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RE: An intolerance I *didn't know I had*... - 9/3/2010 4:35:50 PM   
VaguelyCurious


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People like what they like. I could never consider lusting after a woman. Men I have been involved with never lusted after a man. I am perfectly ok in my thoughts which I do not view as prejudice, I see them as personal taste. Some of us are not bisexual and never will be.
No guilt and no intolerance, because I don't really care what other people enjoy.


Oh dear. I didn't mean to suggest at *all* that anyone should feel guilt or shame about not being bisexual, or that they are somehow intolerant. That's not what I meant.

It would bother me in a prospective partner-but not because I thought they were intolerant or anything...

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RE: An intolerance I *didn't know I had*... - 9/3/2010 4:36:09 PM   
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The term comes from a bartender "Mickey Finn" who would drug some of his patrons and rob them.

The more you know...

Nahhh as in no I didn't mean that...Geez..I think almost everyone my age knows what a Mickey is lol.



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RE: An intolerance I *didn't know I had*... - 9/3/2010 4:37:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Icarys

I did have the thought of tugging on your ears when I typed it...ahem...
(You might have looked a little like Mickey in that situation)


Hang on, hang on-you said I should give YOU a mickey-so surely it would be ME tugging on YOUR ears to make YOU look all mouse-like, Miss Mary Minnie Paranoidiquite

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RE: An intolerance I *didn't know I had*... - 9/3/2010 4:40:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well, I guess this type of thing would depend on your social circle. I more or less flirt with my friends constantly, even though I'm straight. (I know.)

I actually had this hilarious conversation two weeks week ago with my friend B, who informed me he was coming out as being gay (I thought he was just really reserved up till that point).

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B: I don't know if I've told you, but I've come out with the fact that I'm gay.
T: You joking? (Important question)
B: No...
T: Wow, dude, that is such a huge dissapointment.
B: Really, well I knew some people would react negatively, but I didnt think you... Well, it's ok, I guess, not everyone will be okay with it...
T: *Staring away, thinking* No, no, it's not that. I've been flirting with you for the last 3 years and absolutely nothing. I can't even figure out how many consecutive rejections that is... My sexy voice did absolutely nothing for you?
B: *Laughing* Ummmm... I..
T: There we go, another rejection. This is so embarrassing. Just, wow. How am I going to recover from this?



Then, of course, being the good friend that I am, I apologized for making him uncomfortable during the last 3 years when I would tease him and he wasn't alright with his sexuality. *Sigh* I felt like such a jerk all of a sudden.
He hadn't recieved that reaction before.

Now, the thing is I don't flirt with men I don't know, since they might get offended!

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I'd feel uncomfortable flirting with everyone in the room if my partner was flirting with only half the people-I'd feel restricted. Or something.

Well, I can not flirt with everyone out of respect of whomever I'm with, but life is always easier if they don't mind.

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Do you think *your* orientation (whatever it may be) matters to them?

I would hope not, like I said in the other thread, I can appreciate attractiveness in males and females, and I could go pretty far with it, but all in all I'm still heterosexual and relationships with men have not interested me. But yes, atleast in some cases, you can aqcuire some homosexuality if you put your mind to it.



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RE: An intolerance I *didn't know I had*... - 9/3/2010 4:45:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious
Is your partner bi? Very, ish, vaguely, not at all?
Do you care either way? Does their orientation matter to you/bother you? (Other than the obvious fact that they fancy *you* )
Do you think *your* orientation (whatever it may be) matters to them?

Am I the only person this matters to? Does anyone have any idea why it matters to me? (I'm kind of surprised it matters to me at all-I feel disappointed in myself for being less open-minded and accepting than I thought I was. Nobody likes to feel bigoted.)

Anything else anyone wants to add?

Thanks in advance,

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MP is the one I consider My "partner".  Equal relationship and equally straight.  If he were bi, I'd probably love the hell out of it.  Not happening.  We've talked about it prior and he'd love it if I were bi or at least willing to be in a sexual situation with another woman.  Again, not happening.  It doesn't bother either of us because neither of us sincerely wants the other to be something they are not.

