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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/20/2006 12:22:47 PM

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To me... fisting is one of the most sensual and spirit-minded experiences that can be shared between two people. I don't allow all my lovers to fist me. It is something that I see as almost holy (weird to say, maybe) but it means a great deal to me.. I feel more vulnerable, more complete and totally submissive - puppet-like.. and I squirt everywhere..

Reaching down to touch His wrist as the rest of His hand is buried inside me... gently turning, or flexing.. or simply holding my being there in his hand... it's dreamy.

I've been fisted anally, too. I enjoyed the experience mostly because I DID IT. Success in pleasing my Master makes me beam with pride and a sense of accomplishment. Anal fisting is a totally different feeling.. and afterwards, you feel more open.. as though you could almost go to the bathroom in your panties (kinda icky to me).... (sorry to gross ya out)

Anyway... fisting is easier for women who had vaginal birth... I've asked my OBGYN about its safety from a medical standpoint. Nothing wrong with it.. nothing that will "stretch" you out like the Lincoln Tunnel.. just have clean clean hands (latex gloves) and short short nails. Pack your patience.. if your lover is scared or squimish.. it may not happen the first time you try it - but it will happen...

Again.. these are merely my opinions on a topic that enthralls me.

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/20/2006 1:52:43 PM

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it may not happen the first time you try it - but it will happen...

Once again I will point out that this is not always the case as you will see if you refer back to my post #49 in this thread. I point this out not to argue with you but as submissives we sometimes take on a great deal of guilt for what we perceive as failure. Not all women, even if they have had children, even when they try over long periods of time and take all the necessary precautions and suggestions, can indeed be fisted. I am one who has never had success with it and I have a couple of girlfriends who have had the same experience.

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/20/2006 3:04:33 PM

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I do not have sex that often but i wanted to be fisted. (i like keeping my pussy tight AND i wanted the challenge) so for my birthday I got fisted for the first time. don't know about spiritual but it was enjoyable grins...

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/20/2006 10:48:21 PM

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I think a few reasons.

One is the name, fist is associated with violence, its a turn off.

Second, I think many women just can't/don't want to think they can take that much

Third, I think is the possibility for injury which is very real. One of my friends was being fisted a tear developed and if the man doing it hadn't been watching as closely and paying attention should would have bled to death. As it was with him stopping when he saw just a hint of blood she came very close to dying. And she had taken a fist with no problems in the past and there had been nothing out of the ordinary prior to the session. Not trying to scare people, but the possibility of injury is there even when careful. In the end most are probably over worried since many of the things we do can result in injury.

Fourth, is possibly a bad experience. Many men even ones that call themselves Doms aren't patient enough and try to much to fast and made it hurt rather then feel good turning the woman off from the experience permanently.

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/21/2006 12:10:52 AM

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fisted the first girl ever in both holes this past week. Very interesting

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/21/2006 5:09:51 AM

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Gee, imagine that... Christians getting pissy about something not missionary... what are the odds?

Personally, I can think of better uses for a hand, but hey, if it floats your boat, blow the horn... *shrug* I think most of my problem with it is I get basically no physical enjoyment out of it, but who knows.

- Dustyn

Comments like that make you look ignorant ...

Nowhere in the Bible does it say that thou shalt only have sex in the missionary position. In fact, most Christians I know, enjoy a variety of positions ... Not that we run around asking each other but we do talk, from time to time.

Yes, we're told to save it for marriage and we're not allowed to have incest or sex with animals but then again, I don't know anyone who wants to do that anyway ... Christian or otherwise.

And most sodomy laws are Christian based, as are the current running streak of gay marriage bans. And in some of those sodomy laws, there are clauses to deal with oral sex, and sex in other positions than missionary. There is a reason that I say what I say. Next time, just ask why I said something, instead of just blasting away haphazardly.

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 5/22/2006 5:59:33 AM

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin
Once again I will point out that this is not always the case as you will see if you refer back to my post #49 in this thread. I point this out not to argue with you but as submissives we sometimes take on a great deal of guilt for what we perceive as failure. Not all women, even if they have had children, even when they try over long periods of time and take all the necessary precautions and suggestions, can indeed be fisted. I am one who has never had success with it and I have a couple of girlfriends who have had the same experience.

