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Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:02:29 PM   
MasterRenegade77


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Ok First off I'm posing this query for a slave new to Collarme... I've voiced My opinion on the Matter already but I want her to read it from Y/you. A/all..
She put up a profile here last wednesday & has been conversing w/a "Dom" here 2 days since Friday He's already taken it upon iimself to rewrite her Profile without her permission, he also wants her to give her Notice to her Present job tomorrow (Monday) & move to him in 2 weeks...
My opinion is this is Much too fast & there's something hinkey going on here...
This is all the data I have at Present PLEASE  Voice your opinions ASAP
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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:09:15 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		If he does not own her, and it sounds like he does not as they have only been talking, then he has no authority over her and she has no obligation to obey him.  Who would quit a job for someone she has only known for two days?  How did he rewrite her profile - did she give him her password already?

She needs to reconsider her logic and safety here.  If she doesn't, her fate is in her own hands. 

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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:11:25 PM   
MrMister


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Status: offline 		What I fear more than all else is the fact that the person in question fails to see this very clear thing for herself! Very strange indeed and very troubling such a thing is, for I would tend to think that she may not be able to see things as they truly are and be taken in again and again and worse yet hurt irreparably.

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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:12:07 PM   
colosubseeking


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Status: offline 		Since Friday? You gotta be joking me.... too fast is probably a drastic understatement.

This slave should, in my opinion, not even consider it for a second. Moving in with someone after never having met them in real life is a bad idea to begin with, but after two days??? 

My advice to her would be this: slow way down. Anyone who wants you to pack up and move your entire life after briefly meeting you online is probably not a very stable or reasonable person. If he pressures you, saying "I won't speak to you again until you follow my commands" or some such, then that should give you a very good idea of what kind of person you are dealing with.

Now, on the other hand, if he is reasonable enough to understand your relunctance, then you should consider meeting him in vanilla settings first. Take a weekend trip out to see him, but stay in a hotel. Get to know him a bit more before you make any rash decisions.

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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:16:05 PM   
ShiftedJewel


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterRenegade77

Ok First off I'm posing this query for a slave new to Collarme... I've voiced My opinion on the Matter already but I want her to read it from Y/you. A/all..
She put up a profile here last wednesday & has been conversing w/a "Dom" here 2 days since Friday He's already taken it upon iimself to rewrite her Profile without her permission, he also wants her to give her Notice to her Present job tomorrow (Monday) & move to him in 2 weeks...
My opinion is this is Much too fast & there's something hinkey going on here...
This is all the data I have at Present PLEASE  Voice your opinions ASAP



Since I don't know the girl you are talking to, or the so-called dominant she is refering too I'll just wing it here... mainly because I love posting my opinions... lol

Very simple.... OH HELL NO... Anyone that insists on that much power over another person that soon... that's just plain scary. Girl, if you are indeed reading this... change any passwords you have given him and run, don't walk, to the nearest block button. Tell him that you may, some day in the future, contact him again to see if he is better in touch with reality.

MasterRenegade77, I've read a lot of your posts and do respect a lot of your views. Thank you for directing a new person to a place where she can get a wide variety of view points and for the most part, some good advice.

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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:16:44 PM   
enthralled


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Status: offline 		Oh my . . . two days???
Hopefully, she's not seriously planning to do this!?!?
I agree with MrMister- it's troubling that she doesn't see this for herself!!! And, if she doesn't see this for herself then what capacity does she have for listening to anyone else's advice?

Respectfully,
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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:16:45 PM   
ScooterTrash


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterRenegade77

Ok First off I'm posing this query for a slave new to Collarme... I've voiced My opinion on the Matter already but I want her to read it from Y/you. A/all..
She put up a profile here last wednesday & has been conversing w/a "Dom" here 2 days since Friday He's already taken it upon iimself to rewrite her Profile without her permission, he also wants her to give her Notice to her Present job tomorrow (Monday) & move to him in 2 weeks...
My opinion is this is Much too fast & there's something hinkey going on here...
This is all the data I have at Present PLEASE  Voice your opinions ASAP


My opinion, OMG we do have those don't we (who would have thought)..lol? How about run!!! Way too fast, especially for just an on-line acquaintance. She needs to change her password back, assuming she gave it out and show up for work as usual on Monday like nothing happened. She then can continue to nurture the relationship and maybe in time, reconsider the offer.

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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:19:39 PM   
BitaTruble


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Status: offline 		Mr. 77,

You're probably not going to like hearing this, however, my opinion is that if she won't listen to you, whom she already knows, it won't matter a whit what anyone in this forum will say to her.

However, to just add another voice even if it's futile ... this is what I say -not to the slave in question, because you haven't said whether or not she's actually going to follow this 'doms' instructions, but rather my comment is directed towards the 'dom' in question...

ARE YOU FUCKING NUTS?

Nuff said,

Celeste

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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:19:44 PM   
dave1212


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Status: offline 		Well MasterRenegade77, sorry to come across as a little blunt but why does'nt she just say "No" or similar word's...
ownedgirlie beat me to the question as to "how did he rewrite her profile"
As for giving up her job the same applies..Are you sure you have got all the fact's ?
I mean if she is not collared/owned and has not signed any sort of contractual agreement then saying No sound's good to me...  

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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:20:16 PM   
ShiftedJewel


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Status: offline 		Damn, I'm really impressed... we may fight over semantics and other things, but as a group, we really can pull together on some things... good to see.
 
