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leadership527 -> RE: Risks of internal enslavement aka TPE (5/27/2010 2:47:28 PM)
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ORIGINAL: SocratesNot
The point of my thread are RISKS involved in TPE, not discussion of perfectly healthy relationships.
Fair enough... and let's be clear... no pain, no gain. Whether or not one does any sort of weird, freaky, BDSM-ish sort of thing, intimacy is risk.... the more intimacy, the more risk. I make no bones about it, such things are not safe and they are not for the risk averse. They especially are not for the unwise and/or unwary. It's a high stakes game of poker where the only valid moves are to fold or go all-in.
Here's some risks that nobody's talked to you about yet because everyone (you included) is always so focused on the poor, opressed slave girls.
- I LOVE Carol. Can you imagine how I would feel if one day Carol turned to me and said, "How could you do this to me?" In such a situation, the word devastated would not even begin to describe how I would feel. You could go ahead and tack on similar words till you ran out of them and it still wouldn't even begin to cover it.
- For those involved in SM, ANY time the sadist touches the masochist, they are leaving themselves pretty much wide open to criminal charges. Really, the law in the US doesn't countenance such things.
- How about the risk of being in charge? Whatever happens in our relationship, for better or worse, it is MY doing. If things turn out poorly, then it's my fault. I am the leader and the full burden of responsibility for the plans I've set in motion are mine to shoulder. There's a reason why very few people want to actually step up to leadership positions and that is it. It's a freakin risky place to be out here on the pointy end of the stick. There's a reason the phrase "It's lonely at the top" is true.
I could go on. What I'm pointing out is that ALL great endeavors carry with them significant risk. Some of us choose to dream and reach even with the risk of falling to our doom. It's a mistake to think that it is only the slave who is at risk. As is always true, it is the leadership position which is far riskier than those who follow the leader.
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