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RE: Pain sluts - 5/6/2006 12:45:37 PM

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Level.... i'm one of those that likes to explore my acceptance of pain... and yes.. i think it depends on who's applying it. I have some types I love to no end.. and try to take higher.... then there's some.. I have low tolerance for... and can go only so far with...but it sure is fun to see how far I can go....

true, it does seem that for most, the "giver" of pain matters, at least to a degree.... maybe due to a feeling of security with them, I wonder....

Well while you're wondering... about sums it up for me... i've been thinking of this post... while with one.. I can endour x amount of luscious pain... while with another... I can't endour as much... so yeah... at least to me... it's about who's giving...

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/6/2006 12:47:27 PM

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Actually; paper cuts, I have stepped on a nail, stubbed my toe to the point of taking a chunk out of it, broke my hand once, had my leg broken twice...these did not bother me pain wise, but one time I accidently cut my finger with a knife and the pain was horrid.

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/6/2006 12:53:07 PM

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Level.... i'm one of those that likes to explore my acceptance of pain... and yes.. i think it depends on who's applying it. I have some types I love to no end.. and try to take higher.... then there's some.. I have low tolerance for... and can go only so far with...but it sure is fun to see how far I can go....

true, it does seem that for most, the "giver" of pain matters, at least to a degree.... maybe due to a feeling of security with them, I wonder....

Well while you're wondering... about sums it up for me... i've been thinking of this post... while with one.. I can endour x amount of luscious pain... while with another... I can't endour as much... so yeah... at least to me... it's about who's giving...

It's the same with me. I've always thought it comes from the security of knowing that the one I trust will hurt me, not harm me. It allows me to relax into the sensation and enjoy all of it, instead of keeping part of myself held back, reserved for keeping an eye on my partner.

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/6/2006 12:56:27 PM

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Fond of all pain- desires from early age far back as I can rememberNote- I say all meaning anything I have felt thus far which is a hellava Lot. There could be a pain out there I wouldn't like but I haven't felt it yet, unless smashing a big toe on the leg of a chair counts. OUCH F!

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/6/2006 1:20:18 PM

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I'm not what you would call overly sadistic, but lately have on occasion found my thoughts wandering towards those that are often known as pain sluts. Are those of you in that camp fond of all pain, or pain with a certain person inflicting it upon you? Just certain types of pain? Did you have these desires from an early age or were they developed as you went through life?

I've been called a painslut for years. At first it offended me. I hadn't really thought that I was actually getting off on the pain until someone explained it for me.

For me, being whipped, caned, flogged, just hurts up to a point that is. Once the endorphins kick it, I do get "high" off the pain. When the pain reaches a high enough level it's like being transported though. A kind of transcendence. For me, it's a very heady experience.

Not sure if that makes sense to you, Level.

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/6/2006 1:40:08 PM

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I'm not what you would call overly sadistic, but lately have on occasion found my thoughts wandering towards those that are often known as pain sluts. Are those of you in that camp fond of all pain, or pain with a certain person inflicting it upon you? Just certain types of pain? Did you have these desires from an early age or were they developed as you went through life?

I've been called a painslut for years. At first it offended me. I hadn't really thought that I was actually getting off on the pain until someone explained it for me.

For me, being whipped, caned, flogged, just hurts up to a point that is. Once the endorphins kick it, I do get "high" off the pain. When the pain reaches a high enough level it's like being transported though. A kind of transcendence. For me, it's a very heady experience.

Not sure if that makes sense to you, Level.

It does indeed, or so I think .... the action remains, but the pain leaves, at least in a way, and for a time. How about afterwards, though? I mean, how long do the endorphins carry you?

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/6/2006 1:52:19 PM

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It does indeed, or so I think .... the action remains, but the pain leaves, at least in a way, and for a time. How about afterwards, though? I mean, how long do the endorphins carry you?

In the (so far to date) most intense scene I participated in I was literally spaced out for three days and it took me a full week to shred the last vestiges of feeling "out of touch".

