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RE: Lack of interest in threads pertaining to hands on,... - 7/21/2010 10:30:10 AM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		That was a serious thread?
For me breaking up is relationship stuff, and while serious, I viewed it as not important because breaking up is hard to do regardless of whether it is bdsm or nilla. People get emotionally attached and that is always hard to abandon.


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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss


I find it interesting Erin that given what you've posted above you ignored this rather serious thread:  http://www.collarchat.com/m_3319660/mpage_1/tm.htm



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RE: Lack of interest in threads pertaining to hands on,... - 7/21/2010 10:32:59 AM   
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< Message edited by dovie -- 7/21/2010 10:36:24 AM >

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RE: Lack of interest in threads pertaining to hands on,... - 7/21/2010 10:38:20 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst

That was a serious thread?
For me breaking up is relationship stuff, and while serious, I viewed it as not important because breaking up is hard to do regardless of whether it is bdsm or nilla. People get emotionally attached and that is always hard to abandon.


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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss


I find it interesting Erin that given what you've posted above you ignored this rather serious thread:  http://www.collarchat.com/m_3319660/mpage_1/tm.htm





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RE: Lack of interest in threads pertaining to hands on,... - 7/21/2010 10:39:31 AM   
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test


*still on block, darling.

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RE: Lack of interest in threads pertaining to hands on,... - 7/21/2010 10:44:00 AM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		It still seemed to be fairly relationship driven. it is hard leaving! It is hard abandoning something you might have based your trust upon. That would happen whether it is nilla or bdsm.
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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst

That was a serious thread?
For me breaking up is relationship stuff, and while serious, I viewed it as not important because breaking up is hard to do regardless of whether it is bdsm or nilla. People get emotionally attached and that is always hard to abandon.


quote:

ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss


I find it interesting Erin that given what you've posted above you ignored this rather serious thread:  http://www.collarchat.com/m_3319660/mpage_1/tm.htm





Evidently only for us BDSM light guppies.


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RE: Lack of interest in threads pertaining to hands on,... - 7/21/2010 10:45:39 AM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		If a subject snaffles my attention I will read it. The more it grabs my attention the more closely I will read not just the OP but all the replies.  I have oft sat enthralled in a thread and realised that everything I would say, has been posted often several times. No point it adding to the verbiage. Some what would probably be most excellent threads I avoid mostly because I haver no knowledge of the subject and it is outside my area of interest.

Not withstanding the above paragraph, there are posters who I greatly admire and have a large respect for so that alone will guarantee my readership. Again if I find the points I would add have been already posted several times or due to my lack or knowledge or interest in the subject from a participant's view, there is no point in adding words which have no meaning. Added to this, whilst I have regularly learned new things from posters I respect such as allthatjaz regarding needle play, I'm one who reads things and goes off to digest it before following up and finding out more but not always on these threads especially when I can ring someone up who is an experienced and safe practitioner.

I must say I too enjoy the humour of a good old fashion shit fight here. I may pop into FetLife daily to check on a couple of threads and to check my messages as well as keeping in touch with a few friends there. I did however encounter there on an Australian BDSM Forum the situation where someone posted a questions on how we (the readers) felt about drugs at a BDSM Club or Dungeon. Most of you who know me, know I rarely pull punches and oft am brutally honest when giving an opinion. The locals it seems expected me to agree with their joys at having drugs available for them. Now no one stated what sort of drugs, Heroin, Coke, Crack, Speed or what ever, and were openly hostile when I stated I have a Zero Tolerance to non prescription or similar medications and have no issues in notifying my associated in the Police Drug Squads.. Ahh well the flame wars started with me being told in no uncertain terms that I was now un-trustable and much abuse in the thread as well as in private messages. The Moderator was there but did not a thing till long after I left that group. Ergo I rarely attend those forums and then only the very few I have an interest in. This is in part, why I spend much more time here than there.


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RE: Lack of interest in threads pertaining to hands on,... - 7/21/2010 10:47:48 AM   
kyraofMists


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Status: offline 		I don't often post about SM activities that we engage in. Too often I get the backlash of "that's abusive/unsafe/wrong..." and I just don't have the energy or the desire to deal with that. The last time I got the response that they would have stopped play because the other people there didn't consent to the type of play we were doing at a public party.... The play turned into blood play when it wasn't his original intent, but this is a group that regularly engages in that type of play and it is uncommon for someone not to do blood play at that party. The organizers are highly safety conscious and make sure to educate/inform those less experienced of the rules (like not allowing a bloody bottom to go to the 'clean table' to get supplies. The bottom was stopped once she left the play space and sent back and a DM brought the supplies).

