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RE: Age in Dominance - 2/21/2011 11:38:55 AM   
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.Conversly, it is socially acceptable for an old boiler (sorry elder Lady) chooses to date and even bed a younger male, she is celebrated for her active libido and other things.



Re: my active libido and other things......if they want it they call it experience. If they don't they call it baggage.


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RE: Age in Dominance - 2/21/2011 12:01:30 PM   
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I already put NocturnalStalker's face and hair on a horse, with him riding with the wind. But than that is me and my love for long hair men riding horses bareback with nothing on..of course:)


I'm waiting for one of our resident beauties to come up with the classic and woo NocturnalStalker with the timeless words:
"Romeo! Romeo! Wherefore art thou Romeo?" or in this case, "Nocturnal! Nocturnal! Wherefore art thou Nocturnal?"



Something like this? I am a hopeless romantic. I love the Pre Raphaelite era




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RE: Age in Dominance - 2/21/2011 2:08:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		I continue to wonder why this is SUCH an issue for people.

I have dated older and younger men and even men my own age. There is nothing that any of them had in common that I could attribute to age.

If they were great, they were great at their particular age.

If they were assholes, they were young and old assholes.

Neither having experience in BDSM or in life experience changes the intangible factor of compatibility and chemistry.

Both can be present or absent in whatever age.

I think it boils down to what someone said earlier; if you cannot find a partner, you blame the the age thing, instead of looking at your own methods, or even just blind luck.

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RE: Age in Dominance - 2/21/2011 2:19:50 PM   
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Markus, I don't think they really want age as much as maturity, and knowing what you offer and want. 

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Get experience.  Learn what you want.  And express yourself well.  Once you do those, you'll fare better.



What he said

One guy I considered recently lost the plot as he (despite being 14 years older than myself) obviously doesn't know what he wants from life...and it isn't my job to drag a Dom through life when he has no goals in his mind anymore, then I prefer to be on my own instead.

At present I am back in touch with a previous date and whilst I doubt it will ever work out, I do hope to be proven wrong, as he is exactly the type of Dom I would like to serve...as he is very secure in himself and knows what he wants from life and what he has to offer...

Whilst I don't date younger guys (same age is ok, but i don't feel comfortable younger) I did date guys clother to my age but then again, that one didn't know what he wanted either

So make sure you figure out what you want from a relationship and from life

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RE: Age in Dominance - 2/21/2011 3:00:15 PM   
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RE: Age in Dominance - 2/21/2011 6:07:35 PM   
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RE: Age in Dominance - 2/22/2011 10:38:04 AM   
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I continue to wonder why this is SUCH an issue for people.

In all honesty, it isn't. It's just something people talk about on the internet a lot. I've known plenty of people to throw all these requirements out of the window when they meet someone who smells right, knows just how to make them laugh, is nice to their cat, etc...

(I may possibly have been the 'too-young' thing in the cat scenario )

It's like the 'who pays for dinner' question. Endlessly debated online, rarely ever a problem that requires more than a moment's thought in real life.

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RE: Age in Dominance - 2/22/2011 10:41:04 AM   
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I know this has most likely been brought up before but why is it that subs desire older men due to 'experience'.


If you can demonstrate you have put in the hours like LadyPact, Hausboy, and others here http://www.collarchat.com/m_3574391/tm.htm you'll gain more cred.

Unless you just feel entitled to the title Master and a sub without having earned it/her.

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RE: Age in Dominance - 2/22/2011 10:49:09 AM   
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. . . I understand *some* older men know what they are doing however *some* younger men do too . . .


With age comes the realization that you really didn’t know what you were doing in your youth.


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RE: Age in Dominance - 2/22/2011 10:49:41 AM   
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In all honesty, it isn't. It's just something people talk about on the internet a lot. I've known plenty of people to throw all these requirements out of the window when they meet someone who smells right, knows just how to make them laugh, is nice to their cat, etc...



I find you pretty spot on there. It's probably because people come with a list when they use a dating site... when meeting individuals in meat life allows for more flexibility.

Besides, you smell purdy...

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RE: Age in Dominance - 2/22/2011 10:58:01 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Markus27
. . . I understand *some* older men know what they are doing however *some* younger men do too . . .


With age comes the realization that you really didn’t know what you were doing in your youth.


I read this as:

With age comes the realization that you really didn’t know what you were doing with your mouth.



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RE: Age in Dominance - 2/22/2011 11:07:21 AM   
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Besides, you smell purdy...

Yay! Mutual scent appreciation!

I think it's not just that it's online, though - IRL people have all these ideas about who their perfect match would be too, and age is probably one of those factors. It's just that other factors (for example the ability to charm your cat when it hates every other human being in existence) come out as more important, and deep down people don't really expect to be with their 'ideal'-in-every-way (using the word ideal lightly, because a lot of those factors are going to be irrelevant) person.



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RE: Age in Dominance - 2/22/2011 9:01:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: poise
Older men drive better
They shift smoothly
hug curves
take the long way home.
Younger men get excited
revving their own engines
Afraid you’ll change your mind
if they don’t drive fast enough

*my apologies if this offended anyone*

You again!!!

Look here, poise,
Cars Are Soooo 1990s... (as in not even that cool anymore).

