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RE: Sunshine's theory of D/s - 5/28/2010 5:01:59 AM

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YOu do know Egypt is in AFRICA, right? not anywhere close to me. *Just saying.

LOL.. Yep, knew that. And Egypt is, I believe, the only country you can go to in Africa without having to get shots first (not that such is a bad thing for someone like myself who is totally into sharpies!!) We missed an opportunity with it, though. When we were in Portugal, Africa was the perfect spot for a three day weekend. We could drive to the ferry, cross the Straight to Ceutu (Spanish terriorty) and be there in just over 6 hours but with the schedule Himself was on, we just didn't get to take advantage of it. That said, he's still working on regulation for the medical devices with the government, so we will be taken frequent trips back and perhaps get to extend one of those into a long weekend and make that drive. Even closer from Loule than from Lisbon.. cuts three hours or so driving time off before getting on to the ferry!

I'm not sure how Himself feels about a trip to the Phillipines. I'll have to ask! :)

Okay,.. that was my last thread highjack, I promise!

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RE: Sunshine's theory of D/s - 5/28/2010 5:40:34 AM

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I'm probably closer to the stage of "just being" then I have ever been but with that comes a lot of self analysis...it's hard to just be unless you understand yourself.

I think many people think that living by programing without much thought as to why you do what you do is just being... Personaly I don't see it that way...to me that's living off others expectations of what you should be rather than being.

I lived that way until I was 40. Married, had a child, divorced, years of corperate work, starting my own business...living in the box that society and family had created for me...fulfilling my obligations of success by their standards.

I never gave it much thought or analysis... but I also don't consider it an act of being.

At 40, my daughter raised and off exploring her own possibilities, I looked around at my "success" and realized that none of it meant anything to me...that what I had achieved was never what I desired but was what others had deemed as valuable...so I left.

I sold everything I owned, got rid of everything that owned and influenced me. Removed myself from the sphere of influence created by friends and family and spent the next 8 years just being, experiencing, discovering, travelling.

I guess I'm a person of extremes...but in order to find myself, I had to strip myself of everything, including security and a sense of belonging anywhere or to anyone.

The last 2 years have been a combination of existing on a day to day level and a great deal of self analysis. At remembering times of extreme happiness and understanding why I had felt that way...of looking at past relationships and discovering what had made one better then the other...of looking at things that triggered certain responces and understanding why.

I'm not done yet, there are still parts of me that I don't understand...and that's what has brought me here.

Lol, this started out to be a simple paragraph about the difference of being and programming... Please excuse my self indulgence but I guess it's something I needed to put into words...

To tie it in to the thread... I believe reflection is important...just be sure you've lived enough to have something to reflect on.

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RE: Sunshine's theory of D/s - 5/28/2010 5:46:23 AM

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jb.. this falls (IMO) under the heading of LIVE LIFE.. *hugs*

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RE: Sunshine's theory of D/s - 5/28/2010 9:06:45 AM

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I believe reflection is important...just be sure you've lived enough to have something to reflect on.

I agree.

I don't quite understand how two intellectual bullies have managed to dominate this site with threads on their half-baked, insular theory, posing as "asking questions" or "inviting discussion".

Even Aristotle, who these kids like to quote, believed experience and observation were vital in finding the truth. This particular philosopher was, by the way, an initiate of an ancient (and still secret) rite that was, at its core, raw emotion.

It would be a kick to draw parallels between the transformations induced by the Mysteries of Eleusis and BDSM, but I won't. I'd be afraid those philosophy quoters would bring up some wierdass, insulting crap, derailing a perfectly fine discourse. Aristotle deserves better.

For that matter, so do we.

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RE: Sunshine's theory of D/s - 5/29/2010 9:11:42 PM

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I'm probably closer to the stage of "just being" then I have ever been but with that comes a lot of self analysis...it's hard to just be unless you understand yourself.

Jbcurious,

how interesting and touching to read your words about the lifetravel you choose. Although i do not want to describe my own way of lifetravel just now, i found some similarities and the qouted sentence is the coretruth i also found. that the freedom i have achieved now of times of "just being" or being in the moment and not in the past or future are only possilbe through the times i spend with the process of understanding myself.

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RE: Sunshine's theory of D/s - 5/30/2010 12:20:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: January

I don't quite understand how two intellectual bullies have managed to dominate this site with threads on their half-baked, insular theory, posing as "asking questions" or "inviting discussion".

i agree. They are both such prolific posters that i can't seem to avoid their BS, even if i try.

i have nothing against philosophy, or the stuff of 20 year old imaginations. But if i have to tolerate masturbation, i'd prefer that it be the physical type, rather than the mental masturbation of two insolent children.

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RE: Sunshine's theory of D/s - 5/30/2010 7:20:52 PM

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I have, at times, wished that I could just turn off my analytical side and simply 'be'. If I could do that I might enjoy life more.

That's my favourite thing about some kinds of S/M play - they make my brain shut up, and I'm incapable of coherent thought or speech. I love talking with my partner afterward about philosophy, D/s, physics, computers, our relatives, and so forth, but in that limited time frame, I am "in a state of being."

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