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How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 6:11:07 AM   
DeniseL308


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1. DO NOT take any money at all for anything you do. Deep personal fantasies should not have to be paid to come true. If you DO charge, you are now in a sexually oriented business, and you now have just become a whore that does not fuck. Nothing is more useless than a whore that does not fuck. You can be replaced by a crackwhore with a whip and $40. Think about it.







2. DO NOT HATE MEN. We weren't born yesterday. Anyone with a pulse can see a hate spewn profile a mile away. One day you will meet the wrong guy and he will turn on you like a pet tiger. All that pent up rage will come pouring out on little ole YOU, and you will either be very damaged or killed. Good luck trying to prosecute. All of your hatred writings will be brought out in court and the men and women in the jury and the judge/media/bystanders will ALL see the evil hatred inside you. Do you really want your hateful and nasty profile displayed and read into the public record? It could happen. HATE does not belong here. Leave it behind when you log on.







3. THIS IS ABOUT SEX. SEX seeps out of every nook and cranny of this site and the BDSM world in general. You can bullshit yourself into thinking it is not, but don't believe your own bullshit. What message are you giving when you tell your submissives they cannot have sex with you, and your profile and photos display your ass/tits/ and hoohah(I like that word) all over the place. What message are you sending? You are saying " I am a cock teaser, and have been since junior high". You are not a Domme, you are a cockteaser. If your submissives are UNFULLFILLED, they will go somewhere else. Human nature. If you are going to show them your beautiful breasts, then give them a nibble. No harm done. Let them kiss and lick that sweet ass. Let them place a gentle hand on your soft hoohah (that word again). You have technically not had sex, but you have given them a bone. We all know you are NOT a slut (damnit), but you can still hold your head high by giving them someting to enjoy. You need to understand your mouth/tits/ass/and hoohah are NOT unique to you. EVERY WOMAN HAS THEM. They are all just shaped differently, and some are thinner than yours. Think about it.







4. KEEP THE $40 CRACKWHORE IN MIND. You have to keep in mind " What am I doing better than a $40 crackwhore?" It is no suprise to any of you that men tend to think with their dicks in sexual matters. This IS sexual. Thanks to SATAN being alive and well on planet Earth, crackwhores abound everywhere and in every town. For a pack of cigarettes they can get a blowjob, and for $40 they can have regular sex, anal sex(my personal favorite) or anything else on the menu. It is YOUR job as a responsible Domme to keep your submissives away from them. What do you offer them in exchange? Only you can answer that question. Just know your sweet subbies might get involved with something that might ruin their lives. All because they were unfullfilled. In real life, some of those crackwhores look pretty nice and attractive. If your sweet subbie sissy boy wants to feel like a man one evening, and has two $20 bills in his pocket, he may just partake of them. Are you going to be the responsible Domme to your collared sub and keep him away, or are you going to be an ice queen that he can never touch. YOUR CALL! Think about it.







5. FOR GOD'S SAKE KNOW HOW TO DRESS! In Europe and most of the rest of the world, a true dominant woman dresses classy, because she knows she is dominant and does not have to prove a thing ot anyone, including herself. It is the sex industry that gave us the slutty leather look. You are NOT a slut (damnit), but a very secure lady. Dress that way. This is NOT some cheap porno movie with a bunch of bored 20 something actresses following a script flailing away at a middle-aged guy with a cheap $5 flogger. That is the sex industry's version of BDSM. Be better than that. You can be sexual and sensual without having sex and "showing the goods". COVER UP! If a subbie one day loses control and you get raped, you have NO DEFENSE. Your profile shows your ass/hoohah/tits hanging out all over the web. Not too many prosecutors are going to take this one on, and his defense will rip you apart. Remember, even things you delete are able to be brought back by law enforcement, and subsequently be made available to the defense.







OK, I am sure this advice may fall on deaf ears, but it is true, and what I have learned through many years of experience with my Domme friends, male and female submissives, and as a dominant male myself. If you want to be successful, happy and have many years of blissful experiences pleae let me summarize;







1. Don't charge a penny for bringing deep personal fantasies to fruition. It is a gift you bestow. You will be loved for it.



