quote:

ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

Ok, well, you are always at risk for being ditched. We all are. It's the risk you take to be in a relationship. You do need to remember though, that if he does ditch you (him or anyone in the future), then they really aren't right for you after all.

See it is one thing to see them and think "Oh aren't they happy." It is quite another though when you go to sit down and are reminded quite pointedly that she comes before you. The subconscious can be funny that way.

quote:

ORIGINAL: lucky2beyours91

i wanted to be on the other side of Him so He could touch my hair also and so i could be closer to my Master also. It made me feel just horrible.

quote:

ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

quote:

ORIGINAL: lucky2beyours91

i wanted to be on the other side of Him so He could touch my hair also and so i could be closer to my Master also. It made me feel just horrible.

You were sitting exactly where he wanted you to sit. Rather than allowing that to make you feel horrible, let it fill you that it pleased him to have you sit in that spot rather than some other spot, whether it was next to him or not. Being submissive isn't always easy. It's not always going to be getting what *you* want but doing your best so that all the parties involved are enhanced by the relationship. Your emotions are very valid and you feel what you feel but do try to see things from the larger perspective. If he didn't want you in his life, you wouldn't even have that seat next to his slave at all.

Just something to think about.

quote:

And, i'd just like to know...what He wanted me to feel when pointing that out...how was i suppose to feel? Strive to be better? And what He really desires? i don't understand...

quote:

ORIGINAL: jennileigh8182

And this is why i tend to avoid 19 year olds *cheeky grin*  look at all the changes in the story that emerged on page 9...

quote:

ORIGINAL: January

quote:

And, i'd just like to know...what He wanted me to feel when pointing that out...how was i suppose to feel? Strive to be better? And what He really desires? i don't understand...

Hi lucky,

I think this is an extremely important question. I hope you'll ask him. His reply may well tell you what your future as his sub will be.

I do sincerely wish you happiness,

January

quote:

ORIGINAL: jennileigh8182

You know, I read this whole thread, and didn't feel the least bit like being condescending until now.

"Lucky"...someone else mentioned reading comprehension, so now you bandy it about as your stock response to anyone disagreeing with you.  Bravo. -insert sarcasm-

As was pointed out, you referred to someone as your lover, then on page 9 (i think, could have been 8) suddenly say you're not having sex.  Sorry, a lover is someone that you have sex with.  You also said that your relationship was "about more than just sex"...which implies that sex is part of it.  If it weren't, you should have said "our relationship is based on non-sexual factors."

You started out just saying how devastated you were by the comment he made, and now, on page 10, you say that it aroused you.  Given that he may have known it'd do that, that was some information left out/story changed from the original post.

You say he doesn't accept many subs....but then you turn around and say he's had many before you.  You don't have many of something without accepting/acquiring many of them.  Unless he bred them in captivity or something...which...eww...but I guess he's old enough that he actually COULD have started breeding subs when he was young and they'd be adult and ready to play by now. (yes, that's me making a joke)

You say that you're new and he's teaching you the lifestyle...ok...but then you say that you've had a poly relationship with two dominants before.  This one...grey area, not sure whether I buy it or not, but it's your story.

And, a few pages back, you had said you wouldn't be posting here anymore, since you now knew you had to go talk to him about it....and...well...need I point it out?

quote:

Why?

quote:

ORIGINAL: January

quote:

Why?

Why what?

All I was trying to write was this: if he tells you one thing and later does another, you don't have a trustworthy partner. Only you can decide if that matters. But you should certainly think about it mattering if you are hurting.

I am not saying you dislike his slave. I am not dissing Poly. I'm just saying you don't need his permission to buh-bye him.

January

quote:

 i am not that much into sex even because i am so young and He promised not to push that stuff on me...and He hasn't.. if anything i am asking to have more because i crave it.

quote:

 is ... He isn't just wanting me for sex. He is polite in every aspect ....... especially when it comes to sexual stuff since i am so new to it all

quote:

ORIGINAL: DarlingSavage
Also, what about that wife of his?  How do you think this makes her feel?  Have you tried putting yourself in her place?  I mean, you obviously don't have THAT much respect for her position cause you're still hanging around. 

quote:

ORIGINAL: VirginPotty

quote:

W/we don't have sex, it's not in our relationship..it's not part of O/our arrangement ............so yet again it's something you are coming to false conclusions about because you don't know my relationship. Please, just stop :/.

quote:

 i am not that much into sex even because i am so young and He promised not to push that stuff on me...and He hasn't.. if anything i am asking to have more because i crave it.

quote:

 is ... He isn't just wanting me for sex. He is polite in every aspect ....... especially when it comes to sexual stuff since i am so new to it all

[sm=dunno.gif]Which is it? Yes or no?

quote:

ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom

Darling Savage, this is just more pure crap from you being spewed out, based on your preferances and judgments.  Some people are Poly, If you're a poly couple the new girl, is not hurting a thing by simply being in the relationship. She's most likely a welcome edition to both the man AND the WIFE. So just because you apparently have something against poly, you  claim she's butting into a exsisting relationship, or harming another ladies relationship, and that's just plain wrong to paint your personal preferences, judgments, and opinions about poly onto someone else.


Unless of course I am missing something and the wife is not the slave being mentioned when he says slave before sub.

quote:

ORIGINAL: DarlingSavage
Also, what about that wife of his?  How do you think this makes her feel?  Have you tried putting yourself in her place?  I mean, you obviously don't have THAT much respect for her position cause you're still hanging around.