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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

YOU said it to me dear ....that is where my choice of words came from nowhere else.
Now what you dont see , understand or probably know, is that when I started this thirteen years ago, I had three prodommes from the toronto area take me under their wing and they gave me the BEST advice I have ever had about the bullshit that ONE TWUE way isms is BULLSHIT.
THey taught me the techniques I learned back then, they topped me, they even bottomed to me, they came to my munches, they supported me they were basically the "force" at getting seminars, play parties, a femdom munch in the local "community, they gave me more safety advice, more hints and techniques and amazing ideas, stories and examples of how to be a damn fine top. And hell yes they are allowed to enjoy and DICTATE what they will and wont tolerate taking part in. And YES they even want to enjoy themselves otherwise why would they do it.
Those ladies did more for me than I can ever express. To demean them and kick their kink and their clients kinks is ugly.


While the OP had a couple of scenes with him, she was feeling uncertain, she hadn't at that time taken any money and didnt like the way she felt when topping him. At that point, I still say she has every right to cancel something she doesn't like...if anyone tried to break my limits wether im being paid or not they still wouldn't get what they want.
there is no where to say that she did this to him is there??? If I'm wrong and she stopped a scene half way thru took his money and told him to hit the dirt, I would be right there saying she is wrong, it should have been brought up in pre- scene discussion, and if the scene/script is out of her "limits", it should be stopped , money refunded and crossed off the client list.
I don't give a rats ass about HER personality or her experience or her badness.I sure as hell don't think I am better than her or a hooker or a drug addict.
I get pissed when people call a submissive JUST a submissive or JUST a slave, so its a general peeve I have, which I admit I may have missed in the OPS post.
enjoy your evening

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Like any other sex workers, there are different classes. There are some who stand on the corner and take any john who comes along. There are also some who only take on clients that have been referred to them - high end if you will. They can demand more and afford to turn down the johns they feel just aren't going to work out. If you don't let greed get a hold of you, you can be the second kind.

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ORIGINAL: MstrssScarlet

I used to pro domme on a pretty regular basis before my health went bad. Every so often I get an email from a former client asking if I'm going to take it up again. One in particular was always a pain in the ass to me. He continually topped from the bottom and he may as well have handed me a script when he walked through the door. Now, I always took into account what my clients liked and tried my best to work those kinks into the session. HOWEVER, I always tried to maintain at least the illusion that I was the one in control. That's the trick to being a good pro domme after all, right? When this particular sub contacted me again I told him outright that I would never see him again because he was too controlling. His answer was that because he was paying for it, he should get what he wanted. I feel like he ruined his own sessions by always wanting to be in control and never allowing me to take the reins. What do you think?
Mistress Scarlet

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I'm done listening to you all talking down to us/them.

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ORIGINAL: MstrssScarlet


For the person who wanted to know why I decided to tell him now what the problem was instead of just telling him it was my health: BECAUSE I CARED ABOUT HIM. I thought if I told him what the problem was, he might realize what his mistake was and maybe, just maybe, not do it again. Shame on me!

Collarme allows pro dommes on here because there's a need for them. There's a ton of male subs out there who for one reason or another cannot enter into a long term realtionship with a lifestyle domme. That's where the pro domme comes in. He gets to play sub for an hour and go home and no one is the wiser. My subs were my friends and still are. I hear from them all the time. There was obviously something more than just a "business arrangement" because I don't call or email my mailman.

So keep on heaping it on the pro dommes on this site. I'm done listening to you all talking down to us/them. You're no better than they are. Outa here.

Mistress Scarlet

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BECAUSE I CARED ABOUT HIM.

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There was obviously something more than just a "business arrangement" because I don't call or email my mailman.

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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.if anyone tried to break my limits wether im being paid or not they still wouldn't get what they want.

Her limit was that he wanted to have a script. Our position is that it is fine for a paying customer to have a script. Everyone has said that of course she can reject him as a client, but that he should be able to script the session, within her limits.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

OP, you're not getting it.  For him, it wasn't a mistake.  It was what he wanted and what he was paying for.  Some pros allow for that and some don't.  This bit about 'oh, it could be so much better for you' is your opinion.  Other folks on this thread, said the guy was paying for his fantasy, so hopefully he gets as close to that as possible aren't necessarily wrong.  For a couple of bills an hour ($200.00) that's not terribly unreasonable.

As to the rest, while their decisions are different than Mine, I honestly don't have an issue with pros being on the site.  In My opinion, that's exactly why they have a "Professional Services" section here to allow for that. 

Now, here's the straight shit.  If you're a pro and you can't do what I do, you lose credibility in My eyes.  That's topping skills AND picking and choosing who you deal with.  If the bucks win out over "no, I'd rather not"....... well, that's kind of on you.  As just a lifestyle Domme, I *never* have to do that.

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ORIGINAL: MstrssScarlet

Ok. I'm not even going to finish reading all this BS before I make my final post and leave the rest of you to argue amongst yourself (which you do so LOVE to do).

I wasn't looking for any sympathy. I thought it might make an interesting post. PERIOD. I ASKED "What do you think?" As usual, you all got on your high horses and proceeded to look for ways of tearing me apart instead of sticking with the question. So typical of the people on collarme. That's why I rarely post anything. You're all in such a damn hurry to condemn, villify, and basicially tear each other apart every chance you get. Half of you couldn't even stay on topic.