That day that I posted, I had the energy and time to explain his choices, but most days I don't have the time or desire so I just refrain from posting. Face to face, we don't get that type of reaction from people or if they think it, they don't talk to us about it.

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RE: Lack of interest in threads pertaining to hands on,... - 7/21/2010 10:53:00 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Yeah, I gotta say that other than some health and safety, or where do I start out in rope, most of the other stuff is day to day easily gettable stuff.  For the most part though there is a great deal of wank.

What grease does mistress use on her strap-on.
I want a 2x4 rammed up my ass, mistress, is this common?
What do you think happened to my master who hasnt called me for 6 months (long distance on line relationship)
I am so confused, why are men like that?
Where are all the nigerian scammers?
Why doesnt somebody do something?
Obama is a socialist.
Why are all the Dommes pros?

Yadda yadda yadda.

Wonder of all the folks that I have said get thee to a munch and provided links for, actually went?

After telling folks a hundred million times that ya, you got away with tossing the icecubes up your ass today, but a young buck of 21 turns into .....well, a buck at 31 and anytime after that, ice cubes are big potential killers and then having some three post dolly of 48 years popping in there and saying .... well, my master does that to me 85 times a day, theres no harm..............it just becomes inert.

Sure, there is a wealth of knowledge out here, and some self professed professors who havent pounded anything more than their pud..........But a place like this should augment, not instruct kindegarten matters.

My two.

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RE: Lack of interest in threads pertaining to hands on,... - 7/21/2010 10:54:52 AM   
sunshinemiss


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Status: offline 		The question in that thread was about the dynamic.  I, for one, do not think that wiitwd is merely something physical.  I do believe that our mindset and our communication methods are inherently a part of this.  Discussions of how to do something mechanical bore me.  It's like playing tic tac toe.  There are only so many moves you can make.  Same with the mechanics of doing stuff, safety issues, etc.  As I stated earlier, they are A + B = C.

However, how we do something emotional, the mental side of things, is what interests, intrigues, and draws in me.  Other people are different.  For them it's all physical.  That's cool.  However, considering all the emotional wrangling, communication difficulties, boundary setting, and abuse vs bdsm issues that come up ( including but not limited to pleasing another person, being obedient, etc.)... Discussions about leaving a relationship and how that is different in this context are to me serious.  There have been two personal threads just recently on this very topic.  They have both revolved around the mental aspects of wiitwd and how the leaving is more difficult / different than other relationships.  As I stated in that other thread, I think this absolutely can be different for some people.  You don't agree.  It's all the same song to you.  That's cool.

We will just have to agree to disagree here.

best,
sunshine

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RE: Lack of interest in threads pertaining to hands on,... - 7/21/2010 10:56:47 AM   
Missokyst


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

The question in that thread was about the dynamic.  I, for one, do not think that wiitwd is merely something physical.  I do believe that our mindset and our communication methods are inherently a part of this.  Discussions of how to do something mechanical bore me.  It's like playing tic tac toe.  There are only so many moves you can make.  Same with the mechanics of doing stuff, safety issues, etc.  As I stated earlier, they are A + B = C.

However, how we do something emotional, the mental side of things, is what interests, intrigues, and draws in me.  Other people are different.  For them it's all physical.  That's cool.  However, considering all the emotional wrangling, communication difficulties, boundary setting, and abuse vs bdsm issues that come up ( including but not limited to pleasing another person, being obedient, etc.)... Discussions about leaving a relationship and how that is different in this context are to me serious.  There have been two personal threads just recently on this very topic.  They have both revolved around the mental aspects of wiitwd and how the leaving is more difficult / different than other relationships.  As I stated in that other thread, I think this absolutely can be different for some people.  You don't agree.  It's all the same song to you.  That's cool.

We will just have to agree to disagree here.

best,
sunshine


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RE: Lack of interest in threads pertaining to hands on,... - 7/21/2010 10:58:05 AM   
juliaoceania


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Yeah, I gotta say that other than some health and safety, or where do I start out in rope, most of the other stuff is day to day easily gettable stuff.  For the most part though there is a great deal of wank.

