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And when something goes tit's up, such as my daughter having (yet another) stroke last week......we simply do what we can. He's not interested in eliciting my attention when I've got important situations to sort out. Quite the opposite, it's more a case of * forget everything, just look after HER and get back to me when you can*.

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I'm quite surprised that there's such an impression of difficulty when it comes to being *owned*.

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her Leader just likes a lot of control.

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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

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If the s-type asks permission for something, is the d-type expected/required to answer? What if he doesn't answer or is too busy?

If the D says she has to ask, then yes, he should have to answer. Or he should make plans on what the sub should do if she can't contact him.

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ORIGINAL: HannahLynHeather

then why the fuck did you spend so many fucking posts saying that a dom who makes such a rule MUST fucking be available. if you had of given your common sense answer at the beginning instead of continuing to fucking harp on about how a dominant had no right to fucking make such a rule unless he did shit the way your guy does, then nobody would have fucking disputed you.

don't blame others for answering your posts when you post stupid shit.

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m simply NOT compatible with someone who NEEDS rules like Permissions but doesnt want the added hassle of being around to enforce those rules.

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ORIGINAL: HannahLynHeather

sweet mother mary's alabaster tits!

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Because I did something most people do, I used my dynamic as my example for my opinion.

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Because I did something most people do, I used my dynamic as my example for my opinion.

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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance

I though my sigline was clear enough that what I post is my opinion and in my opinion only and that your mileage may vary. I didnt Know that i had to disclaimer every post as such But ill make the special exception just for you because you cant seem to grasp it.

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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Because I did something most people do, I used my dynamic as my example for my opinion.

Here is something that a lot of people do not understand when talking to others about relationships... saying "for me it wouldn't work" is a lot different statement than "it is wrong to do it the way you do"

As you can see, you didn't like people voicing their opinions about your dynamic, so perhaps in the future you might keep that in mind when discussing what other people do.

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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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Because I did something most people do, I used my dynamic as my example for my opinion.

Here is something that a lot of people do not understand when talking to others about relationships... saying "for me it wouldn't work" is a lot different statement than "it is wrong to do it the way you do"

As you can see, you didn't like people voicing their opinions about your dynamic, so perhaps in the future you might keep that in mind when discussing what other people do.

I suggest you go back and re-read in more then one post i state things like in my case, its not compatible with me, or other such things to express that what im stating is in my opinion and my interpretation. as well as every post in my sigline says what i say is my opinion.

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it's the wants that seem to cause the most debate.

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It would be highly unrealistic for Alandra and I to expect him to be available all the time.

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania



I think you need to refer back to this post and see why the discussion ended up the way it did.
http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=3734932

Hannah was responding of how it works in her relationship and how calling at her job wouldn't work for her... you judged that.

Most people do not get jobs where they have a lot of autonomy before age 30, Hannah is under the age of 30, therefore she has a boss she reports to and at her job she cannot call when she pleases (or accept them). The way Heather and Hannah do things works for them, so you arguing about it makes little sense to me.

Most of us do not need to call our bosses all night either.. so the analogy seems strange to me.

It also set up Hannah to defend herself to you.... and then it spiraled from there.

Hey, if you want to have more of the same, don't look at how it all came down. No skin off my nose, just saying, most people will defend their partnership, that is kinda how most of us roll.

I have learned something about CM a long time ago, admitting when I am mistaken or when I may have accidentally given offense rather than arguing about something until the last dog is hung, a much better way of doing things for me personally. Not that I will back away from arguing a point when I feel I am right and I feel it is important...

This discussion, not all that important, different people have different ways of doing things, we can learn from each other, or not, the choice is ours.

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when i made the comment about the number of rules reflecting well on her, it was in the context of my only putting needed rules in place. rather than to imply that somebody into rules simply for the sake of controlling would need anybody fucking dumber in order to do so.