Madame4a
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I have a lot of trouble with your Master v. Dom thing.. you certainly set them up as Master is bigger, better, more experienced and more everything... so not true... in many ways they are simply very different things... and while everyone has their own definition... sometimes its as simple as.. Master/slave is to Dom/sub ... and the differences are in the relationship... not in the complexity of Master or Dom.. or in th experience level...
wow.. while I've seen a lot of people denigrate the word Top.. I've rarely seen someone denigrate Dominant this way to shore up the great and powerful "Master" ...
I see you tried to back pedal below.. but honestly, your thoughts are loud and clear by reading this...
Leadership.. I don't think that's true.. while there might not be complex and lengthy definitions attached to those terms... we do need some generally accepted language and meaning in order to communicate. If I am speaking to someone and am looking for a submissive -- we both need to have some idea of what that term means, generally, or I'm taking home a human puppy and I'm not all that interested in a puppy. If we don't agree on the definition of chair, and you think it means a small furry warm being, you're goingto sit on my cat and we'll be in trouble.
There are some generally accepted terms associated with those words... there really are, the nuances are just not all agreed upon.
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ORIGINAL: SoulcatcherXXX
No, Doms and Masters are not the same. It takes years to become a Master--as the term implies, these are people who have mastered their skills and art, not beginners or even people of some experience who are still learning their way. Not that anyone should ever stop learning...but eventually there does become a point where you realize you've gotten quite good at what you do, even though you still hope to keep learning. Doms are less experienced, less expert and often not quite as strong personally or character-wise than Masters. Some Doms are Masters in waiting, they are learning the skills and techniques and will someday have them down pat and become Masters themselves. Most probably will not, because it isn't an easy thing to do, and they will stay as Doms. Some people see a whip and decide they are a Dom...we call those people idiots and can spot them quickly (I can usually tell a legit slave from a wannabe or poser within the first sentence or two I hear her speak, just because I've done this so much that I notice details that the girl will probably not even be aware of if she isn't a slave herself). So you might think of Masters as those who are experienced and very good at what they do, and think of Doms as people who are still in more of a learning phase or sometimes as people who are happy to only get into D/s part way and keep it at that level.
Relationships can end for any reason you'd think. Most of the time I've released slaves, it was because they became more trouble than they were worth so I just let them go and moved on. Sometimes a slave will hook up with a man who isn't strong enough to control her...if that's the case, they will dump the Master and go back to their search. But just like in any relationship, there are many things which can cause people to split up.
Whether a slave can be bought or sold depends mostly on the way the people involved practice D/s. Often they can indeed be sold, or purchased...but some people don't take it that far and don't get involved in that. For those people, the slave is simply released and becomes free again. If the slave wants out, she removes her collar and returns it to her (now ex-) Master...the collar is somewhat like a wedding ring, and when she takes it off it has the same effect.
Yes it's possible for a man to be a Dom, or a girl to be a slave, without their spouse knowing. These are called "unhappy people", because they will never find the things they have now discovered they need in a vanilla relationship--and lots of people don't even begin to think in terms of slaves and Masters until they've already been married for quite a while. Then they have three choices: cheat, divorce, or live a lie--none of which are choices a person would normally want to be forced to make.
< Message edited by Madame4a -- 11/11/2010 8:59:54 AM >
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