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/6/2006 1:57:18 PM

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I look back on my life and realize that I have had a high pain tolerance. I can remember breaking my left arm right at the shoulder when I was 9 or 10. There was no pain; all I felt was the shock of something horribly wrong, but it was not pain. My parents almost didn’t take me to the doctor because I wasn’t in pain. The only thing that convinced them to was the fact that I couldn’t move it. My parents tell the stories of me as a baby and young child with massive ear infections and I did not exhibit any signs of pain. The doctors were amazed that I wasn’t screaming my head off in pain. After four years of chronic infections, the most discomfort I ever exhibited was saying that loud noises “scared my ears”. It made them uncomfortable but didn’t hurt.

I didn’t associate pain with sexual pleasure until about 6 years ago. One afternoon, someone I was involved with came into the apartment grabbed me and slammed me up against the wall. There was an immediate shock of pain followed by a rush of sexual arousal. He was immediately contrite because he didn’t mean to hurt me, then the realization of “Oh, that turned you on.”

Since that day, the thought of pain and sex was growing in the back of my mind. About a year and a half ago, I decided that I wanted to explore that idea. That is when I met my Lord and he is someone who is willing to take me to the edge of my endurance and he gets off on it as much as I do.

My sexuality is something that I am only capable of sharing with those that I am in a significant relationship with, and the enjoyment of pain is something that is tied to my sexuality. I can sit in the dentist chair and tolerate the pain of dental work, but if my Lord caused the same kind of pain I would become sexually aroused from it. The ability to tolerate it is the same, but the sexual arousal only comes when someone that I care about causes the pain.

There are certain types of sensations that others would call painful and to me they are just really intense but not pain. There are other types of sensations that are painful and I hate them. With those, I get off on my ability to endure whatever he throws at me. I take the sensations and they feed my power and tear down my walls. The sensations open me up and I become more vulnerable, emotional and aggressive. Pain allows me an outlet to freely express emotions that I generally have ruthless control over. The calm unemotional girl becomes a volatile, emotional being. This is not something that I can share with just anyone. I become too primal and it comes too close to the core of me to trust this with most people.

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/6/2006 2:20:21 PM

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Thank you for sharing that, kyra... pain (and bondage, for some) as a path to various kinds of freedoms. As Freud might say, "veddy interesting" .

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/6/2006 2:51:37 PM

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This is not something that I can share with just anyone. I become too primal and it comes too close to the core of me to trust this with most people.

Wow, yes! You've worded exactly how i feel.

One of the hardest things for me is being able to word it. That made it very hard for me to negotiate scening also.. i can't say i like something or don't, because i both like and hate, crave and avoid. To show that side of me is very hard, to discuss it? OMg...

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/6/2006 3:14:58 PM

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I like pain in a sexual context. I've always enjoyed it from my very first experiences in my early years to this day. It's not something someone trained me to enjoy, but rather something in my hardwiring. I don't know how else to describe it because I was a practicing solo masochist long before I had any words or definitions to describe it. It's just something I've always done and enjoyed.

I'd like to say that my predilection to pain could be put into a people based context but that wouldn't be true. If there's no one around to inflict the pain I've no problem doing it myself. Truthfully, my personal collection would do many a sadist proud. I will say it's better with another doing the inflicting, kind of like the difference between yummy and !wow!, but I didn't learn that difference until my twenties.

I have my own classifications between good-hurts and bad-hurts. I've broken my ankles five times and trust me, none of them were good-hurts. Yet, I once took a layer of skin off my nipples with a dremmel brush attachment and didn't even mind wearing the band-aids for a week while I healed. On another tack, if some stranger were to come up to me and smack me, I would consider it a bad-hurt and I would be apt to break his/her knee. If someone I knew and trusted did the same I would melt into a puddle. I've been singletailed from shoulders to knees with the successful intent to turn me into a blood red striped tabby cat and loved every minute of it.

