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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 2:48:52 PM

LaTigresse

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I dunno..........you gotta be eeeeeeeeeeeebbbbbbbbbiiiiiiiiiiiiiiilllllllllllll like Moi!

(of course that might get you some really love gold engraved mail......)

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 2:49:17 PM

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Your secret masochistic side?

Plus, he couldn't take it down if he wanted. Every person who might ever be interested in him can read these posts. This makes me strangely happy.

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 2:49:46 PM

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So, you gonna fuck him, sweetie?

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 2:50:02 PM

LaTigresse

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quote:

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Your secret masochistic side?

Plus, he couldn't take it down if he wanted. Every person who might ever be interested in him can read these posts. This makes me strangely happy.

And THAT is YOUR, not so secret, sadistic side!!!

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Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 2:52:53 PM

xxblushesxx

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It's really not that secret.

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 2:54:04 PM

Hisprettybaby

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

Your secret masochistic side?

Plus, he couldn't take it down if he wanted. Every person who might ever be interested in him can read these posts. This makes me strangely happy.

And THAT is YOUR, not so secret, sadistic side!!!

Yeah, he sure shot himself in the foot with that one!

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 3:05:58 PM

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I am the OP. My inbox was swamped with positive messages from those that DO see something wrong with extorting money from others, and using blackmail, tribute, ect, ect to take money from lonely men. I did a count. For every one of you that support the existing on-line thievery and extortion, there are three that see it as wrong.

Here is another free lesson for all you posters that see nothing wrong with stealing. It is obvious you all think it is just fine to take from others.

It is wrong to extort money. It is wrong to blackmail. It is wrong to demand tribute. It is wrong to be a financial dominant.

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 3:10:57 PM

mnottertail

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It is wrong to extort money.
It is wrong to blackmail.
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miracle of the excluded middle occurs here...
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It is wrong to demand tribute.
It is wrong to be a financial dominant.

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 3:12:27 PM

searching4mysir

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DeniseL308

I am the OP. My inbox was swamped with positive messages from those that DO see something wrong with extorting money from others, and using blackmail, tribute, ect, ect to take money from lonely men. I did a count. For every one of you that support the existing on-line thievery and extortion, there are three that see it as wrong.

Here is another free lesson for all you posters that see nothing wrong with stealing. It is obvious you all think it is just fine to take from others.

It is wrong to extort money. It is wrong to blackmail. It is wrong to demand tribute. It is wrong to be a financial dominant.

Is it stealing if you freely open your wallet to them and hand them your credit card? Is it really extortion when you can delete their messages and block their profiles? Whenever you send a message, CM tells you in big letters not to give people money (that it is usually a scam). We are all supposed to be adults here. How about a little personal responsibility?

While I'm not a fan of the attitudes of some (not all) of the findommes here, and not a fan of their attitudes (that men are worthless scum), for SOME people, that is their kink. It isn't yours. Fine. Walk away. (BTW: I came across a findom (male) yesterday so this isn't exclusively female).

What people are aggravated by here is more your attitude than the content of the post. You come across as a negative, whiny, little man who wants the 19 yr old chick to fuck but doesn't want to pay for it. This is a free site. You get what you pay for.

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 3:13:18 PM

LadyHibiscus

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Well why dont you start a lonely hearts club for all those men?

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 3:15:26 PM

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Denise... there are people with kinks that include these things. I do not charge for anything I would do, but I often get email from men that want to pay me. If I find it insulting, I block and I might tell them I think they are rude.

If men weren't paying, the women wouldn't be getting paid. Many would not be here. So start with your brothers that are paying.

What many found interesting to put it mildly... was how you said things, what you said and based on a number of things... didn't show a pro or con to the things you said about money domme's or scammers. Your conduct is actually against TOS and many find you... questionable to start with.

