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RE: Pain sluts - 5/6/2006 10:11:24 PM

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Actually; paper cuts, I have stepped on a nail, stubbed my toe to the point of taking a chunk out of it, broke my hand once, had my leg broken twice...these did not bother me pain wise, but one time I accidently cut my finger with a knife and the pain was horrid.

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Cutting your fingers is the worst because there are so many horrible little nerve endings.

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/6/2006 10:16:58 PM

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This is not something that I can share with just anyone. I become too primal and it comes too close to the core of me to trust this with most people.

I agree with this, sort of. I certainly enjoying scening with others. It's always fun to experience how someone else can inflict pain. However, if the pain is incredible, then I prefer that my partner hang near by to keep his eye on me. I don't approach the head space much, but I do end up overcome with emotion from time to time and it frightens or frustrates or confuses some of the play partners I've had. My partner, however, can tell when I'm ready to stop, if I lose the ability.

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/6/2006 10:24:03 PM

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Are those of you in that camp fond of all pain, or pain with a certain person inflicting it upon you? Just certain types of pain

Absolutely. I have to be very attracted to{mind, body and spirit} and like the lady. The minute I start receiving pain someone I don't like, nor am I attracted to, I will deliver it back to them in told-fold incuments. ; }

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/7/2006 4:05:45 AM

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I'm not what you would call overly sadistic, but lately have on occasion found my thoughts wandering towards those that are often known as pain sluts. Are those of you in that camp fond of all pain, or pain with a certain person inflicting it upon you? Just certain types of pain? Did you have these desires from an early age or were they developed as you went through life?

I'm not a pain slut by any stretch of the imagination. However, when I am involved with someone, and I trust him implicitly, things that are typically thought of as painful are not painful to me. But, the delivery of pain must be presented in layers. Start small, build up. Even at that, there are certain things that simply are too much and will drag my focus straight to that pain and nothing else. Pretty much kills it unless something is changed.

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/7/2006 4:16:55 AM

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I rather do consider myself a pain slut. I enjoy pain when being applied in a scene, but I do not enjoy pain that comes from daily life, like the stubbing of toe, or cutting of a finger. Working a lot with knifes as I do, I have suffered many cut fingers. That pain doesn't arouse me at all.

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/7/2006 10:19:28 AM

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Now I'm a pain slut with an odd reaction... I don't get an erection, most of the time, but, instead, it triggers my temper... granted, me and the shrinky people agree that it stems from my childhood abuse, but since kink pain is basically by my invitation, it's a type of temper I enjoy... kind of like a warm fire on a fall night... comfortable and warming... the pain feeds the temper, which overrides the pain, which lets me take more...

pain from being a klutz gives me the same reaction, just not the same type of temper response... then things get kicked harder, or thrown... or both, if possible... LOL but the pain is still somewhat enjoyable... anyone else out there have this kind of a reaction, or am I just a freak? =P

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/7/2006 11:03:01 AM

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I didn’t grow up enjoying pain and don’t consider myself a masochist. However, I do enjoy ‘standing’ for a sadist who likes leaving wicked marks on my body. It’s about control…I like it when someone exerts control over me. Getting bloody welts means I will feel that experience for many days to come; every time I move or bend.

Having said all that…I cannot stand there easily if someone starts of with a single-tail filleting my back! It’s about endorphins, doncha know; a slow and steady buildup. And sometimes, if too fast or too hard, I loose the whole deal and it all just hurts like hell!

Oddly, I am not able to transfer pain to sexual delight. Sure, I get wet, but I think that’s more about the control factor. And yes…its ALL about the person who delivers it.

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“...Pain allows me an outlet to freely express emotions that I generally have ruthless control over. The calm unemotional girl becomes a volatile, emotional being. This is not something that I can share with just anyone. I become too primal and it comes too close to the core of me to trust this with most people.”

OMG…that is SO MUCH like meeeeee, too! …though I still think it’s more about the control than the pain, itself.

Dustyn, I don't think you are a freak...I think you are dealing with a childhood of abuse. If beatings are the way we got attention...then wouldn't that kind of attention, for awhile, feel like 'coming home'? Just a thought.

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/7/2006 11:45:51 AM

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Seems to me i read someplace that a pain slut will do anything for the pain, even if what that pain slut regards as pain is only a level 3 sensation. i think i am kind of like that. i have low tolerance, but what i can endure, i sure the hell like! (as noted by MadamShy though, i definately need workup, bigtime!)

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/7/2006 12:16:48 PM

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Good question and great answers.

I agree that (for me) there has to be a 'build up' not just hard fast pain...

Also, if I feel He is upset with me for something I have or have not done, then it is not a pleasureable pain at all.