2. Leave HATE out of this. It has no place here. Men are NOT losers, worms, and pond scum, and we do not like being called that.



3. This IS sexual. Loins will be stirred, passions will be fired. Handle it appropriately and in your own way. Do it or don't do it. Your call.



4. Know your competition is the $40 crackwhore just down the street. Be better than her. Remember she will do ANYTING for that rock. $40 will get her TWO of them. She also has a mouth, tits, an ass, and a hoohah, and they are probably a bit thinner than yours. Win by the alure and by showing class. They will be putty in your hands.



5. Know how to dress like the classy dominate self-assured woman you are. That form hugging evening dress will beat the sex industry leather "all hanging out" garb any day of the week. Remember it is all about the chase and the alure. That is what us men love to persue. A 1965 Playboy beats a new Hustler everytime

DeniseL308 (David L of Broken Bow, NE)





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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 6:13:31 AM   
kalikshama


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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 6:20:31 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Dude.  To say that a pro Domme, with a full dungeon and the years it's taken her to learn her trade, could be replaced by a crack whore with a whip...

Next time you take an airplane, mention to the pilot that a teenage kid could take his job.  See if you get a better response.

Seriously, you're trying to snag a lifestyle Domme.  Your chances of doing it by spewing hate against the pros won't help you any more than telling a vanilla that you hope she doesn't fucking charge because that would make her a whore.


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RE: How To Be A Good s-type 101 - 10/27/2011 6:22:49 AM   
ChatteParfaitt


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Status: offline 		How to be a good s-type?

1) Don't whine about all the fin and pro dommes. We know there are scammers on here, just ignore them.

2) Male OR female dommes are not fetish delivery devices spawned for your specific sexual fantasies. They are people first, dominant men or women second.

3) Your obsession over your personal sexual fantasies is not attractive. See #2 above.

4) Do not "socialize" with $40 crack whores. Didn't your mother ever tell you about the diseases you can get?

5) Do not expect your dominant to dress like the ones in your sex fantasies. Again, see #2 above.


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RE: How To Be A Good s-type 101 - 10/27/2011 6:24:12 AM   
xxblushesxx


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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 6:29:05 AM   
kalikshama


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Status: offline 		Like I say again and again and again - delete the negative stuff from your profile and journals. The scammers won't read it and you will turn off your target audience.

Do you REALLY think any lifestyle Domme is going to be well disposed towards you after reading your rant?

Delete this profile, read the FAQs in Ask a Mistress, lose the entitled attitude, and start over.

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 6:31:14 AM   
myotherself


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Status: offline 		Is this yet another pro-Domme/fin-Domme/fakes whine?

Yup...thought so!

Next

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RE: How To Be A Good s-type 101 - 10/27/2011 6:31:24 AM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		OP.. way to take yourself off the market without getting a femdom!! *applauds*

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 6:34:45 AM   
kalikshama


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quote:

If a subbie one day loses control and you get raped, you have NO DEFENSE. Your profile shows your ass/hoohah/tits hanging out all over the web. Not too many prosecutors are going to take this one on, and his defense will rip you apart. Remember, even things you delete are able to be brought back by law enforcement, and subsequently be made available to the defense.


And this to the prosecution.

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 6:37:00 AM   
searching4mysir


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Status: offline 		If I were a Domme I would skip right past your self-aggrandizing ass. One can be submissive and have self-esteem without being a negative Nancy.

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RE: How To Get Your Humiliation Fetish Fulfilled.... - 10/27/2011 6:46:49 AM   
xxblushesxx


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Status: offline 		Ok. I figured it out.

The guy has a humiliation kink and knew just how to get it.

Dude, call my fem-dom phonesex line. It's only $1.99 per minute and I guarantee you all the humiliation you can handle. ('course you'll get that here for free, but you won't be able to hear all the dominant ladies laughing at you...)

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 6:48:28 AM   
MissKittyDeVine


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Status: offline 		So it´s ok to have sexual contact with a sub for free - in fact you consider it obligatory for a domme - yet not ok to charge for NOT having sexual contact? Oh yeah, that´s false advertising ... right.

Definitely a ´light blue touchpaper and retire´ thread.

