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kalikshama -> RE: Does it irk you when....... (7/21/2011 5:39:43 AM)

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I just happen to remember that she has asked politely on numerous occasions not to call her what she's been called alot recently. Just stuck in my mind, no big deal to me personally. I don't always agree with her but I'm always careful to call her what she asks. I just think it's the decent thing to do. But then, I'm considerate like that.


I've seen several occasions where it appeared that people were deliberately being provocative. Alas, I have come to expect this in P&R but not elsewhere.

Hannah - this was before your time; I am not referring to you.



LillyBoPeep -> RE: Does it irk you when....... (7/21/2011 5:47:41 AM)

i don't mind when people shorten my name. i'm not particularly fond of my real name (or at least not the way most people pronounce it -- i can't really explain it, haha) so i got into the habit of shortening it at an early age. so if someone types LBP, or lilly, or bopeep, or whatever, i don't care. i don't use my real name with people until i've talked to them for a smidge.
if a person has a sig line that says "please refer to me X way" i'll usually try to remember. i did notice what slaveluci was talking about in regards to a particular poster, and it seems a lot of people "forget" when they're also conveniently trying to be rude. i also take that as a sign of immaturity.

(i'll also try to remember "kali" -- i think i've typed kalik before, to differentiate from other names that can be shortened to kali, too. =p haha only somewhat familiar with kshama -- it's a concept not an outright diety, i thought? i do have a gorgeous statue of saraswati who sits on my art table. ^_^ )



Palliata -> RE: Does it irk you when....... (7/21/2011 5:49:04 AM)

There's no comfortable way to shorten my name (Pal? Palla? Doesn't work.), so it doesn't really come up much. Other names I've had in the past were much more amenable to it, and that didn't much bother me. At one point I went by Allaidh and people shortened it to Alla which was weird for obvious reasons, but other than that. It's odd, because the shortening (or even localizing, by and large) my real name I find absolutely unacceptable.



tiggerspoohbear -> RE: Does it irk you when....... (7/21/2011 6:49:50 AM)

just nm



zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Does it irk you when....... (7/21/2011 6:57:45 AM)

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At no point, that I recall, have I made an issue of being called Tigger, or whatever else it may have been shortened to. If people choose to ignore the sig line, then so be it.


Yeah sorry about that. I wasn't ignoring your sig line I just didn't notice it at first. I didn't think the "honeypaws" under your nic had any more meaning than a whatever it's called. Many have them but aren't necessarily called by it.



Arpig -> RE: Does it irk you when....... (7/21/2011 7:06:39 AM)

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The funniest part about this whole exchange is that I never said a word about YOU.
Yeah you did. In your second post you quite clearly accused her of doing it. You can waffle all you want, but you did.
Right here:
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I don't always agree with her but I'm always careful to call her what she asks. I just think it's the decent thing to do. But then, I'm considerate like that. I disagree with pretty much every opinion you put forth and don't call you bad names at all.
The implication is clear that while you always call her what she wants Hannah doesn't. Your passive aggressive shit is tiresome luci.



LadyConstanze -> RE: Does it irk you when....... (7/21/2011 7:17:15 AM)


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ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth

So do I and I tend to avoid her posts but it costs me nothing to call her what she wants to be called the rare times I respond to one of her posts.



I put the coffee maker on ignore too, not worth reading the nonsense she sprouts, I just had a particular dislike because there were several conversations in the past where she deliberately put people down and made them feel like scum, one with a girl with learning disability and a handycap who was trying to get a job and found it incredibly hard to deal with the forms and vented a bit, really no reason to call the person a lazy sponger who doesn't deserve anything and should be left to starve (said person has not ever been rude to anybody, she just has some problems), while rattling on which luxuries her sugar daddy affords for her. I mean if somebody is living in conditions that are less than ideal, why on earth make them feel even worse about it? Because somebody buys you stuff (you haven't even worked for it) you're not better than somebody who tries really hard and it doesn't give you the right to make that person feel even worse about herself. In the meantime, I came to the conclusion that she's most likely as much a fibber as David and so unhappy that she feels the need to put down people she thinks can't defend themselves.



zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Does it irk you when....... (7/21/2011 7:20:49 AM)

I think that her posts just reflect on her and I try to be better than that rather than behaving the same way. Personally she comes across as very insecure deep inside which is (IMO) how most bullies are.