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/7/2006 3:32:45 PM

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Me and the shrinky people have gone over the abuse from so many angles, it feel like being a basketball at times... LOL

The coming home idea, while on the surface might fit, in a general sense, isn't really the right one... it's more along the lines of controlling what was once uncontrollable for me... to relive it, which is how coming home strikes me, I'd have to find someone about twice my size to throw me through walls, door and windows without saying a single word first...ah well...

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Dustyn, I don't think you are a freak...I think you are dealing with a childhood of abuse. If beatings are the way we got attention...then wouldn't that kind of attention, for awhile, feel like 'coming home'? Just a thought.

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/7/2006 3:35:22 PM

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Being on the sadistic side of things myself, I have enjoyed the insight given by so many different types of masocists, pain sluts or what-have you greatly.

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/7/2006 5:49:13 PM

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Smiles @Julia...It's all good. AKA "Mimi"...yeah..I rejoined.

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/9/2006 4:38:55 AM

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Ahhhhhhhhhh.. 'the shrinky people!

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it's more along the lines of controlling what was once uncontrollable for me...

Thank you Dustyn... <smiles gently>

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/9/2006 4:50:51 AM

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pain, i experienced before any BDSM M/s dynamics.

i like pain, more than i thought i did. i knew, that i was kinda into it [i mean, who couldnt use some endorphins?] but after i got my first spanking, i realized, i got hot from pain. if Hes having trouble getting me "ready" He knows all He has to do is flip me over and lay it to me. As long as it hurts, it will get me wet.

Pain, is the only thing that has brought me into subspace.

i think also, sadly, i am addicted to pain. the mental clarity it gives me compares to nothing. not to mention the unfaltering adoration it draws from me towards Him for wielding that power over me.

there is only one pain i dont like, i hate having my inner thighs bit, caned, anything. it is the most tender part of my body and hurts beyond pleasure.

i dont think i am a pain slut.

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/9/2006 5:20:09 AM

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I'm not a pain slut by any stretch of the imagination. However, when I am involved with someone, and I trust him implicitly, things that are typically thought of as painful are not painful to me. But, the delivery of pain must be presented in layers. Start small, build up. Even at that, there are certain things that simply are too much and will drag my focus straight to that pain and nothing else. Pretty much kills it unless something is changed.

I agree - the slow buildup lets me reach a much higher level.

I'm not a masochist, or a painslut. I'm a total wimp, I hate the pain. But I LOVE the feeling afterwards, it's a total high - and the more I take, the better that high is afterwards.

But during.... I always wonder what kind of idiot I am for doing this.

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/9/2006 5:51:55 AM

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I'm not what you would call overly sadistic, but lately have on occasion found my thoughts wandering towards those that are often known as pain sluts. Are those of you in that camp fond of all pain, or pain with a certain person inflicting it upon you? Just certain types of pain? Did you have these desires from an early age or were they developed as you went through life?

Coming into this a bit late- for me a pain slut is someone who actively craves and seeks a relatively intense level of the type of pain they get off on (not necessarily sexually).

I've noticed it's about even between those who started off strong and those who developed over time.

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/9/2006 10:00:21 AM

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personally.....i find the pain aspect in scening to be quite enjoyable.....it forces me to push my limits on how much i can take.......its like physical, mental & emotional strength conditioning......very important for a sub.....i consider myself a masochist........but that does not mean i get aroused when i jam my thumb in the car door.....

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/9/2006 10:16:33 AM

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I am a Sadist and have been for many moons .. one thing to know is that the use of pain in scenes definetly starts thye power exchange happening during the scene .. but the sub/slave must have the trust in you or it can be harmful in its reactions. I always start off slow . maybe a warm up spanking then work thru the arsenal of tools I own ... and after doing it enough years I have learned to be able to notice the sub or slaves body reactions too .. once the flinching stopps they are either in total sub space or they are in a very trusting zone and enjoyingit . one thingI have always done is played with a girls body a slight touch here or there to bring them pleasure while pain scening always makes for a more enjoyable experience . and the girl soon learns to associate pleasure and pain all in one sceneI have trained quite a few girls to become "pain sluts" but caution must be used in how you train .. because otherwise you either get a "pain addict" or someone who is damaged by it and doesn't ever want to experience it again.

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/9/2006 10:45:12 AM

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.. once the flinching stopps they are either in total sub space or they are in a very trusting zone and enjoyingit .

this is the thing that makes my D uneasy [i think b/c He is new] whenever i calm and stop flinhing/moving, He tends to stop soon after that. coming over to my face, getting 'drugged' responses, says we are done. ---- right when i really start to get into it!

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RE: Pain sluts - 5/9/2006 4:00:01 PM

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the newness of your Dom is the issue here ... but in a respectful way you can tell him what he is missing. I have another technique where I allow you to slip into your state of euphoria then I bring you out . then back in ... doing this a few times and then letting you sink deep . the rush from the subspace I have been told it is the most intense experince around. I would be happy to help you out further if you just drop me an e-mail.

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