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ORIGINAL: Markus27
Anyone else see the humor in this?

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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

Markus.. I'm going to do you a favor and you really should listen to me because it's in your own best interest to do so albeit it is only a well intentioned suggestion. Go to this thread and read the OP. Respond to it and engage with the other posters in some real meat and potatoes potential and delete what you wrote in the OP.

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Markus, I don't think they really want age as much as maturity, and knowing what you offer and want.  In your case, I read your profile and read that you are looking for 100% no-limit slaves and yet don't explain what experience you have (I suspect little or none).  And your profile reads like it was thrown together hurriedly.

Get experience.  Learn what you want.  And express yourself well.  Once you do those, you'll fare better.

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ORIGINAL: Palliata

You know what we should do? We should have people put "Must Have 3-5 Years D/s and Bondage Experience; 2+ years continuous M/s and references preferred" instead of age. I think that would make this whole process 100x better. It'll be like applying for jobs, except the interview process will occur in the nude or semi-nude...

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ORIGINAL: Markus27

I know this has most likely been brought up before but why is it that subs desire older men due to 'experience'.

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ORIGINAL: peppermint

The answer is simple.  Some prefer dating older.  Some prefer dating younger.  Some prefer dating close to their own age. 
 

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I'd be even worse about the top/bottom thing.  I wouldn't be handing My ass over without knowing somebody's skills because I've seen them for Myself.  The rope guy that is never lacking partners at the play space week after week because he's constantly tying folks.  That's the guy I'd be bottoming for.  I'd only go for the best of the best.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: Palliata

You know what we should do? We should have people put "Must Have 3-5 Years D/s and Bondage Experience; 2+ years continuous M/s and references preferred" instead of age. I think that would make this whole process 100x better. It'll be like applying for jobs, except the interview process will occur in the nude or semi-nude...

Who says that people don't do this in their own head now?  Though I can promise you that if I were a submissive, the number of years would actually be at least twice as high as what you listed above.  I'd be shooting for tens years most likely and by ten years, I'd mean the whole ten.  Not a two year dynamic that ended eight years ago, but somebody is claiming that as ten years experience. 

I'd be even worse about the top/bottom thing.  I wouldn't be handing My ass over without knowing somebody's skills because I've seen them for Myself.  The rope guy that is never lacking partners at the play space week after week because he's constantly tying folks.  That's the guy I'd be bottoming for.  I'd only go for the best of the best.

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ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA
I actually view the "experience" thing much differently... for me, it means little, as there's both "good" and "bad" experience.  No, for me the whole experience thing (especially when it comes to the BDSM accoutrements of floggers, cuffs, rope, etc.) is waaaaaaaaaay down the list.  Why?  Because for me, experience does not equate to a "relationship".  Granted, I understand that a "relationship" is not the goal for all, and for "play" purposes, I can see experience being higher up on the list -- but for me, I've always been more interested in someone's skill in their approach to the obstacles in life (and within a relationship) than how well they can tie someone up.  In fact, the referenced "rope guy" that has "partner" after "partner"... "week after week" is an enormous turn-off.  Far too fixated on the "Kink" of it all. 

Some may see a "Master" in "rope guy", where'd I'd likely see some horny dude who can't commit... can't think beyond his zipper... can't offer anything beyond weekend after weekend at the "club"... and can't likely mature passed a teenager.  No life... just kink.  No, I'll take the person who takes quiet pride in spending their evenings and weekends tending to their partner, the bills getting paid, and keeping their home, family, and partner on solid ground -- not the person who can't wait to dash off to the "club" and takes pride in having tied-up the 150th girl this month.

What I've learned over the years is there are those that are "good" with many, and there are those that are "great" with one -- because quite simply, when you're "involved" 24/7 with someone who knows you, then they know how to push all your buttons, and find new ones!!!

To each their own, but in my opinion, "experience" and "dominance" are two completely different things, with the former holding little to no relevance to the latter.  More often than not, I see greater appeal in a naturally dominant 'nilla, than a supposedly experienced "Master" -- but YMMV?!!

Which is exactly why I made the distinction between the two.  I never said that "rope guy" was a Master.  I said he'd be the person that I would seek out if I wanted to be tied up.  "Quiet guy at home" may have the experience in suspension that I want.  Maybe not.  If I haven't seen for Myself, how do I know?  I want to see topping skills.  Not just hear about them.

Same thing with the relationship.  I'd be willing to say that most people My age have at at least one long term relationship.  There are certainly people out there who, if their marriage/dynamic dissolved, after the appropriate healing time, I would absolutely recommend to other people as relationship material.  I've at least got some idea of their track record.  (Things like the relationship coming to an end over an issue such as cheating being the exception, of course.)

I think in this instance, I'm just fortunate that I get to have the experience of both.  My husband and I will be celebrating our anniversary next month, but I still get to do all of that play stuff as well.  Keeps Me pretty happy. 

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Who says that people don't do this in their own head now?  Though I can promise you that if I were a submissive, the number of years would actually be at least twice as high as what you listed above.  I'd be shooting for tens years most likely and by ten years, I'd mean the whole ten.  Not a two year dynamic that ended eight years ago, but somebody is claiming that as ten years experience. 

I'd be even worse about the top/bottom thing.  I wouldn't be handing My ass over without knowing somebody's skills because I've seen them for Myself.  The rope guy that is never lacking partners at the play space week after week because he's constantly tying folks.  That's the guy I'd be bottoming for.  I'd only go for the best of the best.

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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

"Experience" is just people imagining what traits might make someone competent at something when it is really just a question of personal compatibility in disguise.

It's like people who say they want someone "intelligent". It doesn't mean anything other than "I will value X person if they say things and do things I like."

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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

Let's say I'm looking to fill a position at work, Do I take the one with the degree or the one the has not yet finished High school???

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