LaTigresse
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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance
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ORIGINAL: HannahLynHeather
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if you had a submissive who had such expectations as i do that you wouldnt take on someone like me don't worry, there isn't a fucking chance in hell of that ever happening, i want a sensible girl with unreasonable expectations.
If you wouldnt mind keeping your personal attacks to yourself, Its not necessary.
Im Not unreasonable, Nor am I lacking of sense However that might be called into question because I'm doing little more then debating points with a wall....Im simply NOT compatible with someone who NEEDS rules like Permissions but doesnt want the added hassle of being around to enforce those rules.
Pot, meet kettle. And not once but twice per the post #41.
As for the OP, as a manager I actually think job comparisons are quite appropriate.
Here, we have a rather loose work protocol. It works for us in most areas. Of course we do, as with most places, have one person that even after eleven years at the same job with very little change to his job, cannot seem to quite function with out a lot of dumbassery. He is the one that asks questions he already knows the answers to and refuses to EVER make a decision himself. I see that as 1. laziness and 2. a learned behaviour based upon his childhood and other relationships.
I have the ability, through protocol of the company, to fire him. I choose not to because the pros outweigh the cons. If, at some point, the cons out weigh the pros, I will send him on his way. But until that point, I prefer to work with his strengths and his weaknesses while constantly trying to encourage improvement.
Not much different than our personal relationships.
Ideally, if I could choose a brand new person to fulfill that position, I would chose one that is stronger in the areas he is weak.
In personal relationships, specifically M/s, we tend to choose people that we feel we are most compatible with. Level of control, micro managing, delegating, more protocol or less. For myself, I like the examples that KoM, Kyra, Hannah and Heather have given.
I believe that once established, there should be less need to ask in many cases. You've learned what the expectations and boundaries are and should not need to continue asking. For ME, that would be an important goal. I put up with enough stupidity here at work. I don't want to go home to more of the same.
< Message edited by LaTigresse -- 6/22/2011 7:25:53 AM >
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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!
Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!
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