I WAS supported by more than two people, but hey - who's counting. I'm certainly not.

For the person who wanted to know why I decided to tell him now what the problem was instead of just telling him it was my health: BECAUSE I CARED ABOUT HIM. I thought if I told him what the problem was, he might realize what his mistake was and maybe, just maybe, not do it again. Shame on me!

Collarme allows pro dommes on here because there's a need for them. There's a ton of male subs out there who for one reason or another cannot enter into a long term realtionship with a lifestyle domme. That's where the pro domme comes in. He gets to play sub for an hour and go home and no one is the wiser. My subs were my friends and still are. I hear from them all the time. There was obviously something more than just a "business arrangement" because I don't call or email my mailman.

So keep on heaping it on the pro dommes on this site. I'm done listening to you all talking down to us/them. You're no better than they are. Outa here.

Mistress Scarlet

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ORIGINAL: CuriousPuppy

so enlighten us, what about the complaint in your OP did you think others would find interesting?

As to your claim that there is a need for pro "doms" on the site because there are "a ton of male subs out there who for one reason or another cannot enter into a long term realtionship with a lifestyle domme"  why exactly should those pro "doms" get to crowd out the profiles of people looking for friendships & relationships with advertisements for their business ?  why should they get to plasce those advertisements for free?  Why should those advertisements not be filterable in/out with a simple checkbox instead of hiding in the profiles of people looking fir something other than a paycheck? A simple "show pro's yes/no" check/radio box would make the site ore useful for those looking for both types of people... of course, I could understand if you object on the grounds that hiding advertisements as the profile of someone looking for a relationship of some kind of a hook until you can set the hook and reel in the "pro dom" hook into a paycheck should be allowed because pro "doms"are so much better than anyone else into the lifestyle that they deserve special treatment over all the paying advertisements on CM

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ORIGINAL: CuriousPuppy
so enlighten us, what about the complaint in your OP did you think others would find interesting?

As to your claim that there is a need for pro "doms" on the site because there are "a ton of male subs out there who for one reason or another cannot enter into a long term realtionship with a lifestyle domme"  why exactly should those pro "doms" get to crowd out the profiles of people looking for friendships & relationships with advertisements for their business ?  why should they get to plasce those advertisements for free?  Why should those advertisements not be filterable in/out with a simple checkbox instead of hiding in the profiles of people looking fir something other than a paycheck? A simple "show pro's yes/no" check/radio box would make the site ore useful for those looking for both types of people... of course, I could understand if you object on the grounds that hiding advertisements as the profile of someone looking for a relationship of some kind of a hook until you can set the hook and reel in the "pro dom" hook into a paycheck should be allowed because pro "doms"are so much better than anyone else into the lifestyle that they deserve special treatment over all the paying advertisements on CM

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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic
because there are many people pissed at me for the wrong reason.a sign that it is my issue . Ill be back when I figured it out
evening

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

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ORIGINAL: CuriousPuppy

so enlighten us, what about the complaint in your OP did you think others would find interesting?

As to your claim that there is a need for pro "doms" on the site because there are "a ton of male subs out there who for one reason or another cannot enter into a long term realtionship with a lifestyle domme"  why exactly should those pro "doms" get to crowd out the profiles of people looking for friendships & relationships with advertisements for their business ?  why should they get to plasce those advertisements for free?  Why should those advertisements not be filterable in/out with a simple checkbox instead of hiding in the profiles of people looking fir something other than a paycheck? A simple "show pro's yes/no" check/radio box would make the site ore useful for those looking for both types of people... of course, I could understand if you object on the grounds that hiding advertisements as the profile of someone looking for a relationship of some kind of a hook until you can set the hook and reel in the "pro dom" hook into a paycheck should be allowed because pro "doms"are so much better than anyone else into the lifestyle that they deserve special treatment over all the paying advertisements on CM

These questions would be better asked of those who run the site, no?

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ORIGINAL: CuriousPuppy
Personally, I feel that a pro is welcome to havea personal profile for personal reasons, bt using it merely as a way to direct people not looking for pros towards their pro advertisement should result in a swift deletion or ban for the health of the site.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: CuriousPuppy
so enlighten us, what about the complaint in your OP did you think others would find interesting?

As to your claim that there is a need for pro "doms" on the site because there are "a ton of male subs out there who for one reason or another cannot enter into a long term realtionship with a lifestyle domme"  why exactly should those pro "doms" get to crowd out the profiles of people looking for friendships & relationships with advertisements for their business ?  why should they get to plasce those advertisements for free?  Why should those advertisements not be filterable in/out with a simple checkbox instead of hiding in the profiles of people looking fir something other than a paycheck? A simple "show pro's yes/no" check/radio box would make the site ore useful for those looking for both types of people... of course, I could understand if you object on the grounds that hiding advertisements as the profile of someone looking for a relationship of some kind of a hook until you can set the hook and reel in the "pro dom" hook into a paycheck should be allowed because pro "doms"are so much better than anyone else into the lifestyle that they deserve special treatment over all the paying advertisements on CM

Get Me a shovel.

How are people looking for relationships being 'crowded out'?  Are you not here just the same?  It goes both ways.  I mean, you're looking for a relationship and I get that, but those of us here who are here just for entertainment or networking or any other thing aren't more or less important than you.

Every person has just as much right to be here as anybody else.  Your purpose here is not better or worse than anyone else.