Thanks for bringing this point home so well. It's a very true thing, whether it's having a dom, a collar, a baby, an orgasm, subspace, of a sexual activity- there's a LOT of pressure to GO THERE, and if someone doesn't, they can often feel left out and like a failure.

Like anything- ultimately it should be about being yourself and connecting and building for your fulfillment in life. Not about constantly proving you're as cool as everyone.

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 6/6/2006 10:24:00 PM

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quote:

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ORIGINAL: Dustyn

Gee, imagine that... Christians getting pissy about something not missionary... what are the odds?

Personally, I can think of better uses for a hand, but hey, if it floats your boat, blow the horn... *shrug* I think most of my problem with it is I get basically no physical enjoyment out of it, but who knows.

- Dustyn

Comments like that make you look ignorant ...

Nowhere in the Bible does it say that thou shalt only have sex in the missionary position. In fact, most Christians I know, enjoy a variety of positions ... Not that we run around asking each other but we do talk, from time to time.

Yes, we're told to save it for marriage and we're not allowed to have incest or sex with animals but then again, I don't know anyone who wants to do that anyway ... Christian or otherwise.

And most sodomy laws are Christian based, as are the current running streak of gay marriage bans. And in some of those sodomy laws, there are clauses to deal with oral sex, and sex in other positions than missionary. There is a reason that I say what I say. Next time, just ask why I said something, instead of just blasting away haphazardly.

- Dustyn

My take on her reply is that it was in response to your generalized comment on Christians. Not all Christians get pissy about anything non-missionary, and not all who get pissy are Christian. Not all Christians subscribe to the "Christian-based laws" which were made up by humans. We each have our own perspective. Many feathers are ruffled by such generalized, stereotyping remarks.

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 6/6/2006 10:31:55 PM

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*blushes* I believe it can be the slight embarrassment that some girls can feel at not only getting to know their... privates but then having a man dive in so to speak... while I was not able to finish the task I have to say it is still completely appealing and delightfully naughty to me.

I know I was so deeply embarrassed when I wasn't able to finish because he feared I would tear that I cried. I am not sure I will ever be able to do it due to the stitches... the scar tissue can be quite tender even so many years later... but I have high hopes.

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 6/6/2006 10:41:39 PM

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Vaginal fisting reminds me of giving birth, and anything that can do that is good, in my book. The doctors were quite amused when i orgasmed birthing my children. My husband helped me have his children, and now he helps me revisit the rapture of those moments on occasion. The results are as magical for us as holding our newborn in our arms...Both (childbirth and fisting) took time, patience, and a whole lot of love; and the rewards have been immeasurable.

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 6/7/2006 9:32:33 PM

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My Mistress and I love fisting each other. I've self fisted and used devices for a long time so my ass is very open to her. It's an amazing feeling having her invade my body like that. Filling me up. Today she went in "balled up" and with little warning. It was incredibly intense and quite painful but I loved it. After a minute I relaxed into it and she moved into a brilliant rythm. For fun we tried her foot, that was interesting, (no, couldn't get the heel in) but I much prefer her hand. She's double handed me a couple of times but it's not something I can take every time. Today she got 1 whole hand, plus five fingers of the other hand. I couldn't take the thumb knuckle.
I've fisted her vaginally twice. It's an amazing feeling for both of us. She gets her bliss face on and I could stay in her like that for hours moving to her rythm. I love the connection. I feel more connected to her with my hand inside her than with my cock. I can feel everything with more detail and clarity through my hand.
I'm looking forward to her reading my post and repling with her impressions and experiences.
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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 6/7/2006 10:44:37 PM

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Hmmm... so my young man posted in a thread about fisting... what a surprise

heh it somewhat consumes us at the moment and to be honest I hope the enjoyment doesnt go away anytime soon! Bliss face is right! combined with an insane need to hold onto the headboard for dear life. Boy what an insane feeling. Words that come to mind are whole, connected, spiritual, full and intense.

Yes, I did go in balled up today (well lubed!) but only with previous experience of knowing what he can take and what he likes. The first time I tried fisting him was a fairly wary experience for me, there is a very real fear of hurting him plus the mindset of what that hole is usually used for! I must admit it hasnt taken long to get completely comfortable with it and truely enjoying both giving and recieving. We joke a little that it is like a giant warm arm hug... the muscles feel amazingly tight contracting and releasing. I do think it makes you very intune with where your partner is at. At least that is how it is for us!

