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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/17/2006 2:47:50 AM

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the first time i tried fisting i nearly passed out with the pain of it, but then i met my Master and he took me through the process slowly and carefully and now i love it

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/17/2006 2:51:02 AM

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The only comments on fisting I've seen anywhere in the CM Forums have been either how great it is, questioins about technique and warnings about not cutting fingernails or not being carefull etc... My second wife and I experimented one day and she was wrapped when she found she could after a small while take my large paw inside her vagina.. We had no knowledge of BDSM or anyone to teach us but we used common sense and care.. I seem to remember that the one thing we never did was for me to fist her vaginally whilst a friend had penitrated her anus with his penis.. Might have to look at that some time.. Perhaps it could go the other way too with pinile penitration of the vagina then fisting anally. Any thoughts ?

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/17/2006 4:31:31 AM

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I fisted a submissive once. He oohed and aahed. But I could have been watching paint dry for all the fun I had. I was happy to have had the experience, but I doubt that I'll be repeating it.

I much prefer using strap ons and going to town.

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/17/2006 8:16:51 AM

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I don't think fisting has a bad rap. But it IS a kink that:

a) takes actual patience, preparation, build up, skill, and cooperation, often over multiple sessions

b) is planted in most brains as being "big n scary" not "fun and kinky"

c) the act itself has nothing to do with how much you "trust" or "are devoted" to the other person. If you're pushing too hard, you're pushing too hard.

So not as many people are into it or capable of making it a pleasant and fulfilling experience. Similar to anal sex.

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/17/2006 8:17:11 AM

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Fisting gets a bad rap? I've found the opposite to be true: That those who don't enjoy fisting, or don't get into it, or dislike it, often have their opinions on the matter either overlooked or argued.

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/17/2006 8:35:45 AM

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this is a subject i've always been interested in (from the giving point of view only). granted, there's a whole bunch of videos online about it, but doing it in the real world seems hard to find.

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/17/2006 8:44:18 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: IronBear

The only comments on fisting I've seen anywhere in the CM Forums have been either how great it is, questioins about technique and warnings about not cutting fingernails or not being carefull etc... My second wife and I experimented one day and she was wrapped when she found she could after a small while take my large paw inside her vagina.. We had no knowledge of BDSM or anyone to teach us but we used common sense and care.. I seem to remember that the one thing we never did was for me to fist her vaginally whilst a friend had penitrated her anus with his penis.. Might have to look at that some time.. Perhaps it could go the other way too with pinile penitration of the vagina then fisting anally. Any thoughts ?

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/17/2006 8:49:39 AM

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for those worried about infection and long nails etc etc .... get your man to do what my man does!!! he wears a pair of latex gloves...... I see those red gloves appear and I know whats happening next!! YUMMYYYYYY!!!!
it takes time girls but you CAN do it and when you do the feeling .... well !! indescribable!! All I can say is don't rush it, and each time you try , just try and take a little more........ after all we girlies are designed for childbirth...so we can take a fist ( well ok maybe not a giant one ) but a medium sized one is good! oh and persuade your man to wiggle those fingers..... its not 'fisting ' really I wish there was a better term for it!

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/17/2006 8:56:33 AM

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quote:

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it takes time girls but you CAN do it and when you do the feeling .... well !! indescribable!! All I can say is don't rush it, and each time you try , just try and take a little more........ after all we girlies are designed for childbirth...so we can take a fist ( well ok maybe not a giant one ) but a medium sized one is good!

This is not always true. Fisting is one of my biggest fantasies and one that has yet to be fulfilled. I have been trying to accomplish it for 28 years now but have never totally succeeded. Just because a woman has given birth does not mean it is entirely possible. I have had two babies....with the help of episiorectomies, the vigorous use of forceps and up to 167 stitches!!! My youngest's collarbone snapped in half coming through the birth canal. I am just built small in that area and it is not I who has stopped the action ever....the decision to stop has been made each time when tearing had either begun or was imminent. So no ladies....it's not ALWAYS possible. But ohhhhh how I wish it was.......

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/17/2006 8:57:46 AM

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Is it just the potential reciever that has concerns and worries about this or does the administrator have qualms too? Are there guys or ladies that refuse to do it cause it creeps them out even if their sub/slave is begging them to try?

