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ORIGINAL: Andalusite

For me, I'd be annoyed enough by the "silent treatment" to not want him back.  Throwing the temper tantrum in the first place wasn't good either, but if he'd thought things through and come back and talked sensibly, then we might have been able to work things out.  Personally, I think that someone who was that selfish and tight-fisted isn't someone I'd want to be involved with in the first place.

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ORIGINAL: MissAsylum

UPDATE: the person in question came to my house this morning to talk. he came by announced, which from day one was a rule NOT to do. I heard what he had to say since I assumed that i was getting an apology. Not even close. He stated that he felt it was wrong that i asked him to pay a portion for the cross since he has never paid before and he has no intention to start now. He also said that he deserves an apology for even suggesting he pay anything for the cross, as well as an apology for not even bothering to call him after he left and that once i say sorry, we can continue where we left off, provided that i dont ask for any of his money again. i wanted to laugh inside, but instead i told him that I do not want to continue our relationship, because his perceptions of how things work in the real world have been warped. he doesn't deserve my time nor any other domme's time if he believes thats how things should be. he left off in a huff- again. i don't care to deal with anybody who can be that selfish.

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ORIGINAL: crazyml


I don't think anyone has actually suggested that the sub ought to be spending money "left and right"... but the fact that in three years he's only bought her cupcakes for a birthday, and taken her to dinner once does seem to indicate to me that he could do a whole lot more spending before becoming even close to spending money "left and right..."

I get the impression that if there were a scale, with "totally tight fisted bastard" being 1 and "Total money pig" at 1000, this chap is .... well let's be generous and say "a four or five..."

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ORIGINAL: MissAsylum

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ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom

And you have missed the post, where she said, her bf doesn't want her sub to be taking her on very  dates,  buying her gifts, and doing all that finacial type doting on her,  Bf feels that's his job and for sub to do so is stepping on the bf's toes and into territory a sub isn't welcome to step into.

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ORIGINAL: crazyml


I don't think anyone has actually suggested that the sub ought to be spending money "left and right"... but the fact that in three years he's only bought her cupcakes for a birthday, and taken her to dinner once does seem to indicate to me that he could do a whole lot more spending before becoming even close to spending money "left and right..."

I get the impression that if there were a scale, with "totally tight fisted bastard" being 1 and "Total money pig" at 1000, this chap is .... well let's be generous and say "a four or five..."

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ORIGINAL: DaddysInkedSlut
Again why does someone have to spend lots of money on someone to show they are devoted to them? Perhaps its simply not part of their dynamics. And I dont see her submissive asking for a free ride. That is a bit of a dramatization IMO.

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ORIGINAL: crazyml



Now you've completely lost me.

You complain about "so many people being upset that MissA's sub doesn't spend money left and right", then when asked you can't actually provide an example. Instead you refer to a "couple of people who mentioned the cakes". I try to make the point that buying dinner and cupcakes is about as far as it can be from "spending money left right and centre"

The point I was trying to make diplomatically is that you don't actually have a point to make.

sheesh

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ORIGINAL: MissAsylum

UPDATE: the person in question came to my house this morning to talk. he came by unannounced, which from day one was a rule NOT to do. I heard what he had to say since I assumed that i was getting an apology. Not even close. He stated that he felt it was wrong that i asked him to pay a portion for the cross since he has never paid before and he has no intention to start now. He also said that he deserves an apology for even suggesting he pay anything for the cross, as well as an apology for not even bothering to call him after he left and that once i say sorry, we can continue where we left off, provided that i dont ask for any of his money again. i wanted to laugh inside, but instead i told him that I do not want to continue our relationship, because his perceptions of how things work in the real world have been warped. he doesn't deserve my time nor any other domme's time if he believes thats how things should be. he left off in a huff- again. i don't care to deal with anybody who can be that selfish.

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ORIGINAL: MissAsylum

UPDATE: the person in question came to my house this morning to talk. he came by unannounced, which from day one was a rule NOT to do. I heard what he had to say since I assumed that i was getting an apology. Not even close. He stated that he felt it was wrong that i asked him to pay a portion for the cross since he has never paid before and he has no intention to start now. He also said that he deserves an apology for even suggesting he pay anything for the cross, as well as an apology for not even bothering to call him after he left and that once i say sorry, we can continue where we left off, provided that i dont ask for any of his money again. i wanted to laugh inside, but instead i told him that I do not want to continue our relationship, because his perceptions of how things work in the real world have been warped. he doesn't deserve my time nor any other domme's time if he believes thats how things should be. he left off in a huff- again. i don't care to deal with anybody who can be that selfish.