On the other hand, I will admit to having a romanticized view of trains. Trains kindly provide a recurring drone to remind you of how much tonnage is safely, directly and irrevocably bringing you there. Also, trains make me want to write. (And fantasize about meeting an intoxicating stranger reading a book I know all about.)

Also, I've been dreaming of rainbows. I'd like a rainbow, right this very moment, please.

*E: Still can't spell*

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RE: Age in Dominance - 2/22/2011 11:03:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Markus27

I know this has most likely been brought up before but why is it that subs desire older men due to 'experience'. I understand *some* older men know what they are doing however *some* younger men do too. It amuses me seeing those profiles that say 40+ or 50+ only or w/e and thinking to myself do they just magically know what they're doing at 40, 50+. No. And if Domina get passed up at a younger age how will they know at 40-50? By this logic a man 18-39 who has been Dom for 15 years is less experience than a Dom. who is 41 and magically started being Dom at 40. Anyone else see the humor in this?


WARNING: I am playing with matches... someone stop me... hmmm... I seem to be alone. COOL!

A dominant is jus born with it... the mass majority learn to be a top, kinky sex, sadistic streak, many many reasons... nevertheless, you're born to it or the TOP bulb lights up. When the top bulb comes on you rush out and read all the books, go to all the parties, watch all the experienced players and hone your topping skills.

When you're born to it, you just can't, as hard as you may try, give a shit what everyone else is doing. Some lil sumthin kicks in your primal fukin monster and it is on like donkey kong. You are the fire and the /s', natural born and hard wired to it, are drawn to the flame... not even going into the Bottom Bulb thang... paddles may be interesting, other kinky play may be fun, but what really kicks the monster into monster mode is CONTROL! YOU'RE MINE! YOU TURN TO JELLO AT MY FEET WHEN I WANT IT, NOT WHEN YOU WANT IT. Having the power, that effect on another person is intoxicating. Knowing that every feeling, sensation, thought and emotion is directed by you, the mad man at the helm of the pleasure cruise is the STUFF! Spanken an ass, sure... shibari, every Tuesday at 4, turning you into a quivering puddle of gush cuz I grabbed your hair and pulled you in tight... priceless

YMMV

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SLURP!


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RE: Age in Dominance - 2/23/2011 5:08:54 AM   
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RE: Age in Dominance - 2/23/2011 5:47:43 AM   
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The actual cause of preference has to do with a combination of morality, social standards and personal preference.

Note fist an average vanilla couple, or any couple in the world. In general, the male is a bit older than the female. Its a standard, a social norm that is conformed to.

The morality is a lot more complex, especially when the dom is younger. To think that s/he was in school/college etc. while the sub was so far ahead (working) generally is viewed as "wrong." If they are 26 by the time you reached the age of consent, then it probably isn't gonna happen.

Both of these and the experiences of an individuals life add up to the person's personal preference, which I wont even go in to as it has already been stretched across 4 pages worth of posts.


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RE: Age in Dominance - 2/23/2011 6:04:45 AM   
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Note fist an average vanilla couple, or any couple in the world. In general, the male is a bit older than the female. Its a standard, a social norm that is conformed to.



Tell me Oh Masterful Bright Star of Wisdom.. When and where did you manage to survey the entire world population at your advanced age of 18, as to the "Social Norm": they conform to?????  You mean there is a "Social Norm"???? Strewth why wasn't I told? no bastard bothered to ask me!!

Let me give you a clue. There are a surprisingly largish number of folks here who have been around the traps for many, many years with some even before you were born let alone whelped. If you want to make such sweeping statements best be prepared to back it up with documentation which pedantic pricks like me can and will verify. You've possibly lost many Brownie points for placing foot/hoof in mouth before thinking first and then putting quill to parchment.

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RE: Age in Dominance - 2/23/2011 6:18:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		Do you expect me to crawl in a corner and cry or something? Good luck with that.
Anyway, instead of being incorrigible bastards, lets think for a moment.
I have done my research. I have taken samples from around the world. The internet is a VERY useful tool for doing so!

Now, lets break it down a bit.

In the history of nearly any country you look at, you will see it.
In England, girls were married to MUCH older men in ancient times. The same goes for Europe as a whole, and that still holds some influence today, even though the difference isnt so great.

Now, lets skip continents to Africa... Do I actually have to go into this?

China, arranged marriages and a respect for virgins.

I could continue, but even at my "advanced age of 18" I need some breakfast, so I'm cutting it short.

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RE: Age in Dominance - 2/23/2011 6:43:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

.... CONTROL! YOU'RE MINE! YOU TURN TO JELLO AT MY FEET WHEN I WANT IT, NOT WHEN YOU WANT IT. Having the power, that effect on another person is intoxicating. Knowing that every feeling, sensation, thought and emotion is directed by you, the mad man at the helm of the pleasure cruise is the STUFF! ..... turning you into a quivering puddle of gush cuz I grabbed your hair and pulled you in tight... priceless





Oh my....*fap fap fap*


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RE: Age in Dominance - 2/23/2011 7:51:27 AM   
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Note fist an average vanilla couple, or any couple in the world. In general, the male is a bit older than the female. Its a standard, a social norm that is conformed to.


Now see, I knew we were both non conformist.

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