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tazzygirl -> RE: Is there something wrong with splitting the costs? (7/22/2010 9:09:25 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MissAsylum

UPDATE: the person in question came to my house this morning to talk. he came by unannounced, which from day one was a rule NOT to do. I heard what he had to say since I assumed that i was getting an apology. Not even close. He stated that he felt it was wrong that i asked him to pay a portion for the cross since he has never paid before and he has no intention to start now. He also said that he deserves an apology for even suggesting he pay anything for the cross, as well as an apology for not even bothering to call him after he left and that once i say sorry, we can continue where we left off, provided that i dont ask for any of his money again. i wanted to laugh inside, but instead i told him that I do not want to continue our relationship, because his perceptions of how things work in the real world have been warped. he doesn't deserve my time nor any other domme's time if he believes thats how things should be. he left off in a huff- again. i don't care to deal with anybody who can be that selfish.


Im sorry things didnt work out between you two. It seems you really dont know someone until you either live with them or ask for money.



DarkSteven -> RE: Is there something wrong with splitting the costs? (7/23/2010 2:24:49 AM)

MissA, I have no idea what he was thinking, but that's immaterial.  I'm sorry that you lost your longtime sub.



MissAsylum -> RE: Is there something wrong with splitting the costs? (7/23/2010 5:23:41 AM)

Thanks stevie. i'll move on,maybe not right away, but i'll cope by the way- you still owe me my allowance.



DarkSteven -> RE: Is there something wrong with splitting the costs? (7/23/2010 5:58:03 AM)

You want me to start a thread on Dommes who demand allowances?



SaintAllie -> RE: Is there something wrong with splitting the costs? (7/23/2010 6:00:43 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

You want me to start a thread on Dommes who demand allowances?



oh go on..

you know you want to....

Allie
( hehehehe)



MissAsylum -> RE: Is there something wrong with splitting the costs? (7/23/2010 6:24:06 AM)

Hey, you took on the honour of being my figurative father- now you have responsibilities- i.e. my weekly allowance. And go ahead-listen to Allie and do it.



DarkSteven -> RE: Is there something wrong with splitting the costs? (7/23/2010 6:28:51 AM)

All right.  Here's your figurative allowance. [sm=2cents.gif]



crazyml -> RE: Is there something wrong with splitting the costs? (7/23/2010 5:25:13 PM)

Yes I did have you confused with daddies inked slut.

And I'm a jackass. I'm really sorry!

[Edited to fix a typo]



Malicenwundrlnd -> RE: Is there something wrong with splitting the costs? (7/23/2010 9:45:32 PM)

I am catching the tail end of this and I would no longer have use of this unworthy joke of a sub. Being a Domina you establish in the begining what you expect of this sub and if in the beginning this sub is not doing your bidding well. For me I have no use
for someone such as that so undeserving of my time and experience. Malice



DarkSteven -> RE: Is there something wrong with splitting the costs? (7/24/2010 9:41:32 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Malicenwundrlnd

I am catching the tail end of this and I would no longer have use of this unworthy joke of a sub. Being a Domina you establish in the begining what you expect of this sub and if in the beginning this sub is not doing your bidding well. For me I have no use
for someone such as that so undeserving of my time and experience. Malice


Let me give you a synopsis:

1. Sub tells MissA that he sure would like a cross.
2. MissA's bf costs out crosses and finds one for $500. Sub is asked to chip in and gets angry and storms off.
3. MissA waits for him to come back and apologize.  And waits.
4. Finally, sub returns and is snotty.  He stomps off again.
5. MissA stated that he had never acted pissy prior.



Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Is there something wrong with splitting the costs? (7/24/2010 9:44:22 AM)

It happens. [:)]

Thanks for the apology though:)

quote:

ORIGINAL: crazyml

Yes I did have you confused with daddies inked slut.

And I'm a jackass. I'm really sorry!

[Edited to fix a typo]



DesFIP -> RE: Is there something wrong with splitting the costs? (7/24/2010 9:53:19 AM)

You established in the beginning that you  bought all the toys and kept them all. It isn't surprising that suddenly changing the status quo would cause difficulty.

Hopefully next time, you'll discuss financial costs of play upfront instead of both parties having unexpressed expectations.



Rochsub2009 -> RE: Is there something wrong with splitting the costs? (7/25/2010 8:10:41 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

You established in the beginning that you  bought all the toys and kept them all. It isn't surprising that suddenly changing the status quo would cause difficulty.

Hopefully next time, you'll discuss financial costs of play upfront instead of both parties having unexpressed expectations.



This doesn't seem to be an accurate description of what happened.  It fails to take into account that it was the sub who initially desired the cross and asked Miss Asylum to purchase it.  There is no indication that she has ever purchased items that she had no intention of buying, but was asked to buy by a submissive.  Thus, this would not qualify as "suddenly changing the status quo".

By your comment, it sounds like you are painting Miss Asylum as the party who was wrong in this scenario, and implying that she needs to correct her improper behavior in the future.  This is not an accurate depiction of what happened IMO.  Moreover, your recommendation on how she should handle such as situation "next time" is similarly flawed.



SaintAllie -> RE: Is there something wrong with splitting the costs? (7/25/2010 8:37:06 PM)

Just wondering if he's still sulking MissA?

Allie




DarkSteven -> RE: Is there something wrong with splitting the costs? (7/25/2010 9:05:04 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SaintAllie

Just wondering if he's still sulking MissA?

Allie



Allie, it's over...

quote:

ORIGINAL: MissAsylum

UPDATE: the person in question came to my house this morning to talk. he came by unannounced, which from day one was a rule NOT to do. I heard what he had to say since I assumed that i was getting an apology. Not even close. He stated that he felt it was wrong that i asked him to pay a portion for the cross since he has never paid before and he has no intention to start now. He also said that he deserves an apology for even suggesting he pay anything for the cross, as well as an apology for not even bothering to call him after he left and that once i say sorry, we can continue where we left off, provided that i dont ask for any of his money again. i wanted to laugh inside, but instead i told him that I do not want to continue our relationship, because his perceptions of how things work in the real world have been warped. he doesn't deserve my time nor any other domme's time if he believes thats how things should be. he left off in a huff- again. i don't care to deal with anybody who can be that selfish.




SaintAllie -> RE: Is there something wrong with splitting the costs? (7/25/2010 9:07:13 PM)

yes I saw that.. and yet still half expected he would try his luck again anyway..

thought I'd ask..

Allie



ModeratorSixteen -> RE: Is there something wrong with splitting the costs? (7/28/2010 10:10:06 AM)

The finger pointing and personal attacks on people have been cleaned up,can people please focus just on the OT and not on individuals.



BoiJen -> RE: Is there something wrong with splitting the costs? (7/28/2010 10:11:18 AM)

You're gonna have a hell of a time with that introduction thread aren't ya?

boi



ModeratorSixteen -> RE: Is there something wrong with splitting the costs? (7/28/2010 10:14:31 AM)

Nope.[;)]



BoiJen -> RE: Is there something wrong with splitting the costs? (7/28/2010 10:15:08 AM)

lol



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