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WyldHrt -> RE: OMG -- How did we ever survive being a kid (3/9/2011 2:22:29 AM)
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My God. You people see what you are doing to these kids?
In sports, there aren't winners and losers anymore. They ALL win!
They can't do wrong, they are just kids!
Humans have already bypassed natural selection, for the most part, and now you try to destroy the social version that exists in its place?
This is why America is weak. This is why China owns us. People can't raise their kids like they need to be raised!
The kids start to expect that EVERYTHING be handed to them on a silver platter. That they don't HAVE to work.
Look at Obamacare. That's a huge sign that America is dying, anyways. (but that is for another thread).
Look at me. I'm a kid, a teen, but a kid. And I think teachers are idiots for being too lenient. That's the only reason some things become a problem, anyways. (ie: bullying, hooky, etc)
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And I apologize to anyone over 18, are you actually school age children?
I'm sorry that my personal accounts, something I go through on a near daily basis isn't a worthy source of information! God forbid that someone young isn't being arrogant, but is, instead, arguing a point that they feel shouldn't need to be argued in the first place!
No, I see it on a daily basis.
The job of a parent is to TEACH their kid how to succeed in life. It is the parent's job to DISCIPLINE a child when it is unruly or disruptive when it shouldn't be. How else are they going to learn the difference?
The simple truth is, they wont. And when someone finally tells them that is IS wrong, all hell breaks loose.
Now, I'm not saying the parent should lay a finger on their child, oh no. Then the kid could just call Social Services and have them arrested. I guess the kid will just have to discipline themselves. [:D]
Just... well said! Your posts are a pleasure for this old fuddy duddy (fuddy daisy?) to read! [;)]
Gen reply~
My brother and sister both had kids, and both decided (well ok, my bro's wife decided) that they would be 'enlightened', understanding parents... sooo much better than our own folks- the ones who actually made rules and enforced them, expected us to help around the house, actively tracked our education and any behavior or achievement issues, and (IMO, most importantly) let us fail when we needed to in order to move forward.
My siblings read the books on parenting, played music to the kids in utero, planned every moment of their kids' babyhood around educational toys and a nurturing environment before they were ever born... they were soooo prepped!
Result... 3 of the worst brats to ever reside on the face of the earth (no, I am not kidding).
I dealt with my bro's sprogs when they came to visit at ages 4 and 6 by setting hard rules and following up. They behaved for me, because I wouldn't bend on expectations. I gave them a choice to obey my rules or not obey, and let them know what would happen either way. No physical punishment, but not obeying was distinctly unpleasant. At first, they thought I was kidding. I wasn't.
After they left, my bro continued allowing their bratty behavior until he came home from work one day to find the kids (now 7 and 9) screaming at their mother. The older one called her a 'fucking bitch', echoed by the younger one. Ummm... that was the end of THAT! Better late than never, I guess. Yeah, trip to the woodshed, and a big change in what was expected. Years later, both kids graduated with honors and athletic letters from high school and are now in college.
My sister's son was not as fortunate. His parents coddled and protected him, even when he kicked my mother (hard) for denying him a cookie and broke his cousin's foot during an argument. Nothing was ever his fault, no matter what. This kid just never learned the connection between actions and consequences, and it's a damned shame.
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