This is not to say that none of My submissives over the years haven't been bi or haven't been directed at My choosing to engage in sexual acts with the same gender.  Not all of them have engaged in that kind of play with Me, as it has been on a couple of boy's hard limit list in the past.  There were those that were bi and had encounters with men prior to Me coming along.  There were two that I would put in the hetero-flexible category because they had no desire for men, but they also understood the meaning of the word obedience.

As much as I love watching males in sexual situations with the same gender, no, it really doesn't matter to Me.  I just consider it icing on the cake when it works.


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RE: An intolerance I *didn't know I had*... - 9/3/2010 4:54:52 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

MP is the one I consider My "partner".  Equal relationship and equally straight.  If he were bi, I'd probably love the hell out of it.  Not happening.  We've talked about it prior and he'd love it if I were bi or at least willing to be in a sexual situation with another woman.  Again, not happening.  It doesn't bother either of us because neither of us sincerely wants the other to be something they are not.

Heh. I used partner because it was the woolliest, least definitive term I could think of. Clearly for some people I need to be even more vague

And you'd love the hell out of it if MP were bi? Really? I'd never have guessed.

(Did I manage to say that with a straight internet face? )

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As much as I love watching males in sexual situations with the same gender, no, it really doesn't matter to Me.  I just consider it icing on the cake when it works.


So you're in the same camp as tftb-it doesn't bother you.

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RE: An intolerance I *didn't know I had*... - 9/3/2010 5:20:40 PM   
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Hang on, hang on-you said I should give YOU a mickey-so surely it would be ME tugging on YOUR ears to make YOU look all mouse-like, Miss Mary Minnie Paranoidiquite

You've got it all wrong much like your country. I made it up so it's my rules. Me tug ears..You look like Mickey..this aint rocket science.

Ahhh forget it..Your a lesbian anyway..What would you know about blow jobs.


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RE: An intolerance I *didn't know I had*... - 9/3/2010 5:25:25 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Icarys

Me tug ears..You look like Mickey..this aint rocket science.

Weeeell, you say that, but I'm not the one named after a mouse, Miss Mary Minnie

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Ahhh forget it..Your a lesbian anyway..What would you know about blow jobs.

I was going to say something about how I'd heard rumours that your cock was small enough that technique wasn't exactly important, but then I decided it was too mean, so I didn't.

I am, after all, a kind and gentle soul, as well you know.




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RE: An intolerance I *didn't know I had*... - 9/3/2010 5:32:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious
'girls are pretty. boys are pretty. what gives?'. 
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Not all boys are pretty. Some are "handsome".

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Perhaps it's partly that I'm an equal opportunity flirt, and I'd feel uncomfortable flirting with everyone in the room if my partner was flirting with only half the people-I'd feel restricted.


VC, have you never come across a "partner" who gets offended when you flirt with everyone in the room?

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RE: An intolerance I *didn't know I had*... - 9/3/2010 5:40:33 PM   
VaguelyCurious


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ORIGINAL: Twoshoes

Not all boys are pretty. Some are "handsome".

Nah, the handsome ones are pretty too

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VC, have you never come across a "partner" who gets offended when you flirt with everyone in the room?

Never. Seriously, I'm a terrible flirt-it would be impossible for any partner not to notice that waaaaay before we got formally involved. It's a major part of how I interact with people. If a person wasn't attracted to that aspect of me they wouldn't be with me.

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RE: An intolerance I *didn't know I had*... - 9/3/2010 5:57:08 PM   
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I was going to say something about how I'd heard rumours that your cock was small enough that technique wasn't exactly important, but then I decided it was too mean, so I didn't.

I am, after all, a kind and gentle soul, as well you know.


Probably from some angry fat bitch. They'll say anything to sully my good name.


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RE: An intolerance I *didn't know I had*... - 9/3/2010 5:58:40 PM   
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And if I don't  push and just let him come around naturally, then sometimes, just for me, he lets me play with other women, like the time he spanked and flogged me, while I played wih her breasts nibbled them an spanked her.

Good times, good times.
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Nope. Not at all. He is 100 percent strait, and I don't mind that at all.

I am bi sexual and it isn't important to him, It's just one more part of the overall picture of who I am.