HiLARious ... thanks for the giggle. But do please spare us - lifestyle and proDommes alike - parts 6-101, we´d all die laughing. And if Blushes is right, then there´d be no-one left to give you free humiliation.

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RE: How To Get Your Humiliation Fetish Fulfilled.... - 10/27/2011 7:06:13 AM   
Delilya


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Status: offline 		Loving all the photos of your weapons. And the part of your profile stating what you will/have done with them is fantastic. Speaking of spewing hate. Pot meet kettle.

Since you are so drawn to $40 crack whores perhaps that is what you should seek. Domme's aren't coming any where near your ass. Or is that really the problem?



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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 7:08:45 AM   
MistressLilliana


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Status: offline 		First off you don't have to go to a Pro and yes there are plenty on here and if you don't want them then fine but some do...there's nothing wrong with being Pro for those who are willing to pay. Second, what's all this about hate??? sounds like you've had to deal with some pretty pissed off people and you're not liking it...based on what you've written here I can't say it's not your fault. Besides, aren't you just no Hating the haters?? Third, this is not always about sex. There are subs/slaves who do nothing sexual because that's not what they are being used for (domestic duties and such) AND no ones going to suck on my tits unless I say so. Some subs/slaves like to be teased...if you don't then that is you. You don't have to talk to people you think are teases...stop assuming everyone is just like you. Fourth, I don't know many people who would be desperate enough to go to the local crack whore to get "fulfilled"...if a sub/slave is unhappy then they need to make that known but chances are they know what they are getting into before the relationship starts AND they don't have to stay if things are "that bad"...if you're feeling deprived then deal with it, don't take it out on us...maybe theres a reason you're not getting any. Fifth, If you don't like the way a Domme dresses then obviously...wait this is a BIG one...don't talk to her and just pass her by..there are plenty of others out there...I'm Goth and dress as such and I won't change for you...We dress how we want and you have no say...don't like it too bad.

You're "Good Domme" isn't what EVERY sub/slave wants... Good luck finding what you're looking for...especially now that you've posted this.

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 7:44:31 AM   
LillyBoPeep


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Status: offline 		a person who says "you brought it on yourself and deserve no defense" with regards to assault and rape isn't going to get very far.
good luck, OP

p.s. i couldn't possibly compare someone i cared for and submitted to to a $40 crackwhore. that "fetish delivery system" thing, that's your problem, OP. if you see a female Dominant as in competition with a crackwhore, someone who is your partner and leader, who you trust and have affection for, that's pretty telling about how you view relationships, and it's no wonder you're having issues.




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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 7:46:57 AM   
Delilya


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Status: offline 		OP. that was a very nice email I received from you and a much better way to approach women. Try to put your frustration on hold and continue in that manner. It will serve you much better than the current one.

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 8:12:55 AM   
MissKittyDeVine


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Status: offline 		PS You need to find something more productive to do with your time. You have only been a member (on this profile, anyway) for two days but have managed to trawl through several profiles and make journal posts denouncing them as moneygrubbing. I´m sure most people here don´t need your words of wisdom and can look out for themselves.

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 8:15:28 AM   
Matildax21x


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Status: offline 		I can't add any more eloquence that what has already been said, but I want to point out, what the hell is wrong with whores and sluts? What's wrong with a woman who uses her body as a business? BDSM aside, aren't we suppose to be sexually liberated people here? Who cares about sluts? Slut and whore aren't bad words. This sexist hatred is very hypocritical OP.

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 8:19:51 AM   
NocturnalStalker


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Matildax21x

I can't add any more eloquence that what has already been said, but I want to point out, what the hell is wrong with whores and sluts? What's wrong with a woman who uses her body as a business? BDSM aside, aren't we suppose to be sexually liberated people here? Who cares about sluts? Slut and whore aren't bad words. This sexist hatred is very hypocritical OP.


There's nothing wrong with them as people.  There is a lot wrong with their way of thinking when you consider many of them were abused at a young age. 

I don't know, I usually see women as having more to offer to the world than being a sexbot.


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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 8:23:17 AM   
Delilya


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ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker

I don't know, I usually see women as having more to offer to the world than being a sexbot.



And that is what makes you special. Well that and the hair.

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