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 3:17:28 PM

xxblushesxx

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DeniseL308

I am the OP. My inbox was swamped with positive messages from those that DO see something wrong with extorting money from others, and using blackmail, tribute, ect, ect to take money from lonely men. I did a count. For every one of you that support the existing on-line thievery and extortion, there are three that see it as wrong.

Here is another free lesson for all you posters that see nothing wrong with stealing. It is obvious you all think it is just fine to take from others.

It is wrong to extort money. It is wrong to blackmail. It is wrong to demand tribute. It is wrong to be a financial dominant.

Kevvie has lots of different accounts and I'm sure they all agree with you.

You need to learn that your way is not the only way. Do you believe that financial domination happens in a vaccuum? That those of us who practice it go out and find easy marks who have no idea what's happening and make them spoil us?
Think again, Denise.

Just because it's not YOUR fetish/turn on/ good time doesn't mean someone else doesn't live for it.
Or are you just butt hurt because the financial domme you got caught up with didn't love you as much as she loved your money? I guarantee every single fin dom I know makes it quite clear (excrutiatingly clear) that it's not about you, it's about your cash.

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 3:19:59 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DeniseL308

I am the OP. My inbox was swamped with positive messages from those that DO see something wrong with extorting money from others, and using blackmail, tribute, ect, ect to take money from lonely men. I did a count. For every one of you that support the existing on-line thievery and extortion, there are three that see it as wrong.

Here is another free lesson for all you posters that see nothing wrong with stealing. It is obvious you all think it is just fine to take from others.

It is wrong to extort money. It is wrong to blackmail. It is wrong to demand tribute. It is wrong to be a financial dominant.

Has history ever recorded a time when the majority was right?

Besides, as long as it's consensual, there is nothing morally wrong with tributes/financial domination. Right now you're putting fin domination and tributes next to blackmail and extortion, and saying they're the same thing. But that just means you don't know what the hell these words actually mean.

So it boils down to that you just happen to not like the concept of financial domination and tributes. So because you don't like them, they are wrong.

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 3:32:28 PM

Hisprettybaby

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ORIGINAL: DeniseL308
It is wrong to extort money. It is wrong to blackmail. It is wrong to demand tribute. It is wrong to be a financial dominant.

Hold your horses here, bucko. What you don't seem to "get" is that some guys get off on that sort of thing. If there wasn't a need, there wouldn't be those waiting to fill it. Supply & demand, it's that simple. Okay, so most don't like that kink and you're one who doesn't. Just pass those Dommes by. Me? I would never ask for money from a sub of mine. As a switch, I do Domme and I am neither a Pro Domme, a financial Domme, nor do I ask for tribute. That's just not my style. The very first thing you said was:

quote:

ORIGINAL: DeniseL308
1. DO NOT take any money at all for anything you do. Deep personal fantasies should not have to be paid to come true. If you DO charge, you are now in a sexually oriented business, and you now have just become a whore that does not fuck. Nothing is more useless than a whore that does not fuck. You can be replaced by a crackwhore with a whip and $40. Think about it.]

So you're saying you want to go to a Domme and have all your deep personal fanatasies come true. Okay, so we'd ALL like our fantasies to come true, or at least THINK we do. Sometimes, when it happens, we discover it wasn't all we thought it would be. What about HER deep personal fantasies? Is this all about your fantasies & sexual tickles and nothing else? If so, you're just another DO-ME sub.

When I read your OP at the first of the thread, it more or less ranted on and on about how it's all about sex and how Dommes should cater to their subs so they don't stray. WTF? If ALL you want is fantasy fulfillment and nothing else, you're expecting a service, so why shouldn't you pay for it? You might say that Dommes expect a service. Well, my answer to that is, yes, as a Domme I do expect service, BUT I ALSO do my best to make sure BOTH his AND my wants and needs are met. It's not one-way. Your OP sounded like it was all about your fantasy fulfillment, dick-centric and nothing else.

