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RE: male doms: motivated by desperation? - 10/4/2010 8:15:45 AM

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That's because ukeleles were invented by satan. You should be ashamed.

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RE: male doms: motivated by desperation? - 10/4/2010 8:18:44 AM

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As others have said, I think that many people join sites like these out of desperation. They usually get pretty frustrated, pretty quickly when they discover that it's going to take more than five minutes of chat to get into someone's knickers.

You may well be right in your hunch that there is a higher proportion of desperate Dom men than other categories, but I doubt many of those will be regular frequenters of the boards (that sounds like a lot of trouble to go to if you're just keen on getting laid).

I tend to find (and this isn't necessarily directed at you) that the boards seem to show a disproportionate number of whiny, bitter, desperate, sub-males. But that's just my perception.

As for me... I'm happy to say that a chap as witty and urbane as myself has no trouble at all getting ackshun whenever he wants it.

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RE: male doms: motivated by desperation? - 10/4/2010 8:25:17 AM

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See, I think people are attracted to more than just social, emotional and 'pattern recognition' intelligence.
Playing the guitar and dancing requires hand-eye coordination which displays 'kinesthetic intelligence'.

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RE: male doms: motivated by desperation? - 10/4/2010 8:26:16 AM

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You haven't seen my George Formby impression....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sfmAeijj5cM

I'd have your knickers off in a flash ;-)

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RE: male doms: motivated by desperation? - 10/4/2010 8:29:13 AM

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You may well be right in your hunch that there is a higher proportion of desperate Dom men than other categories

I'm almost certain he isn't-you should take a peek in my mailbox some time. (Well obviously you shouldn't, that would be a breach of several important people's privacy, but you know what I mean).

I'm pretty sure I get more desperate spam from submissive men than I used to get from doms. Even my old sub account would get a healthy amount of spam from male subs looking to be dominated. Sexual desperation isn't limited to male doms, not by a long shot.

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RE: male doms: motivated by desperation? - 10/4/2010 8:32:52 AM

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Yeah, but that's your profile pic.... whenever I see that asymmetric cut I just want to get right down onto my knees ;-)

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RE: male doms: motivated by desperation? - 10/4/2010 8:35:44 AM

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It has that effect on some people

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RE: male doms: motivated by desperation? - 10/4/2010 8:59:16 AM

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As a bisexual it is my experience that there are many so-called male doms on this site that are looking for nothing more than a blow job, their fetish wish is to see you on your knees but there is little substance beyond that. They are usually married, can meet for an hour here and there, and oh yes, as a sub/slave, you either host or pay for the room. they are the cheapest bastards on the planet. In fairness, this site is also rife with so-called female dominas that want nothing more than your money .... at best you can kiss their boots/shoes but only before the money is exchanged. Many prefer, "cyber" and payment to their paypal accounts as a "precondition" to further meetings ... Bad people surface in all walks of life, this one included!

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RE: male doms: motivated by desperation? - 10/4/2010 9:00:17 AM

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you pretty much got me mapped out.

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RE: male doms: motivated by desperation? - 10/4/2010 9:11:19 AM

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You may well be right in your hunch that there is a higher proportion of desperate Dom men than other categories, but I doubt many of those will be regular frequenters of the boards (that sounds like a lot of trouble to go to if you're just keen on getting laid).

For real...

How is it that hard even if you are a man AND a loser. Judging by my friend who actually puts effort into it (in other words, he simply has an OKCupid account that thoroughly explains how much of a loser he actually is in his own words), I'd say not very hard.

Personally, I don't even bother enough to do that and vanilla girls still hit on me randomly. It's usually me telling them I'm definitely not what they are looking for. (It's hard to explain but I hate myself for wanting to use women, so I go out of my way to make sure I don't end up with ones that are highly incompatible with me so they don't feel used. Yeah, it's messed up.

Plus, I'm both sadistic and masochistic at the same time, which may explain why I like long-distance running.)

Anyway, I have yet to actually meet someone who is really "desperate" regardless of how hard they try or don't try to "get laid". I think men who post the things we're discussing may be simply horny and lacking imagination.

How often have any of you met a "desperate" person in "meat life" (phrase from VC)?

Edit: My bad it was "meat life". My mind stole the phrase and immediately changed it, apparently.

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RE: male doms: motivated by desperation? - 10/4/2010 9:13:04 AM

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Meat world? I said that? Are you sure?

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RE: male doms: motivated by desperation? - 10/4/2010 9:13:47 AM

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As a bisexual it is my experience that there are many so-called male doms on this site that are looking for nothing more than a blow job, their fetish wish is to see you on your knees but there is little substance beyond that. They are usually married, can meet for an hour here and there, and oh yes, as a sub/slave, you either host or pay for the room. they are the cheapest bastards on the planet. In fairness, this site is also rife with so-called female dominas that want nothing more than your money .... at best you can kiss their boots/shoes but only before the money is exchanged. Many prefer, "cyber" and payment to their paypal accounts as a "precondition" to further meetings ... Bad people surface in all walks of life, this one included!

