slaverachel2Him
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Well, really, enslavement is something that we feel we need and are. WHY did you "sign up" for this- because he was interested and you are afraid to lose him? It IS difficult for anyone as we have socialization to overcome and reactions based on that socialization. However, those of us who identify oriented as slaves or subs get a high with submission that is difficult to explain. A deep satisfaction, sexual arousal for many if not most. If you did it because you felt pressured, then this probably isn't for you. Enslavement is like an extended form of bondage. If you hate bondage, enslavement may be far more difficult for you than for someone who love long term bondage like me.
To start with-being a submissive is not the same as being a slave. A submissive doesn't give up rights or do a TPE-total power exchange. The do a PE-power exchange that is not total and can be limited to time frame or type. They can have more limits. A slave-agrees to give up all rights normally associated with inalienable rights, (except life, limb,health, no arrest) and the INTENT though rarely actually achieved is TPE. Check out the Internal Enslavement website for more detailed information. The slave accepts the loss of all rights, but often those rights are experienced as revocable privileges. The Owner may prefer NOT to remove all rights, but allows the slave much autonomy, but revocable at anytime, often as a punishment.
Limits- most start with limits of some kind. If you want a PM i can tell you the history of limits and why they got started etc. Most Masters are savvy enough to know that the enslavement process works both ways (like it or not) and though they are in command, if they fail to make it worthwhile for the slave in which ever way they are, the slave will eventually walk out. Abuse is non-consensual. There is also CNC. consensual non-consent, when you agree in advance to an array of things. Most masters again know not to push too fast or hard as they must be smart enough to sense where the slave is at and be able to know when things need to slow down or the slave needs time or a positive experience. In return, the slave must do their best to improve upon their submission. IT IS A PROCESS NOT AN EVENT.
Masters/Mistresses/Dom/mes have different ways of achieving obedience and training their slaves/subs. Some Begin with micromanagement, intensive training with a loosening over time as the slave becomes attuned to what is expected. It is like boot camp. The other more common way is by slow increments. Both the master and the slave working together for the common goal of TPE allowing the mind of the slave to wrap around each level of restriction, adjust and then add another. This seems to be over all the most likely method to keep a long term relationship going.
Masochism is not a learned thing. There is masochism and masochistic behavior. i am a masochist, i get aroused, VERY aroused with pain. i am a single tail poster child, hot wax, pinwheels, clamps, irritants, even tattoos in a delayed way. Masochistic behavior is when a person accepts pain for punishment or to please a sadist. It does not arouse, not even a delayed arousal. It CAN satisfy a need to submit- not the same as masochism, but can be just as good. There is also subspace. That is when the endorphins cut loose in the slave, whether or not they are a masochist and is a wonderful experience and usually makes the experience of pain worth going through, even if not a masochist. i am fortunate to get both experiences.
If you find you can't do it, then you can't. There is no shame in not being a slave. Actually most BDSM people seem to find slavehood less than desirable, though tolerated more and gaining some respect. Many M/s relationships do not involve S&M either. You don't know until you try, but very few people are slaves and many would never do it in any case. You have to be true to who you are and if you are a slave, you will eventually find you liberation in it as i did. If you are not Born This Way, then you will discover that too and move on. Either way, it is not your fault. You are a slave or you aren't. You can't fake it.
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Master Richard's slave rachel
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