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 6/7/2006 10:59:36 PM

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I have had one subbie that I fisted. It was a first for me with no prior experience, but its the circumstances that were interesting.

You all know how hard it can be to bring up our kinky tatstes with another when we meet in a vanilla situation. After dating this girl and moving in with her, I eventually suggested a bit of bedroom bondage... lol.. was I shocked when she replied... "ok.... but ya gotta fist me when ya have me tied down"!!!!!

Our D/s progressed rapidly after that :)

Even so, fisting isn't a big thing to me... but I enjoyed the submissive aspect with the bondage... and most of all.. that with one, it led to so much more.

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 6/8/2006 12:14:32 AM

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I think it's the name. Fisting just sounds so violent, when in fact it could not be further. It's almost a spiritual experience watching a woman orgasm that hard. You can really feel the energy (as hippie as that sounds) being sent back and forth.

I adore being fisted and fisting back, I totally agree on the spiritual side, when I fisted my then GF, just the idea that I was so deeply inside her, and my fingers were touching and stroking her insides, and making her feel so very very good, and the powerful sensations around my hand and fingers as she orgasmed again and again and again, and just the very sound of my name coming from her lips in moans and sighs and pants.

ohh good lord, I MISS that something shocking.;

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 6/8/2006 1:38:42 AM

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Question from one with no experience...when people are into fisting, is it about getting in as far as you can? Or is the point to get just the fist in, so you'd be in to kinda wrist depth?

When fisting vaginally, is it meant to go in so deep that the cervix is being pushed up?

I just gave myself cramps thinking of that

I only lost my virginity a little while back, and accomodating a 7 inch penis was a bit of an ordeal, so when I assume it's painful it's not in a judging way but just imagining the size of a whole arm is skeery at this point

Fisting is something I've fantasized about in my mind, but always imagined it from the outside, never thought of how it would feel inside until just now...that in itself is sorta strange now that I think about it

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 6/8/2006 4:28:15 AM

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Well for us it's not about how much she can take or how far in we get, but the feelings that we can create by just doing. It can take a few times before you even get close to that point so just enjoy getting there. Have them work you up to four fingers (WIth lots of lube) then I usually curl my fingers up while inside kind of like holding a golf club. That seems to make it easier for my thumb to slip inside. We've often found (and this is true of my my wife and our subs) that there comes a point where all of the sudden it just seems like your in. Once that happens hold on tight, the ride is about to get going. That's us anyways. Enjoy

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 6/8/2006 6:35:01 AM

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Question from one with no experience...when people are into fisting, is it about getting in as far as you can? Or is the point to get just the fist in, so you'd be in to kinda wrist depth?

When fisting vaginally, is it meant to go in so deep that the cervix is being pushed up?

I just gave myself cramps thinking of that I only lost my virginity a little while back, and accomodating a 7 inch penis was a bit of an ordeal, so when I assume it's painful it's not in a judging way but just imagining the size of a whole arm is skeery at this point

Fisting is something I've fantasized about in my mind, but always imagined it from the outside, never thought of how it would feel inside until just now...that in itself is sorta strange now that I think about it

It all comes down to personal preference, one of my GFs liked my hand inside her as far as it would go, and she did enjoy it if I banged agaisnt her cervix, that would be rare, the others just liked the feeling of hand to the wrist and the wriggling fingers. Whole arm fisting is something else entirely, and yes rather scary. I myself just prefer hand to wrist and the fingers moving around.

It is a little painful, I wont lie, until you stretch to accomodate the widest part of the hand, but IMHO the orgasms more than make up for it.

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 6/8/2006 7:38:23 AM

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I fisted my exgirfriend once, and it was very enjoyable for the both of us but when she orgasmed I ended up with a dislocated thumb. Which wasn't a big deal I popped it back into place. The experience was well worth the inconvinence of fixing a joint.

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 6/8/2006 8:22:00 AM

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It's beautiful, intimate, sensual and careful.. it's odd indeed how such a violent sounding process can often be the most erotic experience a person can have (IMHO)

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RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... - 6/8/2006 8:37:48 AM

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I agree that it's possibly the way it sounds violent and it always made me raise an eyebrow whenever it was mentioned.
Unfortunately when i did try it it was a disaster ending in my use of my safe word being ignored and severe internal bruising.
Have to admit i certainly wouldn't be one to recommend it but i'm sure plenty of others would. It def has a bad rap with me.

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