So I guess, for me anyway, context is key. Pain inflicted either by myself or by someone I trust will send me flying high every time. Even accidents during those times don't really bother me, just patch me up and keep going. I shocked a dominant friend of mine that way. He was way into knives and I was curious about them. To make a long story short, he zigged, I zagged and I ended up with an unintentional cut that required two homemade butterfly stitches. Truthfully, he was much more upset than I was and was flabbergasted that I wanted to continue after a go-roud with the first aid kit. Needless to say, we stopped but not because I wanted to it to halt.

I've kind of rambled a bit with more anecdotal than actual answers but I hope some understanding can be found amongst it all. Great questions Level. Thank you.

Sincerely,

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/6/2006 3:23:45 PM

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I'm not what you would call overly sadistic, but lately have on occasion found my thoughts wandering towards those that are often known as pain sluts. Are those of you in that camp fond of all pain, or pain with a certain person inflicting it upon you? Just certain types of pain? Did you have these desires from an early age or were they developed as you went through life?

I definatly fall into the catagory of pain slut. Am I fond of all pain?. A big NO there, I'm terrified of the dentist, some body peircings make me cringe and go ouch!! But play me till I'm bleeding, well I'll blush if I say more ,the right kind of pain gets me rather randy *eg*
There is only one person I play with to that capacity.
At a recent even there was a person watching our play who was seriously upset and thought I was being tortured. My husband had to go do a bit of spin control to assure them I was okay. I tried to explain, yes I was in pain that was why I was screaming but I loved it.

When I was a kid I would lose it if I got a splinter, lol, my Mom would have to wait until I was asleep before even attampting to pull them out.
It look a while before I came to terms with these desires, that I am a heathy,happy adjusted person. Who just happens to love being played until I'm bruised bloody and nearly incapable of speach. The experience grounds me, reminds me of my own mortality as well as acts as a reward.

It is also how the pain is inflicted. If it's being done in anger the reception of the experience is going to be alot diffrent. Same as with the reason, is it pain from a trauma like a broken bone or a nasty medical procedure (again with my reference to dentists *S*)

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/6/2006 3:41:13 PM

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I like pain in a sexual context. I've always enjoyed it from my very first experiences in my early years to this day. It's not something someone trained me to enjoy, but rather something in my hardwiring. I don't know how else to describe it because I was a practicing solo masochist long before I had any words or definitions to describe it. It's just something I've always done and enjoyed.

I'd like to say that my predilection to pain could be put into a people based context but that wouldn't be true. If there's no one around to inflict the pain I've no problem doing it myself. Truthfully, my personal collection would do many a sadist proud. I will say it's better with another doing the inflicting, kind of like the difference between yummy and !wow!, but I didn't learn that difference until my twenties.

I have my own classifications between good-hurts and bad-hurts. I've broken my ankles five times and trust me, none of them were good-hurts. Yet, I once took a layer of skin off my nipples with a dremmel brush attachment and didn't even mind wearing the band-aids for a week while I healed. On another tack, if some stranger were to come up to me and smack me, I would consider it a bad-hurt and I would be apt to break his/her knee. If someone I knew and trusted did the same I would melt into a puddle. I've been singletailed from shoulders to knees with the successful intent to turn me into a blood red striped tabby cat and loved every minute of it.

So I guess, for me anyway, context is key. Pain inflicted either by myself or by someone I trust will send me flying high every time. Even accidents during those times don't really bother me, just patch me up and keep going. I shocked a dominant friend of mine that way. He was way into knives and I was curious about them. To make a long story short, he zigged, I zagged and I ended up with an unintentional cut that required two homemade butterfly stitches. Truthfully, he was much more upset than I was and was flabbergasted that I wanted to continue after a go-roud with the first aid kit. Needless to say, we stopped but not because I wanted to it to halt.

I've kind of rambled a bit with more anecdotal than actual answers but I hope some understanding can be found amongst it all. Great questions Level. Thank you.

Sincerely,

merry

Great answers, merry, and thanks for giving them. I believe that every time someone opens up, there's an opportunity for learning from all sides *smiles*.

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/6/2006 5:12:59 PM

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lot of the questions that are asked on here, I would have different answers to on different days. Thinking about this question today and I'm getting confused over why I like pain in a sensual way.