Mild curiousity here.....

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/17/2006 9:06:35 AM

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I don't like the idea of fisting..but personally I'd be more open for vaginal fisting than anal but then I can't say I'm open for it at all

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/17/2006 9:12:40 AM

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It falls under the "to each their own"....... I personally love the journey.... once reached... the high is so great... I no longer can control anything at all..... but like said the crash is termendous..... if not handled correctly.

I met a up and coming Dom that really was disturbed by it and flat refused.... a few months later he opened his mind about it.. with out telling me.. and tried again.. and felt better about it.... and stated he would like to venture more into the whole aspects.... he's not entered all... he's still working with his mind on this.... so when he's ready to try again... he will... like a good Dom.. he's researching... and making sure of all precautions.

Edited to add.... not made the anal journey as of yet..(fisting that is).... though i've been threatened a few times with it... so not sure how I will respond to one who will attempt to begin training me for such... or if I ever will...

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/17/2006 9:27:14 AM

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Why is it that fisting can raise an eyebrow, even among people with such different tastes as collected here?

My wife has loved it ever since we discovered she could. Every woman that I have been with has ooed and ahed as my 2 fingers turned to three, then to 4 as she got more into the flow. It almost becomes like a challenge of sorts to see if they can work up to the whole hand.

I think it's the name. Fisting just sounds so violent, when in fact it could not be further. It's almost a spiritual experience watching a woman orgasm that hard. You can really feel the energy (as hippie as that sounds) being sent back and forth. And yet it still has a negative tone whenever discussed... Thoughts? (New thoughts please, no need to list the other threads that include the word, for those so inclined to do so... You know how you are.)

I think you are completely correct.

I lot of folks hear fisting and they think hitting or violence.

They might also thing anal fisting usually called handballing.

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/17/2006 10:33:42 AM

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The only negative comment I've ever heard about fisting a female is that she might loose some muscle tone and have problems. I have no idea if this is true, but that's the comment I've heard. Other than that, no one I know has a problem with it. Like with most things, there are correct and incorrect ways of doing it.

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/17/2006 10:36:12 AM

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Dear IronBear, Ladies and Gentlemen;

As to your thoughts on double penetration, I have double penetrated vaginal and anal at the same time and, it really does help having another to 'aid' in the process, such as adding the lube and wipe up the drips and dribbles. This is where a sling is so wonderful because another individual can move under and 'assist.'

As for penis penetration and fist in another cavity, I recommend phallus entry first and then fist entry. The man/woman who penetrates, through fake phallus and or natural phallus. The one penetrating needs to be comfortable just as much as the host of all these penetrations. The fister has more flexibility. It would be no different than double penetration with phallus. It is usually the anus first as it takes so much gentle care and then both roll over as to have the woman ready to receive the next phallus. Or vice versa.

It is more about the comfort of the one getting the double whoppers.

Like with everything -- communication, communication.

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/17/2006 10:36:18 AM

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keep exercising them muscles... keeping them tight and fun....

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/17/2006 10:45:40 AM

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keep exercising them muscles... keeping them tight and fun....

Well said....just reading this thread makes one want to umm....tighten up those muscles

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/20/2006 9:28:38 AM

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Thank you for all the wonderful input and differing opinions.

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/20/2006 12:11:01 PM

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Gee, imagine that... Christians getting pissy about something not missionary... what are the odds?

Personally, I can think of better uses for a hand, but hey, if it floats your boat, blow the horn... *shrug* I think most of my problem with it is I get basically no physical enjoyment out of it, but who knows.

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/20/2006 12:22:14 PM

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Gee, imagine that... Christians getting pissy about something not missionary... what are the odds?

Personally, I can think of better uses for a hand, but hey, if it floats your boat, blow the horn... *shrug* I think most of my problem with it is I get basically no physical enjoyment out of it, but who knows.

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Comments like that make you look ignorant ...

Nowhere in the Bible does it say that thou shalt only have sex in the missionary position. In fact, most Christians I know, enjoy a variety of positions ... Not that we run around asking each other but we do talk, from time to time.

Yes, we're told to save it for marriage and we're not allowed to have incest or sex with animals but then again, I don't know anyone who wants to do that anyway ... Christian or otherwise.

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