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WinsomeDefiance -> RE: i need some advice please (6/22/2010 2:31:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lucky2beyours91 Anyways, this argument is stupid and has nothing to do with the question i asked :/ Really, it's your opinion if you think it's ok or not but i am the one in the relationship and find it fine so i guess it is. Mreowrr! Aren't we a fierce little ladybug. I agree with you, which was what I was trying to say. I guess I did it badly. I could speak on the question you posed. I've been a part of a couple Poly households. However, I'd just be parroting what Calla and LP said. I see no reason to be redundant. S'all good, so long as it's all good. WinD

DarlingSavage -> RE: i need some advice please (6/22/2010 2:36:46 PM)
quote: He's had many submissives ....i am the youngest He has had. He does not accept many. This statement contradicts itself. i had to prove i was worthy, i had to do some stuff in order for Him to accept me as His submissive. i did it better than most 40 year olds He said that have wanted Him. The fact is i have the potential and i showed it that i did to become the goddness submissive He desires... if i am able to do so and have showed i am...why does my age matter? if i am ready? if W/we have a connection? If i truly feel my true feelings coming out when around Him. Why would you want to have a connection with some dirty old man? Honey, I just don't know what to tell you, seems to me you are hellbent on being with this guy no matter how bad it hurts. He's had so many submissives, well where are they now? What happened to them? How do you know how old they were? His wife and Him are swingers, i know Her already have met her..He makes sure no one goes over His wife..and i respect Him a lot for that, for the respect He has for Her. Not to mention she trains her own boys since she is a Domme. If she is a Domme, then why is she his slave? This isn't consistent with your previous statements, but oh well, you're correct, I was unclear on this aspect of the situation. But, i really shouldn't be discussing this further,. it seems wrong to. Just you don't really know the situation so it's kind of hard to judge you are making a lot of assumptions that really aren't true. The fact that you're 19 and he's old enough to be your grandfather is not an assumption.

angelikaJ -> RE: i need some advice please (6/22/2010 2:42:18 PM)
As I recall, he has a wife, a slave and a submissive. Evidently, his wife is a Domme as well.

DarlingSavage -> RE: i need some advice please (6/22/2010 2:45:01 PM)
I thought his wife was his slave.

RCdc -> RE: i need some advice please (6/22/2010 2:45:26 PM)
You don't have to justify nor explain your relationship in detail lucky - just ignore people that make up their own scenarios and second guess other people and concentrate on the postive posts you have had. quote: So i couldn't just get use to this? i think maybe i can is the thing? if i stop being so sensitive? Because He does give me a lot of attention and what i keep telling myself is that i don't need to be first..i am with Him for the experience because i am in college ....i am having the time of my life...having a D/s relationship at this age with someone so experienced is just icing on the cake. i have all my life to find that one person who will give me everything. But at my age, i can't and don't want to find that one person yet..i just want to learn and gain experience only. Only you can answer that lucky. If you are happy to try then I'd say go for it. He sounds reasonable enough and hasn't misled you from what you have posted. You seem to be viewing it as a learning curve anyway - I don't see you actions as naive or anything. You seem pretty grounded - still going through college and not giving anything up and are doing this because it's fun. It's good to be aware that not everyone is poly or has experience of it. I would suggest that the people who have given good solid advice like DameCalla would be good to focus on. Best wishes. the.dark.

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: i need some advice please (6/22/2010 2:45:46 PM)
So long as he isn't HER grandfather [sm=eeew.gif] I don't see what the big deal is. I like older men. Of course, the older I get the harder it is to FIND older men that are still ....umm....breathing.

RCdc -> RE: i need some advice please (6/22/2010 2:48:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarlingSavage I thought his wife was his slave. Yes, but then you have been second guessing the girl from the start with what you think and being really horrid to her instead of attempting to talk to her. As someone said to you before, how on earth is that even productive in the slightest? the.dark.

DarlingSavage -> RE: i need some advice please (6/22/2010 2:48:54 PM)
I like men a little older than myself, but not that much older. And worse, it's really hard to find attractive men my own age. That part really sucks, but I don't care how cute a 20 yr old might be, I just can't do it, I just can't see myself being with someone that young, they wouldn't be able to connect with me on a mental level. They won't be able to relate to my own cultural and life experiences, we're not on the same level.

lucky2beyours91 -> RE: i need some advice please (6/22/2010 2:51:06 PM)
-Just because He has had many throughout His lifetime doesn't mean He doesn't accept a lot..sorry He's older and has had a lot of experience? How the hell is that contradicting myself? -His wife is not His slave...He has His wife, His slave, than me do you see how you are pulling at strings here and you don't understand the situation? This is getting annoying:/ .

lucky2beyours91 -> RE: i need some advice please (6/22/2010 2:52:21 PM)
You don't know my situation you don't know what you're talking about............really it's that simple . i'm proving it over and over again with the more you say. you keep coming to wrong conclusions that are indeed false.