I definately would never go out into the back shed and hit my thumb with a hammer and orgasm or feel hot in any way. I would never self injure to get off, thats a definite too. I've also done stuff in my life in self-exploration, exposed myself to experiences that had potential for pain and those things didnt make me hot either. I have been dominated outside of bdsm and never felt the slightest bit hot or craved pain from the dominating person or situation....so that really only leaves that a feeling of being dominated by my intimate partner is what turns the pain into kink and is very hot for me....but that doesnt explain why it happens hey...

I really dont know today.

I do know it has a lot to do with my partner, his attitude and the energy he is giving off, it has a lot to do with atmosphere and my state of mind. It is really bound up in my sexuality....its been a theme throughout my life.

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/6/2006 8:48:15 PM

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Well mostly i'd consider myself a complete wuss. I stubb my toe and cry. But if i fall down a flight of stairs I laff. Ok I might just be wierd.

I'm aroused by some forms of pain and discouvered if brought up slowly i can endure a fair amount of it. I do not get off on pain just for the sake of pain though. Other forms of pain make me instantly angery and ready to fight back. I think it depends alot on where, when, who and how for me.

I've been known to enjoy something at one time but try it another time and my claws come out and I hiss in high irritation. Granted this was with my nilla ex husband and not a Dom. LOL guess I'll find out if i respond better with a Dom then someone that basically irritated me most of the time anyway *g*

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/6/2006 9:08:17 PM

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I would not call myself a pain slut, I am masochist. I do not know what the difference is for people that define this, but I love any sensation that leads to endorphins rushing through my brain. I love the feeling of overworking my body when my muscles are sore. I love looking at my bruised bottom and bruised puffy nipples after play. I love erotic pain and can get pleasure just from this.

I get confused when people label pain sluts as something different from masochism.. but as with anything I think these labels are self determined. I wonder if sometimes some are hesitant to call themselves masochists because there is a derogatory connotation attached, but I embrace it because it is a part of my sexuality...

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/6/2006 9:14:37 PM

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I like pain in a sexual context

That's me too, love "erotic pain" but not pain from an injury.

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/6/2006 9:28:21 PM

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Painslut, I never really cared for that word, yet I am into the pain. I just do not experience as pain. I guess since I did start very early in the hands of someone who had an amazing talent for taking you back and forth between that thin line that separates pain from pleasure my body quickly reached the point where it could not tell the difference anymore.

It also has a great deal with who is inflicting the pain for me. The only time I feel real pleasure is in the hands of the one my body and brain recognize as Master.

In the same vein the pain that I go through, have gritted my teeth at, while racing is a good pain to me. Instead of it making me say ouch it spurs me on. I actually ride better fighting an injury or aching muscles. So for me the pain also provides tremendous focus.

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/6/2006 9:47:14 PM

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For masochists, pain exists to be enjoyed, reveled in so to speak...

For pain sluts, pain simply is there, like air or water... without it, the world is just not quite as real...

Was told this by a self declared pain slut... sometimes, I'm a pain slut, sometimes I masochist... just depends on my state of mind...

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/6/2006 10:01:21 PM

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I'm not what you would call overly sadistic, but lately have on occasion found my thoughts wandering towards those that are often known as pain sluts. Are those of you in that camp fond of all pain, or pain with a certain person inflicting it upon you? Just certain types of pain? Did you have these desires from an early age or were they developed as you went through life?

Well, I wouldn't call myself a "pain slut", but I am definitely a masochist. I love lots of different kinds of pain, and am constantly exploring new realms of enjoyment. I wouldn't say I'm fond of all pain (I don't like violet wands, for example, and I'm not really a fan of genital spanking), and that's regardless of who is inflicting that pain upon me. I certainly didn't have the desire to be whipped or cut from an early age, but I have always gotten a "high" from self-inflicted pain, which was what led me to masochism. When I was a kid, I was a self injurer (I cut myself), but I also took hammers to my hands and feet, put needles through my skin, and even dropped furniture on my feet. As I went through life, I became more creative. Now, I enjoy inflicting pain on others, too. :)

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