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RE: Male vs Female Dominants...is it just me? - 4/14/2006 7:57:38 PM

SusanofO

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Never mind. Figured it out how to insert quotes into a reply (and can't believe it was so easy. I've been using too many other different types of PC computers).

I think people should just do what turns them on. I can almost get migraines when I start having to take responsibility for other people's relationships and what everybody else wants to do...(although I can be a real "softie" and try to consider how the way I am acting might affect their situation(s) if my actions are playing out on a personal level in real life.

I mean, if someone is "talking like a Domme" or "sounds "too" sub-like: Suppose it does mean that 's"what they are really like...".

Say that person then: Changes their Id, their on-line nic, and even maybe moves to a city, even where there are "more of their kind" or: Gets into a relationship with the person who told them that's where their proclivities lay most. I really do know I am a submissive, btw, I am just considering what may happen to people to whom these things may be said sometimes.-

They're still gonna have to see if they "click" with a potential partner. They're still going to have to "work at it" and discover eachother. They may be "narrowing the odds" of possible failure(if they are hoping for a relationship, some people are not) but - they just also could be ruling out one of the better experiences they could have in their lives using some imposed and questionably valid criteria that someone fed them who did not consider the questionee's individual situation. There is good advice out there, though. I am not saying anything new I am sure. I am, quite possibly, talking to myself again (it's good for me, too).

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RE: Male vs Female Dominants...is it just me? - 4/15/2006 1:52:08 AM

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Female superiority isn't something I believe in. But then I don't believe in male superiority either.

Personally the gender aspect is irrelevant to me. I look at both male or female partners who take a sub role (I'm switch) to be treated with care and concern. Plus if I'm in the sub role then I expect the same in return.

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RE: Male vs Female Dominants...is it just me? - 4/15/2006 7:24:52 AM

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ORIGINAL: spankmepink11

This post in regards to the difference in attitude and demeanor of Male and Female Dominants. If this has been covered in a previous thread...i apologize...but since i've been reading the forums it's brought to the forefront of my mind...the major differences i see in the Male and Female points of view.
I've observed, and please....this is not an attack on anyone, that most Female dominants seem to subscribe to the premise of females being a supierior being, and tend to have a general sense of disdain for the males in general....to the point of cruelty....but...if involved with a woman.....the dynamic is more along the lines of the way a Male dominant will treat His female........there just seems to more of an underlying nurturing....and concern for ones well being in the Male Dom/female sub relationship.
I was really just curious if this is something others have noticed....and hope no one takes personal offense...I've always wanted other s opinions and input on this particular topic.
thanks....

I can only speak for myself as an individual dominant personality and my actions. I treat no one with disdain and am a very nurturing person. A sub that is mine will be treated as a treasured pet. I have never had a female as a sub nor do I desire one but I believe that if that came to pass I would treat them the same as I treat my male as a treasured pet, there is no cruelty in that. Everyone has their own aspects of BDSM that is their main source of interest. And honestly I have been approached by subs that want to be degraded and treated like dirt all the time which I have turned away. Everyone has their way of expressing themselves in the dynamics of their relationships no matter vanilla or BDSM.

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