In fact I want 3 somes and a lady friend to play with an all that jazz, and he keeps stating, you know I am not into sharing, and I don't care for other sex partners other than you. Which is kind of disapointing, but I gotta say it's also very sweet of him to only want me sexually. It could be worse I could be in the position of having to put up with him wanting every jane jannet and josephine out there, AND keep me too.

So you're different to me-his inflexibility doesn't bother you, and your flexibility doesn't bother him. Cool


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RE: An intolerance I *didn't know I had*... - 9/3/2010 6:14:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		Nothing to do with prejudice, everything to do with hard-wiring.
I'm only attracted to straight men, and can't find bisexual, androgynous or cross-dressing males attractive.
Yet and yes, some of my best friends, yadda yadda, but I don't want to fuck my gay bestest friends of either gender.
Just like I can't be attracted to a hairy moustachio'd man in a sleeveless undershirt with guinea pigs sticking out from his armpits, bumfluff in his plumber's crack, and/or wearing shorts, socks'n'sandals, and bling around his neck and wrists.
It's not a problem; it's my taste.
So I'm prejudiced against people who are prejudiced against monosexuals!

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RE: An intolerance I *didn't know I had*... - 9/3/2010 6:22:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		Neither one of us is bi as far as I know of and I'd like ot keep it that way.

When I met Master it was one of the very first questions I asked him. If he would have said he even had a tiny attraction or even curiousity about other men I would have stopped our conversations right then and there. I want a man who is wholely and unforgivingly hetero. I find the idea of being with a bi man to just be something that I just can't do and won't.

I'm not bi. Master was aware of that from day one but he also knows that I've been with other women because I was forced to do so. I would do it again for him if he required it even though he knows I don't get turned on at all from the act. So for him..no I don't think it matters all that much but then again no one ever said our relationship was equal. lol.


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RE: An intolerance I *didn't know I had*... - 9/3/2010 6:41:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		I just don't even THINK about this kind of thing. And if you consider I have an ex who left me for his transgendered best friend, perhaps I SHOULD. But I just don't.

I take my fluid bonding very seriously. I want to know the who and the what, but I just don't consider the gender.

No gay for horses people though.

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RE: An intolerance I *didn't know I had*... - 9/3/2010 7:47:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would be uncomfortable dating a bisexual man. I never have been involved knowingly with a bisexual man. I am not saying it would never happen, but i am thinking that men who were bisexual shouldn't even be interested in me because of my discomfort. There is nothing wrong with them, but I think that people should choose partners where both people are comfortable with their partner's sexuality

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RE: An intolerance I *didn't know I had*... - 9/3/2010 8:25:30 PM   
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Yep. It matters a lot. I want a man that is totally straight. I would so not dig it if I had even an inkling that he had french kissed a man. I want a skirt chasing tits and ass loving kind of man and I am the biggest GLBT supporter ever so it has nothing to do with that. I just want my guy to be only on the spectrum of hetero and if that makes me narrow minded, I will deal with it.

I am not bi, but on a few occasions I have had sex with women when I was with a guy that liked that,


This sums me up perfectly.

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RE: An intolerance I *didn't know I had*... - 9/3/2010 9:09:42 PM   
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Anything else anyone wants to add?


It's a thread de-railer, but since you asked.

On another forum far far away..... there seem to be (kinky) people who are asexual. I'm still trying to wrap my mind around that. Trying very hard.

Jeff, who's a pretty straight arrow except for all the kinks

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RE: An intolerance I *didn't know I had*... - 9/4/2010 4:13:50 AM   
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Sorry I disappeared-it got to be 2am here...

Thankyou everyone for the replies. I feel better knowing I'm not the only person orientation matters to, even if most of you prefer the opposite orientation to me

And Hibbie, if you won't have gay for horses people, what about straight for horses people?

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RE: An intolerance I *didn't know I had*... - 9/4/2010 5:29:51 AM   
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I wrote on the toher thread that I am straight but if my Master asked me to have a threesome with him and a woman I would do it to please him however having said this I am 99.99999% confident he would not ask me as we have talked about this before and he values our relationship over him getting a short term thrill.

He is straight, no interest in males at all.

I do just want to add though that I will notice attractive women all the time however it doesn't make me want to kiss them or anything, I just notice that they are hot.  I have also had girl crushes however in those cases I will think to myself damn if I were a guy I would totally do her.


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