Ok, after reading this post, maybe there are desperate men. I just haven't had the "opportunity" to meet any.

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RE: male doms: motivated by desperation? - 10/4/2010 9:29:28 AM

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Not to mention the fact that the women overall are much better looking on the vanilla side of the fence. If I were only looking for pussy this place would not be on my short list of favorites.

I would disagree on that comment. I have met tons of gorgeous men and women on the kink side as well as vanilla. Nice generalization there.

As for the OP, you all know he is loving this, right? Who cares if Dom men are seeking only sex? Everyone is to some degree or another. Some people are desperate, so what?

Each person knows their own motivations and the trick is, to try and assess someone else's so you know what you are getting into. I actually prefer to find out quickly if someone is desperate or just seeking sex; it saves tons of time and energy.

Again, always remember that sometimes, people think others are desperate because they are not into them. However, if someone hot approached you and seemed really into you, how many would turn that down?

Perception is everything.

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RE: male doms: motivated by desperation? - 10/4/2010 9:44:47 AM

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As a bisexual it is my experience that there are many so-called male doms on this site that are looking for nothing more than a blow job, their fetish wish is to see you on your knees but there is little substance beyond that. They are usually married, can meet for an hour here and there, and oh yes, as a sub/slave, you either host or pay for the room. they are the cheapest bastards on the planet. In fairness, this site is also rife with so-called female dominas that want nothing more than your money .... at best you can kiss their boots/shoes but only before the money is exchanged. Many prefer, "cyber" and payment to their paypal accounts as a "precondition" to further meetings ... Bad people surface in all walks of life, this one included!

I should have made a prediction in My first post on this thread just how long this would take.

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RE: male doms: motivated by desperation? - 10/4/2010 9:47:10 AM

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Let's see...

Male #1: Works his butt off for a demanding boss. Barely makes the bills month to month. Doesn't have many friends. Wants a woman who will respect him for being honest and hard working. Most likely found in front of the tv.

Male #2: Makes his own money, but also relies on his woman to keep up with the bills. Has no problem taking from her what he wants be it money for beer or a blowjob. His woman knows what he expects from her and she makes sure to keep him happy. He has a lot of friends who respect him and more then a few enemies who fear him. Most likely found at the bar with friends.

Male #3: Educated professional. The job and daily life are boring. Behind closed doors he's got more then a few kinky interests and needs a woman who he can share his unusual desires with. Most likely found out and about.

Male #4: Successful, educated and hard driving. He has the world by the balls. Work is a game (or war) where you crush you competition and build your own empire. Dateable women are readily availabe, but he's suspicious of their motives. He can't seem to find a woman he respects enough to fall in love with. Most likely found at 38,000 feet in his private jet on the phone with China.

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RE: male doms: motivated by desperation? - 10/4/2010 10:24:03 AM

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Personally, Ive noticed more male subs that seemed desparate than male Doms. just sayin

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RE: male doms: motivated by desperation? - 10/4/2010 11:46:21 AM

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~fast reply~

Wow, a few days ago I learned I was delusional. Today I'm learning that I'm also desparate.

... you know... the more I think on it, I *AM* desparate. I think I'll wander on over to Carol and demand a blow job to get all that nasty desparation out of my system. I'd like go to back to simply delusional.

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RE: male doms: motivated by desperation? - 10/4/2010 11:48:05 AM

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desperate and delusional...
Wasn't Humphrey Bogart in that one?
whos starting the delirious, dysfunctional, and defecation thread?

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RE: male doms: motivated by desperation? - 10/4/2010 12:07:36 PM

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RE: male doms: motivated by desperation? - 10/4/2010 12:09:56 PM

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so earlier this weekend i was contacted on this site by a male dominant. i of course declined his rather creepy overture on the basis of my heterosexuality. he apologized, and subsequently asked for advice on how to "hook up" with girls on here. i asked him to elaborate on what his goal was, and he revealed that he in actuality was only on this site for the purpose of finding sex. he said that he had significantly more luck on here than on any online dating site that he subscribed to, and that from his experience in talking to others, most of the males dominants on this site were operating under a similar mindset.

Okay. You spoke to one man and are basing your view if all of us male Doms on him? Note that your one pseudoDom:

1. Stated that he had significantly more luck on cm than anywhere else.
2. Made a play for a straight man.
3. Upon being rejected, asked the straight sub man for advice in picking up sub women.

He sounds like a complete mess and loser to me. I suggest you speak to several other Doms before you form a hypothesis.

Friend speaks my mind. If he's having so much luck here, why does he need the advice?

I think he was just putting you on while trying to find out if you were dumb enough to hand him someone who would fuck him. It's not a dominant thing, it's not a submissive thing, it's not a male thing, it's not a female thing. It's a scam, a con, a sham. Looks like you at least partially bought it.

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