joined: 6/19/2005
From: Beenleigh, Qld, Australia
Status: offline 		I've stated here and elsewhere that "If its ( a condom) not on. it's (sex) is not on." Seeing that those who I would share with know me well and know that a girl will report to me after, they will follow the rules. This also applies to Neets and I swinging too with only one male trying to over ride my rules. He has never been seen in that limited group since as every one was told about his attempts to force the situation without protection whilst he was standing next to me. having said this, both Neets and I agree that should an unwanted pregnancy occur with any female slave in the BC Collar or our personal collars, the girl will have a choice of birthing the child with all the support we can give her or termination again with all the support we can give before and after. 

_____________________________

Iron Bear

Master of Bruin Cottage

http://www.bruincottage.org

Your attitude, words & actions are yours. Take responsibility for them and the consequences they incur.

D.I.L.L.I.G.A.F.

(in reply to lucylucy)
Profile   Post #: 78
RE: asking Male Masters who 'share' their slave(s) - 6/6/2010 12:57:37 AM   
Toppingfrmbottom


Posts: 6528
Joined: 6/7/2009
Status: offline 		sweet sub, one guys views of a slave, is not a reason to keep from being a slave to someone who'd actually be compatible with you. Not every one feels the same way as the guy quoted.
quote:

ORIGINAL: sweetsub1957

Wow. The bolded portions are one more reason i'd never be a slave..... Plus, i hear a lot of anger there.

~sweetsub~

(in reply to sweetsub1957)
Profile   Post #: 79
RE: asking Male Masters who 'share' their slave(s) - 6/6/2010 1:11:03 AM   
Toppingfrmbottom


Posts: 6528
Joined: 6/7/2009
Status: offline 		First I'm not a slave, and he's not a Master, that being said,Daddy is 100 percent against sharing me, and he only tolerated sharing me because circumstances were not the best and I needed more than he could give, but the situations in which I played had rules laid down, and those rules were adhered to faithfully. Now we live together, we're back to mostly not sharing, with the exception of approved situations, and usually with Daddy watching. And those situations only occur, because it means so much to me , to be allowed to play with others , since I am not only bi sexual, a switch but also wired to enjoy play with more than one person.

He does not look at me differently for having the needs or wants I do, hell he probably considers that the tamest of all my wants and needs, considering what he knows about some of my desires and kinks.


He does not think that allowing me to occasionally indulge in playing with others will lead to higher chances of cheating. In fact, it'd lead to lesser chances of cheating, because I wouldn't need to stray to get those needs met.  Not that I'd cheat if he didn't allow for those needs to be met, but if it went on long enough I WOULD become very very dissatisfied, and that may lead to talk of ending things.

quote:

ORIGINAL: wife4sharing

have a question for those who do share their slaves i wanted to get opinions on how you feel about this as far as way you see her?
does this make you feel closer to her that she is obedient enough to fulfill something like serving another male dominant? or do you think less of her because she did it, meaning if you owned her and you told her to do it and she did so, would you view her differently?(yes even though you ordered her to do so) also if you are married and are speaking of your slave wife, does this make you think she would ever cheat on you/serve another dom/master without you telling her to do so?
** i do know many here use different words for thier situations, hence slave/bottom/property/'it' and so on as well as top/master/owner/dom and so on so please understand am merely trying to get general idea and information on this subject. thank you very much

(in reply to wife4sharing)
Profile   Post #: 80
Page:   <<   < prev  1 2 3 [4] 5   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Master >> RE: asking Male Masters who 'share' their slave(s) Page: <<   < prev  1 2 3 [4] 5   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.113