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Mercnbeth -> RE: Can a slave have plans and aspirations? (6/9/2010 4:51:08 PM)
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I do not think you would expect it, nor do I expect you to change your opinion. Isn't strange that this is called an exchange of arguments? The logical result should be you taking my position and me taking yours, and both continuing to argue. But I digress.
Agreement is never required nor expected. I live my opinion. I hope I never have a reason to change it; however I'll be the first to tell you that I can make a better practical case for your position than I can for mine. I've said it on this forum many times before. We are 'successful' now - as of this moment. Only the death of one of us will determine if that 'success' was for forever.
I don't post our reality for acceptance, agreement, or trying to point to a 'one true way' for happiness. The only 'dogma' represented is 'Merc & beth' dogma. I see challenge not as an attack but as a tool for further confirmation. I thank you for the opportunity!
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As for planing for failure = achieving a failure. During WWI, at the beginning French pilots were denied parachutes because their generals thought it would entice them to jump instead of fighting to the bitter end... I suppose it is an attitude that has its worth "burning the bridge (or the boats) behind you" is a time honored strategy after all. It is not mine.
As for planing for failure = achieving a failure. During WWI, at the beginning French pilots were denied parachutes because their generals thought it would entice them to jump instead of fighting to the bitter end... I suppose it is an attitude that has its worth "burning the bridge (or the boats) behind you" is a time honored strategy after all. It is not mine.
You misinterpret my position. I don't discount the practical need to have a "parachute"; and I don't advocate for burning bridges. I measure a relationships confidence on having a common "bridge" and sharing a parachute; while at the same time coming into it with enough self confidence and ability to be able to build a bridge or fashion your own if all the good planning and commonality of commitment somehow fails.
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My example and the question "is it worth?" were purely hypothetical and had nothing with you and Beth. I didn't take it personal, my response was honest and from the heart. It was the only way to try and convey a very important sentiment.
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The point I tried to make that primo such a sacrifice must be weighted against the relationship, and secundo that the dominant, as a leader of the couple must have weighted it in a rational manner with the common good in mind. I've documented my what I "sacrificed" for beth in our journal. I go so far as to say I "hate" her for making me less independent. I hate her because until she came into my life I never experienced loneliness as I do now every minute she is not with me. That was a sacrifice for me, but one, I must admit, worth it. My biggest fear now is that she is taken from my life. I never had that type of fear before. Yes - for these and other reasons I hate beth with a passion! Hell - I think I've sacrificed much more than beth!
But I could not have weighed that rationally before because I never believed it possible. As I said - yours is the better position to have in debating the issue.
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However, and that will be my last philosophical question for tonight, when we grab a beer, are we not performing a self-centered action? On one level yes! But trust me, beth will be there too!
You forgot one - Cent' Anni!
Looking forward to the opportunity!
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