Like someone else said, there are those out there that are into that financial kink thing. If you're upset about it, talk to them. They're the ones out there who are willing to pay and, if they weren't willing to pay, there would be no point in being a Pro Domme, financial Domme, or for asking for tribute. Cut off the demand and there won't be the supply. Somehow, though, I don't think that's going to happen.

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 3:40:20 PM

searching4mysir

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You seem to be forgetting something here, Denise. Until you accept her as YOUR domme, she can demand anything she likes and you can walk away without a backwards glance.

If a guy demands a tribute from me, I laugh and block.

HPB made a very valid point: You are completely dick-centric and just another do-me sub. Guys like you, for a domme (any domme) are a dime a dozen. Dommes get so many emails in a week from do-me subs that there is nothing special about you. You aren't an anomoly. You are not unique. And you haven't shown any dommes that you have anything special to offer except threats of violence. Bravo! You have alienated any woman with half a brain.

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 3:42:03 PM

Hisprettybaby

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ORIGINAL: searching4mysir
Guys like you, for a domme (any domme) are a dime a dozen. Dommes get so many emails in a week from do-me subs that there is nothing special about you. You aren't an anomoly. You are not unique. And you haven't shown any dommes that you have anything special to offer except threats of violence. Bravo! You have alienated any woman with half a brain.

This!^^^^^^

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 3:45:58 PM

DeniseL308

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Ahhh, the lady (HannahLynn) has a Barretta Model 92F. Good choice. The 124 grain ball ammo works real good in that bad boy. So does the Hornady 115 grain jacketed hollow points. Just keep it under 50 meters and you should do well. I found the Browning did better at longer ranges when I was in Yemen, but it is a very first class piece.

BTW, keep the axe. remember, women that behave never make history. you are not freaking me out at all. Contrary to another later poster
(thumbs up)

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 4:12:42 PM

MstrPBK

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Lesson #204,034. ....

Listen to your sub and be mindful that there ARE times when you need to respond to THEIR needs.

MstrPBK
St. Paul, MN USA

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 4:14:38 PM

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Actually, you're being "attacked" because you are spouting the same male-chauvinist, dick-centric thinking as at least a dozen others (and that's only going back a month or so). And for the record, your first posting does make threats:

"2. DO NOT HATE MEN. We weren't born yesterday. Anyone with a pulse can see a hate spewn profile a mile away. One day you will meet the wrong guy and he will turn on you like a pet tiger. All that pent up rage will come pouring out on little ole YOU, and you will either be very damaged or killed. Good luck trying to prosecute. All of your hatred writings will be brought out in court and the men and women in the jury and the judge/media/bystanders will ALL see the evil hatred inside you. Do you really want your hateful and nasty profile displayed and read into the public record? It could happen. HATE does not belong here. Leave it behind when you log on. "
(on that note, how about you leave YOUR hate behind when you log on?)

"5. FOR GOD'S SAKE KNOW HOW TO DRESS! In Europe and most of the rest of the world, a true dominant woman dresses classy, because she knows she is dominant and does not have to prove a thing ot anyone, including herself. It is the sex industry that gave us the slutty leather look. You are NOT a slut (damnit), but a very secure lady. Dress that way. This is NOT some cheap porno movie with a bunch of bored 20 something actresses following a script flailing away at a middle-aged guy with a cheap $5 flogger. That is the sex industry's version of BDSM. Be better than that. You can be sexual and sensual without having sex and "showing the goods". COVER UP! If a subbie one day loses control and you get raped, you have NO DEFENSE. Your profile shows your ass/hoohah/tits hanging out all over the web. Not too many prosecutors are going to take this one on, and his defense will rip you apart. Remember, even things you delete are able to be brought back by law enforcement, and subsequently be made available to the defense. "

The bolded areas ARE threats, whether you see it as such or not.