Jeffff -> RE: i need some advice please (6/22/2010 2:53:32 PM)
WE don't NEED to know. We have opinions silly girl!

lucky2beyours91 -> RE: i need some advice please (6/22/2010 2:54:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RCdc You don't have to justify nor explain your relationship in detail lucky - just ignore people that make up their own scenarios and second guess other people and concentrate on the postive posts you have had. quote: So i couldn't just get use to this? i think maybe i can is the thing? if i stop being so sensitive? Because He does give me a lot of attention and what i keep telling myself is that i don't need to be first..i am with Him for the experience because i am in college ....i am having the time of my life...having a D/s relationship at this age with someone so experienced is just icing on the cake. i have all my life to find that one person who will give me everything. But at my age, i can't and don't want to find that one person yet..i just want to learn and gain experience only. Only you can answer that lucky. If you are happy to try then I'd say go for it. He sounds reasonable enough and hasn't misled you from what you have posted. You seem to be viewing it as a learning curve anyway - I don't see you actions as naive or anything. You seem pretty grounded - still going through college and not giving anything up and are doing this because it's fun. It's good to be aware that not everyone is poly or has experience of it. I would suggest that the people who have given good solid advice like DameCalla would be good to focus on. Best wishes. the.dark. thank You .

marie2 -> RE: i need some advice please (6/22/2010 2:55:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff WE don't NEED to know. We have opinions silly girl! Shouldn't you be off polishing your tiara? ya know...the pink one that says LP's bitch on it.

Jeffff -> RE: i need some advice please (6/22/2010 2:56:46 PM)
I am the only one on the ENTIRE board who like you, and this is how you treat me.

angelikaJ -> RE: i need some advice please (6/22/2010 2:58:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lucky2beyours91 -Just because He has had many throughout His lifetime doesn't mean He doesn't accept a lot..sorry He's older and has had a lot of experience? How the hell is that contradicting myself? -His wife is not His slave...He has His wife, His slave, than me do you see how you are pulling at strings here and you don't understand the situation? This is getting annoying:/ . Sometimes people are so intent on proving themselves to be right that they are unable to see the whole picture and therefore their reading comprehension goes to hell. Btw: if you are becoming frustrated with a particular poster there is an easy fix. Beneath their photo/avatar on the left side there is a button that says Hide. Once you click on that you can't see them until someone quotes them.

DarlingSavage -> RE: i need some advice please (6/22/2010 2:59:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lucky2beyours91 -Just because He has had many throughout His lifetime doesn't mean He doesn't accept a lot..sorry He's older and has had a lot of experience? How the hell is that contradicting myself? -His wife is not His slave...He has His wife, His slave, than me do you see how you are pulling at strings here and you don't understand the situation? This is getting annoying:/ . I haven't seen this stated anywhere until just now. Still, though, it doesn't change the rest of the facts. I hope you don't end up getting hurt, that's all. If he's had many, then clearly, he has accepted a lot. You cannot have many without accepting many. No, I don't see how I'm pulling at strings here, I'm merely going on what information I've been given. The main information which is the fact that you're NINETEEN yrs old. Like I said, I hope you don't end up getting hurt. As for training, well, what kind of training are you getting? This is the real world, not Gor.

lucky2beyours91 -> RE: i need some advice please (6/22/2010 2:59:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: angelikaJ quote: ORIGINAL: lucky2beyours91 -Just because He has had many throughout His lifetime doesn't mean He doesn't accept a lot..sorry He's older and has had a lot of experience? How the hell is that contradicting myself? -His wife is not His slave...He has His wife, His slave, than me do you see how you are pulling at strings here and you don't understand the situation? This is getting annoying:/ . Sometimes people are so intent on proving themselves to be right that they are unable to see the whole picture and therefore their reading comprehension goes to hell. Btw: if you are becoming frustrated with a particular poster there is an easy fix. Beneath their photo/avatar on the left side there is a button that says Hide. Once you click on that you can't see them until someone quotes them. mymymy! thank you! lol

marie2 -> RE: i need some advice please (6/22/2010 3:01:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff I am the only one on the ENTIRE board who like you, and this is how you treat me. Yes! 573,976,091 down and 1 to go!

sirsholly -> RE: i need some advice please (6/22/2010 3:02:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff I am the only one on the ENTIRE board who like you, and this is how you treat me. HEY!!! Watch it smart-ass. I happen to like..er...uh......whasshername.

marie2 -> RE: i need some advice please (6/22/2010 3:04:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sirsholly quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff I am the only one on the ENTIRE board who like you, and this is how you treat me. HEY!!! Watch it smart-ass. I happen to like..er...uh......whasshername. ha! You want me!

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