LadyConstanze -> RE: Does it irk you when....... (7/21/2011 7:26:52 AM)

I don't think you were around for that particular vile outburst, you could literally see the other person reeling and trying to defend herself just to be shut down in flames with sanctimonious rubbish - yes, I am sure that other person wanted to be born with a mental and physical disability (they are seriously obvious from the posts and the profile, she wasn't doing a Dave) just to be accused of being far too lazy and getting her face rubbed in what she doesn't have.



zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Does it irk you when....... (7/21/2011 7:37:55 AM)

Probably not. I agree that what she wrote was above and beyond - but it still says far more about her than anything else. The girl she was slagging got lots of support no doubt, while she herself ruined any good rep she might have had.

I'd rather sit back and let that kind of person do the job for me; they never disappoint.



tiggerspoohbear -> RE: Does it irk you when....... (7/21/2011 8:40:59 AM)

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ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth
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At no point, that I recall, have I made an issue of being called Tigger, or whatever else it may have been shortened to. If people choose to ignore the sig line, then so be it.

Yeah sorry about that. I wasn't ignoring your sig line I just didn't notice it at first. I didn't think the "honeypaws" under your nic had any more meaning than a whatever it's called. Many have them but aren't necessarily called by it.

No worries Zeph, I misunderstood somewhere along the line and asked a friend about it.  It's all been cleared up now.



LadyConstanze -> RE: Does it irk you when....... (7/21/2011 10:02:15 AM)

I don't quite get it, LOL, I seriously (don't laugh) always thought it's a cereal brand and you're making a joke.



SuzeCheri -> RE: Does it irk you when....... (7/21/2011 10:19:46 AM)

I prefer people to refer to me as "Cheri-Oh-Cheri-Oh-Baby".



zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Does it irk you when....... (7/21/2011 10:21:52 AM)

Does COCOB work for you? Honestly I can't be arsed to type out the whole thing, I'm lazy like that. ~grins~

Zeph



SuzeCheri -> RE: Does it irk you when....... (7/21/2011 10:24:20 AM)

COCOB? I don't get it?

Suze....?



myotherself -> RE: Does it irk you when....... (7/21/2011 10:25:25 AM)

People call me by a variety of abbreviations. I'm Myo, MOS or more usually now, the bunny.

It all works [:D]



SuzeCheri -> RE: Does it irk you when....... (7/21/2011 10:26:19 AM)

[8|]

C'mere

psss pssssp pst pssssp.



zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Does it irk you when....... (7/21/2011 10:26:25 AM)

It's the first letter of each part of Cheri-Oh-Cheri-Baby. [;)]



SuzeCheri -> RE: Does it irk you when....... (7/21/2011 10:27:31 AM)

Made you type it all out!!



LinnaeaBorealis -> RE: Does it irk you when....... (7/21/2011 10:28:20 AM)

I have a name that very few, if any, Americans are able to pronounce properly. And it really got under my skin when people mispronounced it. So I shortened it to lyn when I was a teenager & attending the 2nd of my 3 high schools; my theory was that these people couldn't remember the weird ethnic name & that's why they weren't being friendly to me. Turned out I'm just that odd, but that's another whole story. LOL

Finally, when I was in my 40's I moved to San Francisco & decided to reclaim my given name & not be bothered by the way people mispronounced it. In fact, when I would introduce myself to new people, I would pronounce it the way that most Americans did & the way the name would be pronounced if it were spelled correctly. Once I decided not to be bothered by how people said my name, I felt so much better. Because while other people were doing their best, as long as it bothered me, I was the one being made miserable about it. In other words, I covered over that particular button I'd been allowing so many, including strangers, to push. It never really affected them when they mispronounced my name; I was the one who was irked & bothered by it.

So my first day on a new job in SF, my boss got my name wrong & I tried correcting her once & then gave up & allowed her to introduce me to everyone there as "Leanna". I figured that I'd straighten it out later. OMG! When she found out, she came bursting into my office demanding to know why I hadn't made her pronounce it correctly & I just laughed & made her feel at ease about it. She ended up laughing too. There was one woman in a surgeon's office who I dealt with on the phone on a regular basis who insisted on calling me "Lanai". I tried for the first little while to correct her, but she never did get it. And so I became Lanai to her. She was happy, I wasn't upset, it was all good.

So that's my point about people allowing others to have that kind of power over them & their feelings. When you stop allowing the things that people do & say to bother you, life is so much more pleasant. To this day, my Norwegian grandparents & my Father were the only ones who ever pronounced my name correctly according to the pronunciation rules of the Norwegian language. And the 2-year-old grandson of my Orthodox Jewish employers. [:D]



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