PS... was that fast enough for you MR?

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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:23:14 PM   
LadyMorgynn


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From: N. Carolina
Status: offline 		Please tell me this is a joke.  If you can't tell me this is a joke, PLEASE PLEASE tell me she is not going along with this!!!!!!  She should run.... NOT walk... to the nearest exit.  She should put this guy on Ignore and stay far, FAR away!  Have you stressed SAFETY?  how about ethics?  Nobody with ethics... in this lifestyle or outside it... would move this quickly.  She is going to wind up being a statistic very fast!

Have her email me, if she wishes, and I'll give her all the support she needs.  I can't emphasize enough how fast she should get AWAY FROM THIS CREEP DUDE!

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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:24:57 PM   
Vancouver_cinful


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Status: offline 		Not much more to add, since I can see no other side to it. If she's giving him her passwords, and would seriously consider giving up her job, she needs a cold dose of reality. She's a walking target for all the jerks out there looking to abuse someone in the name of D/s.

I hope she can learn this without having to suffer first...but some people have to put their hand on the stove before they can understand that it burns. Sad.

Cin

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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:24:57 PM   
mistoferin


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Damn, sometimes it takes me longer than that to decide what kind of new bra I want to buy!!!

I would tell this submissive to wake up and smell the coffee and I would ask this "Dominant" if he mistakenly contacted a submissive because he thought that was how you spelled "STUPID"?

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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:25:19 PM   
LadyMorgynn


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Status: offline 		I have to agree.  There is something else going on here... whether it's just desperation on her part, or some kind of behavioral issues, or incredibly low self-esteem... but more worrisome is the complete lack of concern for her own well-being and safety!

quote:

ORIGINAL: MrMister

What I fear more than all else is the fact that the person in question fails to see this very clear thing for herself! Very strange indeed and very troubling such a thing is, for I would tend to think that she may not be able to see things as they truly are and be taken in again and again and worse yet hurt irreparably.


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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:28:11 PM   
LadyMorgynn


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Status: offline 		I don't agree.  I think she should stay far away from this individual forever!  This guy has got to be bad news.

quote:

ORIGINAL: ScooterTrash
She then can continue to nurture the relationship and maybe in time, reconsider the offer.


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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:29:23 PM   
CrappyDom


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Status: offline 		Does this girl have rocks in her head?  If she doesn't wake up, those rocks will be OVER her head. 

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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:29:25 PM   
Phoenixandnika


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterRenegade77

Ok First off I'm posing this query for a slave new to Collarme... I've voiced My opinion on the Matter already but I want her to read it from Y/you. A/all..
She put up a profile here last wednesday & has been conversing w/a "Dom" here 2 days since Friday He's already taken it upon iimself to rewrite her Profile without her permission, he also wants her to give her Notice to her Present job tomorrow (Monday) & move to him in 2 weeks...
My opinion is this is Much too fast & there's something hinkey going on here...
This is all the data I have at Present PLEASE  Voice your opinions ASAP



I could see meeting face to face after such a short time.
I could see exchanging phone numbers after such a short time.
However I don't know which I have a BIGGER  issue with.
A. The fact that a grown woman who should be thinking of her safety first is giving a perfect stranger such power over her online and seemingly her real life.
 
B. The fact that a "dominate" would even suggest such a thing. A "true" dominate would NOT move so quickly. He would not demand obediance from some that they just meet (online) and that is not in thier collar.
 
To the submissive I would ask you to step back and take a breath. I know that the idea of being owned is overwhelming at times and god knows it is what most wish for. But please ask yourself if this is truly safe? Is this truly sane? Have you truly thought about the ramifications of what you have done? Have you thought about what could happen if you give up your job and move in with this "dominate"? It may work out. Stanger things have happened, however; realisticly the risks of it turning out very badly are higher.
 
Be safe and blessed be
 
Nika{Phoenix}
 

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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:31:03 PM   
MasterRenegade77


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In response to the queries, She only knows Me from here,she gave him her password so he could sort the crap out & she's deleted that Acct. she didn't know what to do... When she told Me just before I posted it here I told her not to & then asked if I could post the query here & she could read it from others... I Thank each & E/everyone of Y/ you that Posts!!!

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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:31:13 PM   
twicehappy


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Status: offline 		NO WAY! ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!!!

Tell her to think about this, aside from the obvious concerns such as is this Dom an axe murderer, tell her to think about the practical ones. If this is a bad deal and she needs to run, will she be able to? Where will she live if she has to come back? How will she support herself?

The only reason i can see for him to rewrite her profile is to alter it to state she is owned. Owned? That quickly? Most responsible Doms would want to take their time to get to know this girl, not set her up for disaster.

To the so called Dom in this; how desperate are you? What kind of a man are you to demand this from a new sub/slave with 2 days notice? Whoever you are i have to say it is people like you who give the caring responsible prospective Doms a bad name.

To the girl in question, just say NO! Change your password, hell change your nic if you have too, but get away from this guy. No one in their right mind would ask this of you. How much do you think he thinks about your intelligence level if he asked you to do this?



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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:32:00 PM   
ScooterTrash


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyMorgynn

I don't agree.  I think she should stay far away from this individual forever!  This guy has got to be bad news.

quote:

ORIGINAL: ScooterTrash
She then can continue to nurture the relationship and maybe in time, reconsider the offer.

Probably right LM, I was just trying to be nice and was really thinking under my breath she should just block the nut..lol.

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