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BitaTruble -> RE: Risks of internal enslavement aka TPE (5/29/2010 9:13:10 AM)
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ORIGINAL: barelynangel
Now here is the part 85% of the people won't like. You don't NEED to know what his thoughts are. Yuo don't need a choice. You don't have the right to know. Kinda harsh and scary concepts, yes? However, once you as a slave become comfortable with these concepts, your life will be a lot more feeling of secure and balance. Many slaves especially within the first year instinctively fight for controls they have had without thinking in other relationships. The control over their relationship, the control that they are "entitled" to certain things from their "partners" and the most instinctive, the right to know.
I don't disagree with this but I don't think it goes far enough. There are consequences to not knowing what your partner is thinking whether or not one is entitled to know. I speak only from my own experience, of course, but when I first met Himself, he told me that one of his goals in life was to, one day, work in Europe, at least for a while. Michael is the sort of man who makes things happen and if that was a goal, I was pretty sure that *one day* would eventually come around so when he came to me and said there was an opportunity for a really good job in Portugal with an chance for growth and that he was going to apply and thought he had a good chance to get it, I was prepared, in theory, for a new phase. Sure enough, about 10 months later we were living in Portugal. I knew up front of this possibility and wanted to be with him anyway even though I knew I might have to leave my family, my culture, my language, food etc, all behind. By him sharing that with me, it enabled *me* to make an initial decision on whether I wanted to be with a man who might, one day, take me away from everyone and everything I know. I choose *yes* to that but could just as easily have chosen *no* and gone off on my own seeking someone who would be compatible with me.. or, just being by myself which is fine as well.
It would make for one pretty foolish master and one who I doubt is going to be able to keep a woman much less master her if she has to guess at things because she doesn't have the right to know. Michael's wife refused to move from Florida to the West Coast and, rightfully, she never knew it was even a possibility and the move he made without her, ultimately, severed their relationship. He would have had no qualms about moving to Portugal without me either but the difference is, I knew up front it was a possibility and choose to be with him anyway.
The other thing about withholding information whether it's the big stuff or the small stuff, is the sort of service a Master can expect from a slave if he fails to explain exactly what it is that he does want from her. I can't serve anyone very well if I don't know them.. otherwise it's all guess work on my part and then the service comes from my own direction instead of his. If I feel like having shrimp for dinner and he doesn't let me know he wants steak, then he's coming home to a shrimp dinner, so it does behoove a dominant partner to share. So, I agree, I don't think slaves do have the *right* to know.. but within that parameter, a Master doesn't have the *right* to expect their slave to be a mindreader and above all, the big stuff that's not shared up front, before that collar is slapped on, can cause more problems than it's really worth if there are hidden aspects that might have made someone make a different initial decision about whether that collar was going on at all.
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