mstrjx
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In the 'Investment in Relationships' thread yesterday I made the below post to the notion that Julia and Katy made that in approaching someone of the opposite sex (for women, anyway) that it is better for the man to make the first move.
I might not like it for reasons of my own, but I understand it. As dominant men we should determine whom we are interested in and go stake the ol' claim. As if it were that easy.
Hey, this is CM. I can watch profiles of newbies come along all day and think I'm attracted to all of them. Well of COURSE I am. They are all pinup pictures of not real people made for the purpose of not real ads for whatever reason. I could send out dozens of messages to these not real people and get nowhere. There are also legitimate ads of potentially interesting people and certainly messages can be sent there. Complaining about the 'fakery' on the other side is not the point of this thread. Nor is it about the legitimate ads of people who never see this side of the site.
This thread is relative to the forums here. Assuming you are single and you see someone else within the forums that you think might be a good fit, how do you make it known? Or DO you make it known? Do you chime in on the same threads hoping to get their attention? Do you send an email on the other side? Do you signal by perving their profile on the other side as a clue? Do you find out where they live and hop a plane to go stalk them? Do you find all of the posters here repulsive and not worth your time other than the obvious derision we're pretty good at?
Inquiring minds, and all.
Jeff
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ORIGINAL: mstrjx
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ORIGINAL: KatyLied
There are some good points in The Rules book, it is not all rubbish. My rule: give the same amount of attention to a man that he gives to you, mirror, but do not over play anything. I think it is desperate to chase a guy. Let him come to you, let things grow in an unrushed, organic way, if it is meant to be, it will be.
And it's just this kind of heretical thinking that got witches burned way back when.
Pffft, haven't you been reading the feminist thread in the other room? Have you learned nothing? It's the woman's right in this society to go out there and grab your due with all the gusto you can muster.
Or, at least send a casual email saying 'Hey, you're cute! Wanna chat some time?'
Please, for the love of all that is holy..... Recant what you said so the lurkers and the posters get the same idea that it's all ok to congregate on one side of the room waiting for the boy to ask the girl to dance. Nothin's EVER going to get accomplished that way. Nothin'.
Jeff
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So what IS your approach> - 
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There are several people I find entertaining, a whole bunch who are just plain fun (even if I don't participate, I sometimes read P&RS for the sheer joy of seeing so much joy) and a few that are wonderful teachers and educators so I am pleased when I see those folks posting especially if it's on a thread which I've started since I'm obviously interested in that topic. There are also a few whom I find quite exceptional and regardless of the thread or topic, I stalk their posts because I am enamored of their writing skills. It's nothing personal, but I'm a sucker for a well-turned phrase and there are two or three people here that amaze me with their insight and ability to express themselves. Then there is the one man who I find intoxicating. His words, demeanor, manner, style, eloquence, power.. every single thing about him hits me like a ton of bricks everytime I see him post. 
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