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RE: How To Be A Good Domme 101 - 10/27/2011 4:22:05 PM

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HOW TO GET A GOOD DOMME 101

1. DO NOT mention how you "won't pay". It's cheap and disrespectful. It's the kind of thing a self-righteous chauvinist tells a pro-Domme. In saying it you're calling the Mistress you're trying to talk to a whore. Pro Dommes have no trouble identifying themselves and will quickly launch into their sales pitch. Your "I won't pay!" only insults your potential lifestyle Mistress. Also, women still appreciate generosity in men. If you can't figure out how to be generous without pulling out your wallet, you deserve to be left to the pro Dommes.

2. DO NOT HATE. Period. We women are even more turned off by your ranting hating spheels than you men are over ours. Suck it up subbie. It's inherent in your orientation to accept and tolerate, show us a preview of that instead. Here's a secret. Those Dom/mes who actively hate on the pros? They're usually dealing with inadequacy issues. They're usually the ones wondering why they can't get any giving it away for free when the Pro down the street is doing a booming business. I've never met a GOOD Dom/me confident in themselves and their place in life that begrudged a Pro their business.

3. THIS IS NOT ABOUT SEX. This is D/s: Dominance/submission. This is BDSM: Bondage Domination Sado-Masochism. This is about the mind and your entire body, being, soul, your lifestyle, your identity. It is not about sex. Although sex is a good medium of expression. A woman who fucks you the way you want her to when you want her to is not Dominant, she's submitting every time she fucks you when YOU WANT her to. The Domme is Dominant by enforcing HER Will on you. NB: A cockteaser IS Dominant. Cockteasing is the FIRST LESSON in being a Domme. If you you can't tease a cock, you've got nothing TO Dominate.

4. KEEP THE $40 CRACKWHORE IN MIND. Work at not being the kind of poor bastard who has to resort to buying a whip and putting it in the clumsy hands of that disinterested strungout crackwhore to get your jollies because no-one else, not even the proper pro-Dommes would give you the time of day. Male subs are a penny a dozen. Less. In fact, if I had a penny for every dozen subs who ask for my attention, I'd be able to work one less day a week. EYI, GOOD Dommes march their subbies to regular medical exams. Evil Dommes will sell you to the crackwhore down the street for a day and make you pay the crackwhore for the privilege.

5. FOR GOD'S SAKE KEEP YOUR TRAP SHUT. Men admittedly have less of an ability to see when their feet are about to land in their mouths. Keeping your mouths shut is a good way of preventing this occurance, even if your foot is well on its way to swinging there. If you have trouble with self-control, wear a gag. NB: The Dominant woman will dress how she pleases, when she pleases, because she has nothing to prove, least of all to you.

These tips on their own won't net you your perfect Domme, but they'll help you get the Dommes to WANT to know if you'd be right for them instead of instantly tuning out and shutting you down.

On a side note, these are awesome tips to keep in mind when going Pro:

quote:

1. Don't charge for bringing YOUR deep personal fantasies to fruition. It is a gift you bestow. You will be loved for it. ("You're paying for the beating, sweet sissyboi... My pleasure is FREE")

2. Leave HATE out of this. It has no place here. Men are NOT losers, worms, and pond scum, eventhough they like being called that. (They are clients after all, you want them to come back!)

3. This IS sexual. Loins will be stirred, passions will be fired. Handle it appropriately and in your own way. Do it or don't do it. Your call. (The client's always right!)

4. Know your competition is the $40 crackwhore just down the street. Be better than her. Remember she will do ANYTING for that rock. $40 will get her TWO of them. She also has a mouth, tits, an ass, and a hoohah, and they are probably a bit thinner than yours. Win by the alure and by showing class. They will be putty in your hands. (Remind them why they are paying you 5 times the money than that crackwhore's client pays her)

5. Know how to dress like the classy dominate self-assured woman you are. That form hugging evening dress will beat the sex industry leather "all hanging out" garb any day of the week. Remember it is all about the chase and the alure. That is what us men love to persue. A 1965 Playboy beats a new Hustler everytime. (Never embarrass the client in public without payment in advance.)

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