What grease does mistress use on her strap-on.
I want a 2x4 rammed up my ass, mistress, is this common?
What do you think happened to my master who hasnt called me for 6 months (long distance on line relationship)
I am so confused, why are men like that?
Where are all the nigerian scammers?
Why doesnt somebody do something?
Obama is a socialist.
Why are all the Dommes pros?

Yadda yadda yadda.

Wonder of all the folks that I have said get thee to a munch and provided links for, actually went?

After telling folks a hundred million times that ya, you got away with tossing the icecubes up your ass today, but a young buck of 21 turns into .....well, a buck at 31 and anytime after that, ice cubes are big potential killers and then having some three post dolly of 48 years popping in there and saying .... well, my master does that to me 85 times a day, theres no harm..............it just becomes inert.

Sure, there is a wealth of knowledge out here, and some self professed professors who havent pounded anything more than their pud..........But a place like this should augment, not instruct kindegarten matters.

My two.


That is more like 10....lol... I enjoyed every bit of it....

Are ice cubes up the rectum dangerous? I mean, I suppose one could get anal frostbite

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RE: Lack of interest in threads pertaining to hands on,... - 7/21/2010 11:01:11 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		It can drop your bloodpressure like a rocket, add to that all the cholesterol flaking off your veins when you are exerting yourself in other countless ways, and there is every chance in the world that your heart will quit beating before I have a chance to cut it out and show it to you. 

For some people, thats gonna be a problem, they would want to see that.

< Message edited by mnottertail -- 7/21/2010 11:02:12 AM >

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RE: Lack of interest in threads pertaining to hands on,... - 7/21/2010 11:03:23 AM   
Jeffff


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RE: Lack of interest in threads pertaining to hands on,... - 7/21/2010 11:03:34 AM   
mistoferin


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quote:

Are ice cubes up the rectum dangerous?


Um, under the right (or should I say wrong?) circumstances....they can kill you.

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RE: Lack of interest in threads pertaining to hands on,... - 7/21/2010 11:04:13 AM   
juliaoceania


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

It can drop your bloodpressure like a rocket, add to that all the cholesterol flaking off your veins when you are exerting yourself in other countless ways, and there is every chance in the world that your heart will quit beating before I have a chance to cut it out and show it to you. 

For some people, thats gonna be a problem, they would want to see that.


I am going to have to ask my doctor about this

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RE: Lack of interest in threads pertaining to hands on,... - 7/21/2010 11:07:14 AM   
LaTigresse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

The question in that thread was about the dynamic.  I, for one, do not think that wiitwd is merely something physical.  I do believe that our mindset and our communication methods are inherently a part of this.  Discussions of how to do something mechanical bore me.  It's like playing tic tac toe.  There are only so many moves you can make.  Same with the mechanics of doing stuff, safety issues, etc.  As I stated earlier, they are A + B = C.

However, how we do something emotional, the mental side of things, is what interests, intrigues, and draws in me.  Other people are different.  For them it's all physical.  That's cool.  However, considering all the emotional wrangling, communication difficulties, boundary setting, and abuse vs bdsm issues that come up ( including but not limited to pleasing another person, being obedient, etc.)... Discussions about leaving a relationship and how that is different in this context are to me serious.  There have been two personal threads just recently on this very topic.  They have both revolved around the mental aspects of wiitwd and how the leaving is more difficult / different than other relationships.  As I stated in that other thread, I think this absolutely can be different for some people.  You don't agree.  It's all the same song to you.  That's cool.

We will just have to agree to disagree here.

best,
sunshine


I feel similarly.


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RE: Lack of interest in threads pertaining to hands on,... - 7/21/2010 11:07:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		A few years ago it was circulated through the crowds that frequent raves that ice cube enemas were an effective means of dealing with drug overdoses. There were several resulting deaths.

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RE: Lack of interest in threads pertaining to hands on,... - 7/21/2010 11:08:47 AM   
LaTigresse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff

I love the romance of this town!


Did you not get the dozen roses I sent you?!?!?


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RE: Lack of interest in threads pertaining to hands on,... - 7/21/2010 11:09:59 AM   
Jeffff


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Status: offline 		"Dr., Ron wants to shove ice cube up my ass"

" I will most likely be tied up and somewhat helpless"

" He also mentioned someting about cutting my heart out"

" Where does the AMA stand on this?"

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RE: Lack of interest in threads pertaining to hands on,... - 7/21/2010 11:12:50 AM   
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