quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyKim

spankmepink11,

It is important to remember that there is a difference when it comes to genders.  Females and males find their validation in different things, so there is going to be a difference in how a male dominates vs how a female does.  It is also important to remember that men are physically stronger than women, so it takes a different strength (and projection of that that strength) in order for a male to feel he needs to surrender to a female. 

It requires understanding the differences in where men and women find their validation in order to understand what is behind the notion of female supremacy.  It isn't that men are preceived as being substandard or third world citizens.  It is the understanding that men find a great deal of their validation in their sexuality.  Females are the keepers of the gene pool throughout all species which means they have the final selection on whom they will breed with in order to pass on the genetics to the next generation.  A lioness will actually force her body to miscarry a cub of an alpha lion that has been defeated and kill any young cups sired by that dethroned alpha in order to prevent those genes which are now inferior to someone elses from being passed on to future generations.  Her body will also immediately go into heat in order to mate with the new alpha with the superior genetic material.  I'm not saying men aren't selective, because they do have their own criteria; however, it is a woman's choice (outside of rape) of who she is going to have sex with.  It is in that arena that women have an advantage over men which is part of the cornerstone for female supremacy.  It isn't just thinking that one gender is better than the other.

Confidence is something that is required in dominants.  Women are more inclined towards being nurturers and seek security and safety.  So male dominants are more apt to appeal to those needs when seeking a female submissive; however, male submissives need to know the female dominant is goign to hold them accountable and exert strength over him in a way that is more than physical.  It isn't that female dominants are man haters.  As a female dominant, I can say I TRULY LOVE those of the male gender.  While a female submissive can feel 'taken' by a dominant man because of his physical strength, a male sub needs more of the psychological projection of strength in order to feel taken. 

Take the time to read through male profiles.  They are seeking a Goddess, Queen, Princess type.  These are all authority figures that require the male to do what pleases them or face the consequences.  Royals are historically not overly concerned with how their subjects feel about something.  (Of course, there are always exceptions to any rule.)  The ones that are looking for more of a mother type personality still see the woman as a disciplinary authoritarian.   Male submissives need to feel the woman has that authority in order to submit to being put into a position of being helpless.  Female submissives know that in general most male doms can secure them even if they put up a struggle. 

So, I can't say I agree with your perception of the differences in male and female dominants.  I know I am a very nurturing, caring, compassionate person ......... even with a submissive; however, I am also capable of being a taxing and strict sadist when I wish to be.  One does not prevent the other. 

quote:

ORIGINAL: amayos

No doubt about it—there are double-standards between the sexes in the practice. While I may disagree with the supposition that dominant females are less nurturing to their submissive males, they do seem to enjoy a gamut of concepts and behaviors that at times extend beyond what is widely allowed for males in the same subculture. Collarme.com is no exception, in fact. A simple glance at their selectable "lifestyle" interests section makes female supremacy readily available, but male supremacy is of course absent—despite the fair suggestion to add it in the past.

It's not really a big deal, however. I think many males see the disparities, but most really don't care.

quote:

ORIGINAL: MsSophie

Do I hate men? Sometimes. I know it's unfair to 70% of the male species, but I really do sometimes.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Level

quote:

ORIGINAL: MsSophie

Do I hate men? Sometimes. I know it's unfair to 70% of the male species, but I really do sometimes.

Why?

quote:

ORIGINAL: PrinceSitri

Because a large number of them let their pricks do all of their thinking! I'll leave it to Sophie to elaborate on that when she's stopped seething. If she wants to do so, of course.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Level

quote:

ORIGINAL: MsSophie

Do I hate men? Sometimes. I know it's unfair to 70% of the male species, but I really do sometimes.

Why?

quote:

No doubt about it—there are double-standards between the sexes in the practice. While I may disagree with the supposition that dominant females are less nurturing to their submissive males, they do seem to enjoy a gamut of concepts and behaviors that at times extend beyond what is widely allowed for males in the same subculture. Collarme.com is no exception, in fact. A simple glance at their selectable "lifestyle" interests section makes female supremacy readily available, but male supremacy is of course absent—despite the fair suggestion to add it in the past.

quote:

To be honest, I've noticed more pronounced differences between male and female SUBS than between male and female doms. 

quote:

What I have found in the profiles on the whole is that a HUGE number of Dommes are looking for generous slaves, many stipulate that there is no commitment on her part, and that men are nothing more than animals to be abused.  I do not know if that is generally the case, as I only search Canadian profiles.

quote:

ORIGINAL: spankmepink11


I've observed, and please....this is not an attack on anyone, that  most  Female dominants seem to subscribe to the premise of females being a supierior being, and tend  to have a general sense of disdain for the males in general....to the point of cruelty....but...if involved with a woman.....the dynamic is more along the lines of the way a  Male dominant will treat His female........there just seems to more of an underlying nurturing....and concern for ones well being in the Male Dom/female sub relationship.
I was really just curious if this is something others have noticed....and hope no one takes personal offense...I've always wanted  other s opinions and input on this particular topic.
thanks.... 

quote:

ORIGINAL: Level

quote:

ORIGINAL: PrinceSitri

Because a large number of them let their pricks do all of their thinking! I'll leave it to Sophie to elaborate on that when she's stopped seething. If she wants to do so, of course.

Even if true, that's a poor reason to hate another.

quote:

ORIGINAL: spankmepink11

I've observed, and please....this is not an attack on anyone, that  most  Female dominants seem to subscribe to the premise of females being a supierior being, and tend  to have a general sense of disdain for the males in general....to the point of cruelty....but...if involved with a woman.....the dynamic is more along the lines of the way a  Male dominant will treat His female........there just seems to more of an underlying nurturing....and concern for ones well being in the Male Dom/female sub relationship.
I was really just curious if this is something others have noticed....and hope no one takes personal offense...I've always wanted  other s opinions and input on this particular topic.
thanks.... 

quote:

ORIGINAL: Level
Why?

quote:

ORIGINAL: PrinceSitri

The female supremacists I've actually known are no less nurturing towards their subs than anyone else. We are - after all - dealing with fantasy here and - sociopaths aside (and they are thankfully very rare) - underneath the fantasy they're just human beings with a full complement of human desires and emotions.