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RE: Slave, Help me - 11/27/2011 5:51:17 PM

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Mostly just pillow fights in our underwear, or tickling each other at sleepovers.

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RE: Slave, Help me - 11/28/2011 3:48:11 AM

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I know from experince if something does not feel right, it is not right!
I know you should listen to your own mind and heart, it is pointness to
go on with something you have so many doubts about! Began talking with
your master! I think you should have some limits!!!?? Do not do every
thing under the sun!!!
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RE: Slave, Help me - 11/29/2011 7:55:55 PM

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WOW read quite a few posts to understand what is happening in this thread. All i have to say is never submit or surrender yourself to something or someone you do not feel completely comfortable submitting to. I submit myself to my Master because i trust Him and want to go further and further with Him. i want to take as much as i can take. i know if i scream popcorn He will stop give me a break or move on to something else. There has to be trust without trust there can be no submission. To be a Dom you have to look out for the health and well being of your submissive mentally and physically.

It is a relationship it is fine for both to say they want this and want that and both must listen not just the submissive. It is a poor Dom who does not listen to the cries and reactions of his submissive. Even if I do not cry popcorn and I really don't that often Master will on occasion stop and ask if i am still there ie... too far in sub space or if i am OK as it should be with a Sadist and His masochist.

Nothing should be just taken from a sub it should be asked are you OK with trying this or that and go slow ie.. if a sub has never tried something and is hesitant maybe just one or two to begin, let her sleep on it that night who knows she may find she wants to try more the next day and be willing to go further or she may not have liked it at all and it may be a hard limit.

In all relationships there has to be compromise for things to work out or the relationship is doomed.

Interestingly i watch and episode of the honeymooners today and Ralph had tickets to a concert or something given to him from his boss and came home showed them to Alice and they were both excited to go. After Ralph said they were for that very same evening and Alice said she could not go because it was that night her mother was coming to spend the night. Ralph of course being Ralph got upset said you mean you choose your mother over going to see this concert you always said you wanted to go see..... anyhow sort of a similar situation a relationship a situation where there must be understanding of the others situation. A compromise was made Ralph went out with Norton to see the show and Alice stayed home to be with her mother.

You also cannot take a woman out of a vanilla situation and expect her to become full fledged masochist over night. You have to have understanding to begin with of what she enjoys and does not enjoy and build onto her desires and help them to grow. ie.. one part of a woman's body is not the same as the next some areas are more tender than others and can be different woman to woman too. The same as every woman's mind is different. I actually watched a vid on the net a few weeks ago and was shocked that a woman did not like the cane on her butt but preferred it on her back. i found that a bit strange but oh well to each their own.

Final point if you cannot grow together you will most likely grow apart.

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